- Ooh!
- You made a mistake, girl.
You made a mistake.
- You did, you did, I told you.
(upbeat music)
- We have been together for thirteen years.
We wanna try to go on a date with other people
without getting in trouble, so John and I both,
we decided to do a casting call on our Instagram.
Whoever wanted to go on a date with John,
who wanted to go on a date with me.
- Now mind you, they had to agree to these dates.
It wasn't like I could just reach out and just grab anybody.
- Yeah, and they had to be like for sure
attracted to us, you know.
A lot of people might think that this really, really weird,
because it really is, like why we're doing this.
But I think it's really fun.
I mean we've been together for a long time.
We just wanted to know what dating was like today.
- She's gonna pick her date for me,
and I'm gonna pick the guy I want for her.
- We do love each other a lot, but this is really fun.
This is supposed to be a fun experiment not like,
oh my gosh, we're gonna leave each other after, right?
- Yeah, right, definitely, totally.
- [Tam] I'm going to pick Christie for John
because she's super, super adventurous.
She scuba dives, she's always outdoors.
She's very fierce and she has that extra sauce
that could bring to John's life.
- I don't even know what to say.
- Nice to meet you!
- Oh my god, I don't even wanna let your hand go.
- Very nice to meet you.
- It's nice to meet you too.
- How are you?
- Trying not to stare.
(both laugh)
- Didn't tell me she was gonna give me the Tomb Raider.
(both laugh)
- [John] I'm going to choose Somlit For Tam
because he seems like he is very, very passionate,
poetic, and it seems like he takes his fashion
very seriously and he can also dance
and he has a killer bod which I do not have.
(John laughs)
- You look great today.
- Thank you, thank you.
- Love your hat.
- Oh, thank you.
- It's cute.
- Thank you.
- It's cute.
- I like your outfit, too.
- Oh, thank you.
It's a little chilly in L.A., so you know, is what it is.
Yeah so.
- What do you like to do for fun?
- I scuba dive.
- You scuba dive?
- Yeah.
- Uh oh, I'm already intrigued.
We got a warrior princess, oh my god.
- What made you respond to my casting
like looking for a date?
- Well of course you're cute.
Second, I really just, watching you it just seemed like
I enjoy your personality.
You're really bubbly. - Oh, thank you.
- Thought I'd give it a try.
- So have you ever like dated an Asian girl before?
- Yeah.
- Well you are my first Asian like date, like ever.
Are you only into Asian girls?
- No, no, of course not.
I think it's really more just about like connection
and just you know, how you vibe with a person.
- Why are you on a date if you have a girlfriend?
- Oh man, so we always get these like,
in these little funny conversations like you know,
these little debates about oh you know,
how would it be dating somebody else?
Cause I've never been with another woman before.
- Really?
Was she your first girlfriend?
- First girlfriend, first everything.
- No way!
- I mean, she's had boyfriends before,
but like I mean, as far as anything else beyond that,
I've been the first everything.
- Oh my god.
- I might be in the market for a side chick, you up for it?
- Am I?
(John laughs)
- We'll meet her, we'll meet her.
What if I like her better than you?
- Oh.
- What's your favorite thing to do, like do you?
- I love photography actually.
- Really?
- Yeah, I love photography.
- No way.
- I'm from Florida.
- Are you serious?
- Yeah, are you from Florida?
- Yeah, I'm from Tampa.
- We're like not that far from each other.
- Really?
Wait, wait, you're from Orlando?
- Yeah.
- Oh my god, that's like two hours away.
- How long have you been in L.A.?
- I've been in L.A. for about five years now.
I came out here to pursue the arts, acting.
I'm actually a photographer by trade as well.
- Oh wow, so we have a lot more in common then.
- That's right.
- If you don't mind me asking, why are you sitting here?
- Well cause she posted a photo of you
and I'm like, he's hot.
I gotta go meet him.
- Really, you think so?
- Yeah, yeah!
Like what do you mean?
- I try, you know.
- Why are you single?
Cause you're so handsome, you have a great smile,
you have a great personality.
- Well, thank you.
- You have kind of like a full package.
- I'm single by choice.
I wanna focus on my career and my goals at this time.
And now I just wanna really propel myself
so that way like, not only for my future,
but for whoever's future I'm with.
- So what happens if she ends up with the guy
that she goes on the date with?
Now you're getting scared, huh?
- I ain't gonna get scared, man.
