Mindset is the reason why your diet isn't working,
and this is how we're gonna solve it.
So diet is one of those things
where people always looking for a new diet.
And I often tell people that it's not a better diet
that they need, they just need to stick to the diet
that they're already using on their own
and they need to stop eating junk.
But often what gets in the way of people
and their diet is their mind frame.
Now, most people have heard
of the be-do-have formula for success.
Now if you haven't heard of it, that's okay.
I'm gonna write it at the top, Be plus Do equals Have.
Be is who you're being on a day-to-day basis.
So it's related to the area of health and fitness.
So are you being a healthy person?
Are you doing daily actions that make you healthy?
So it's who you become,
the person who is, does the actions.
So for example, if you are a healthy person,
if you act that out every day,
if you like training, if you like physical activity,
then those actions that are gonna flow from that
are gonna be that, you're probably gonna go to the gym,
you're gonna do your grocery shopping,
and that you're gonna prepare healthy food.
From doing those things,
from being that person who is healthy
and enjoys training and physical exercise,
you do the actions, if you plus those together,
you get a result, you get the have.
You have a great body, you have great energy.
Likewise, if you're someone who is unhealthy,
then the actions that that person does is they might smoke,
they might drink, they don't put any time
or care into shopping and also food preparation.
Now as a result, if you plus those two things together,
you get a very different outcome.
Now, I love the be-do-have formula,
but there is another level to this that I love even more,
and that's The Pyramid of Change,
which was taught to me by a friend of mine, Duane Alley.
Now, at the base of this pyramid, we have our environment.
So I want you to think of the environment
as basically your have, right?
So the top of the pyramid, we have our identity,
then below that and also making up the the Be aspect
is our beliefs and values.
So if we put a cap around those two, that is our Be.
Now the Do aspect, Do is a very interesting one.
Because often people,
it does rely somewhat on your skills and skill sets.
So for example, if you don't know how to cook,
then preparing food is gonna be pretty hard.
You might wanna cook,
but you don't know actually how to cook,
which then prevents you from cooking
or cooking tasty meals that you actually wanna eat,
and then you realize, well, that's too hard.
I'm just gonna go ahead and buy it,
which then prevents you from getting the results.
So this aspect is made upon two things,
which is your skills and skillsets,
and ultimately those skills and skillsets
translates into behavioral change.
And so that's your Do aspect.
Now, let's break this up even a little bit further.
So with identity,
it's often a label that we give ourselves.
So we might say that I am a healthy person,
or we might say, I am a personal trainer,
or I am a businessperson, or I am an entrepreneur,
or I'm a mother, I'm a father.
With these labels always comes a connotation
or a stereotype which often creates
an invisible prison for us.
So let's just say, for example, I'm an entrepreneur.
So as an entrepreneur,
I'm gonna prioritize business over my health,
getting stuff done over sleep.
So in that, you need to create space to be healthy
and to see how health translates
to you doing work more effectively.
To being a better business owner, to being more creative,
to helping you structure your day
so that you actually find time
and can actually produce and look after your business,
but also look after yourself.
And you can apply this to anything.
whatever the statement I am into,
whatever that statement is that you identify with,
it ultimately keeps you trapped.
You know, identities can be very empowering
or they can be very disempowering,
or sometimes they need that.
They just keep us stuck to a certain way.
But what comes out of an identity is our beliefs and values.
Now values are usually derived from our voids.
So what we seek as missing what we see as missing
from our voids, we create our values.
Once something becomes valuable to us,
or we deem it as valuable as the way
that that's the way people should act
is we derive our judgments.
So I'll give you an example, same event,
two different perspectives.
Let's say you're working at a gym.
If you go for after work drinks, why would you do that?
That's viewed as something very negative.
You don't drink alcohol after work, you don't need to drink.
You go to the gym after work, you train hard.
You look after yourself, you eat right.
In corporate culture, after work drinks are encouraged.
If you don't go to after work drinks in corporate culture,
then you're being antisocial.
You don't wanna get to know the team.
You're not one of us, same thing,
but the value and the judgment of it
is very different based on a healthy view of the gym person
versus the corporate culture.
So from our identity of what we identify as,
we derive judgments, we label them as good as bad.
It was John Mayer in his song "Belief"
where he wrote the lyric,
"Belief makes for the most beautiful armor,
"but for the heaviest sword."
So what that basically means I think it's a beautiful line
that really, for me, encapsulates beliefs,
is that beliefs protects us.
