TOUGH
TOUGH TIMES FOR THAT BUT GOOD FOR THEM AND ALL THE OTHERS WHO ARE ABSOLUTELY ALL RIGHT
BETWEEN QUARANTINING AND OTHER
STRUGGLES RELATED TO COVID
THOUGH THE PAST YEAR HAS BEEN
TOUGH ON PEOPLE WHO ALREADY
FOUND IT. A LOT OF COUPLES
ABSOLUTELY MARRIED GOING
THROUGH A RELATIONSHIP IN THE
SAME SPACE ALL THE TIME. A LOT
OF TOGETHER TIME ISN'T IT?
WELL, HERE TO HELP US SHARE
SOME ADVICE FOR COUPLES THIS
RABBI MANNA'S FRIEDMAN, THE
AUTHOR OF A BOOK CALLED THE JOY
INTIMACY A SOULFUL GUIDE TO
LOVE SEXUALITY AND MARRIAGE.
RABBI, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR
JOINING US. YOU KNOW THIS IS
SUCH AN UNUSUAL TIME. WHAT IS
THE BIGGEST PROBLEM FOR COUPLES
DEALING WITH THIS PANDEMIC?
COUPLES THAT ARE TOGETHER
ALREADY THERE'S THE PROBLEM
RIGHT? THEY'RE THERE. THEY'RE
TOGETHER ALL DAY. THAT'S IT
ACTUALLY IN SO MANY INSTANCES
IT HAS BEEN VERY GOOD FOR
COUPLES AS YOU WERE REPORTING
BECAUSE WHAT HAPPENED AS A
RESULT OF THE PANDEMIC, PEOPLE
HAD TO LOOK A LITTLE DEEPER
THAN WHAT WE WERE CONVINCED
MILLETE CALLING LOVE BECAUSE I
HATE TO SAY THIS BUT LOVE HAS
BECOME A BIG PROBLEM. WHAT DO
YOU MEAN BY THAT? WHY IS LOVE
BECOME A BIG PROBLEM AND HOW
CAN WE SOLVE OK SEE WHAT
HAPPENED IS LOVE BECAME ABOUT
THINGS I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT
YOU. I JUST DON'T NEED YOU SO
LOVE HAS BECOME A THING AND
THAT KEEPS PEOPLE SEPARATE
RATHER THAN ALLOWING THEM TO
BOND. SO WHAT SHOULD LOVE BE IF
IT'S NOT A THING? I AGREE WITH
YOU BY THE WAY HERE'S HERE'S
THE PROBLEM LOVE AND SEX USED
TO PRODUCE INTIMACY AND
INTIMACY MEANS THE ABILITY THAT
PEOPLE HAVE TO MILLETE BLEND
AND DISSOLVE INTO EACH OTHER TO
BECOME ONE. BUT WHAT HAPPENED
SINCE THE 60S, YOU KNOW, WITH
FREE LOVE, FREE LOVE MEN LOVE
WITHOUT INTIMACY, SEX WITHOUT
INTIMACY, JUST CASUAL JUST
ABOUT SOMETHING. SO IF I'M
LOOKING FOR SOMETHING I CAN GET
FROM YOU I'M NOT REALLY MARRIED
TO YOU AND THAT LEAVES ME AND
YOU FEELING ALONE IN THE WORLD
AND THERE'S THE CRISIS. SO
THERE'S NO REAL INTIMACY THERE.
SO WHAT'S THE PATH HOW TO
COUPLES FIND OUT REAL INTIMACY.
OK, SO A QUICK EXAMPLE IF I
WERE TO SAY MARRAGE I WANT TO
MARRY YOU FOR YOUR MONEY THAT
WOULD BE OFFENSIVE RIGHT? YES.
SO I'M LEAD THE SKY'S MESSAGE.
IT'S REALLY SAYING CAN I JUST
HAVE THE MONEY? YOU KNOW, DO I
HAVE TO MARRY YOU TO GET THE
MONEY? I JUST WANT THE MONEY IF
I HAVE TO MARRY YOU I'LL MARRY
YOU. BUT IT WOULD BE SO MUCH
BETTER IF YOU WOULD JUST GIVE
ME THE MONEY NOW THE SAME THING
IS TRUE WITH LOVE AND SEX. I
WANT TO MARRY YOU FOR LOVE. I
LOVE YOU. YOU LOVE ME. IT'S
WONDERFUL SO I MARRY YOU FOR
THE LOVE AND I DISCOVER THAT
YOU HAVE OPINIONS, YOU HAVE
MOODS, YOU HAVE NEEDS. YOU HAVE
A PERSONALITY. I DIDN'T MARRY
YOU FOR THAT. I MARRIED YOU FOR
THE LOVE. I BET YOU HAVE A LOT
MORE TO SAY ON YOUR PROGRAM. I
AM CALLED THE JOY OF INTIMACY.
HERE'S WHAT I CAN DO I CAN
APPOINT PEOPLE TO YOUR WEBSITE.
WHAT IS YOUR WEBSITE PEOPLE CAN
GO TO FOR A LITTLE BIT MORE
INFORMATION. IT'S GOOD TO KNOW
DOUG AND THE BOOK IS THE JOY
OF INTIMACY DOUG THE BOOK IS
THE JOY OF INTIMACY AND YOU
ALSO OFFERED FREE ONLINE FOR
PEOPLE AS WELL, CORRECT?