He ain't gonna be better than me, man.
I got tenure, I got tenure.
(Somlit and Tam laugh)
I have to ask, have you ever
stolen a man out of a relationship?
- Yes.
(John gasps)
- It was not like purposely.
He had a girlfriend at the time,
and him and I just became best friends,
like we just clicked.
Like emotionally, physically, well no, not physically.
- Oh, okay. - No, not physically.
Emotionally and mentally we clicked.
- That's bad for him, I won't pass judgment you know.
- When you came out on this date,
were you kinda like hoping that
you would look for something else
that's different from John or like,
obviously besides being Asian, you know?
- I think John is the perfect boyfriend.
Our biggest problem is that we fight
because he's too nice.
I need someone to be able to say no
when it's time to say no, you know.
Like I'm a pushover too, I'm super, super nice,
but he's nice to the point where
like the whole world would take advantage of him, you know.
We were raised like, you know.
- We were immigrants.
- Right, and you were taught like to, you know like--
- Refugees, trying to get that.
- Right, you're a refugee too.
- Uh huh.
- We were taught how to like gamble,
and like win and negotiate.
So many people take advantage of him
and then we just collide, like that's our biggest problem.
And then we just argue and argue and argue,
because it's just so hard to date someone
and be with someone for 13 years
and have everyone in his life like take advantage of him.
- I have to ask you the question.
- What is the question?
- Why are you guys not married?
- Oh my god, I knew that was coming!
- 13 years, why are you not proposing to her?
- It's not a matter of why am I not.
It's a matter of why I haven't.
I'm like probably the master procrastinator.
It's never gonna be the right time and I know that you know,
but every time it seems like it's the right time,
something falls in front of it and it's just like,
oh my god, I gotta pay this bill,
I gotta do this, I gotta do that.
And then every time we have these conversations,
and we have debates all the time like,
you know she's a very humble girl.
- Yeah.
- She's a very simple woman, she always says,
I want a $100 ring, it doesn't matter,
it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter.
And it's just like, but I wanna give you the world.
Every time it's like, oh okay, I saved up enough money.
And then something happens and then I just gotta
spend all that money again and then I have to like
kind of recuperate, and that's just been happening
over and over and over again, but then
I start to realize that dude, it's 13 years.
Either do it now or she gonna leave you.
- My parents want me to marry John, and it's like,
what's stopping us, you know? - That's awesome.
- But what's stopping us?
Is he missing out on what his dream girl is?
Or am I missing out an Asian guy?
- Wait, wait, so do your parents want you
to marry an Asian guy like from when you were young?
- It was really hard for my parents to accept John,
but they accepted after like four years.
And now they like love, love, love him, like more than me.
- Really?
- They would be scared if I lost him.
- This was nothing short of spectacular.
I had an amazing time.
- I had an amazing time, too.
- I'm so enlightened, like it's crazy.
- Yes! Can we hug it out?
- Oh, give me a hug.
It was nice meeting you.
- It was nice meeting you too.
- I'll see you some day.
- Well I think you did good.
- Well this was definitely different for me.
Thank you for being here.
- Thank you, thank you for having me.
(Tam laughs)
- Thank you for coming. - Yes.
- You're a good hugger too, you're not one of those
weird huggers that like just like taps you.
- Oh.
- And I can feel your muscles when you hug me,
so that's really good.
- Yeah. - You have a really nice body.
- I had a really great time, like I mean
the things that we talked about.
We didn't really get all ethereal with it.
You know, we kinda just scratched the surface
about you know just family, just covering the basics.
And y'all talked about something that
was little bit more, more deeper.
- I didn't know what to talk about.
- Passionate like, I mean that literally goes to show
our personality, how we connect with other people, you know.
And it's always gonna be like that.
You can have a connection with this guy,
I can have a connection with this girl,
but you know at the same time,
it's good that we experienced these type of things.
- I actually appreciate you more
and I honestly think that I love you more.
- That's exactly what this experiment was for.
- Yeah.
- So we can learn things about not only ourselves,
but about other people and experiencing other people
and the way they do relationships,
we can incorporate that into our own relatonship.
- [Tam] So if we were to fight, would you hit her up
and be like, hey, let's hangout and then?
Things go wrong when people hangout with each.
- [John] I don't know man, I mean
I might be in the market for a side chick, you know.
You never know what might happen.
- [Tam] Yeah.
(John laughs)