That beliefs protect us from the world.
If you say I'm a vegan, then you put on this beautiful armor
that people say, Oh, you know veganism isn't scientific
and all this kind of stuff, it protects you,
but also makes for a heavy sword that you're not really able
to fight a good argument back to that
because you're so entrenched in this belief,
it doesn't really serve as a weapon.
And obviously you can look at religions across the world
around beliefs, where they've,
people ascribe themselves to a belief system
and it creates an invisible prison
for the way they think about certain issues,
which then does also transcend into their identity.
So beliefs and values is certainly around the Be aspect.
Now in this video, and obviously I'm not in the business
of trying to make you change your religion
or any of that kind of stuff
but what I do want you to use your belief and identity
is around your health and fitness
and identifying yourself as a healthy person
who eats healthy foods that builds and nourishes your body.
So downward from beliefs and values,
we have our skills and skillsets.
So this is where often like at skills and skillsets level,
you might see the fat personal trainer
or the fat nutritionist or the overweight naturopath.
You might say, well, they know all the skills and skillsets,
they have the tools,
why aren't they getting the results?
Why aren't they using those results?
And usually the answer to that is there's usually a belief
in value or an identity shift
that needs to take place in their own psyche
to actually use and utilize those skills and skillsets.
The thing with change,
is change will always flow down the pyramid,
seldomly ever flow up the pyramid.
So in saying that we certainly wanna focus
on skills and skillsets because that is gonna be
the capacity or the roof or the ceiling rather,
of which our behaviors are gonna reach to.
Again, I use the example
inside of this video about cooking.
If you have the skills and skillsets
to prepare your own food, that is gonna give you
a higher likelihood to create a positive behavior
that is gonna get reinforced because ultimately
we like doing behaviors that we're good at
and also get rewarded by.
So skills and skillsets, it behooves you to learn things
around shopping, training, nutrition, supplementation,
so you can do those things.
And coz that's gonna then be in the Do aspect,
that's going to flow onto your behaviors.
That's gonna enable the positive behaviors
of what to do and those behaviors ultimately,
if we just work with someone on a behavioral level,
it can be very superficial
and this is why I don't just like working on behaviors.
Because if you look at behaviors on their own,
it's really just saying to someone,
do a whole list of different things or behaviors
and our environment can kind of flow into each other.
If you take an example of The Biggest Loser.
The Biggest Loser, hit TV show, people would often,
well, you take people with very unhealthy behaviors
and environments, you take them out of one environment
and you put them into another,
which is contrived and controlled
with controlled amounts of food, starvation,
all these kinds of excessive training.
And it's just, it's purely an environmental shift.
Now in that environmental shift,
people obviously lose weight and they lose body fat
and they get a result.
But often I don't know if you've seen it,
but there was a lawsuit a little while ago
where the participants sued the production team
for putting the weight back on
once they got into the real world.
So what I would say,
I'm not here to make a judgment on that,
but what I would say on that is that's a classic example
of taking someone just working on the environment
without addressing someone's identity.
And that's ultimately when you take that person
and you just plop them inside a different environment
and you force them to change,
they're gonna change to a degree.
But when you take them out of that environment
and put them back into their own environment,
if you haven't changed the hardware inside of here,
inside of their brain, they're gonna go back
to doing what they know how to do
because you haven't changed an identity.
You haven't changed the beliefs and values.
You haven't given them new skill sets,
which then transitions to behaviors,
which then creates a new environment.
So again, key concept here is at the top of the pyramid,
the identity, the beliefs and values is our Be aspect.
We've gotta become the person who is healthy,
that enjoys training, that eats healthy foods
that build and nourish our body that makes us energized.
The Do aspect is the skills and behaviors.
The skills and skill sets and behaviors
that gets us to do the right actions to do those actions.
It's not just about doing those actions
for one or two days or a couple of weeks.
You want the fuel to do those actions
for the rest of your life.
And that's where the Be,
you need to plus that Be in with the Do.
When you do those two and you continue to do those two
without necessarily looking for a "reward" so to speak,
you're gonna have the result.
You're gonna have the change in your environment.
You can put this formula over any area, any aspect of life,
this success formula, basically.
And you'll see that it makes sense on so many levels.
My name is Mark Ottobre,
Owner and Founder of Enterprise Fitness.
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Till I see you on the next video, make sure you train hard,
eat well and supplement smart.
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