I decided to pick up and start doing cocaine
so I could stay up all night long.
Ashley says ever since she moved back in
with her mother Wendy,
the arguing has been brutal.
Things have even gotten violent.
Wendy, but you're the mother here
and your response has been she pushed me to this point.
It's always about her and your reaction
to what she does.
But as a mother you have to be proactive.
And when you're upset you have to find
other ways to cope with those emotions,
so now why are you so angry?
I don't know that I'm angry anymore, I'm hurt.
Because she will, as much as she doesn't understand,
everything I've ever done for her,
I've never gotten a thank you.
That's not true.
And she knows I'm the only one
who's ever had her back, ever.
Her thing is instead of coming to me
and discussing it, she packs up and takes off
and then uses Facebook and everything else
to say oh, well, she kicked me out again,
who's got a room for me.
After I pay for boyfriend's cars
and put up her boyfriends who have
records and everything else and give them
a chance and then she wants to sit there
and talk disrespectful to me
and treat me like I am third class citizen
in a fourth world country.
Yeah, mom, but hold on mom,
but were you paying for her boyfriends to make
amends to all the damage that you've done
to your relationship.
No, I do that to try to keep a smile on her face.
There's two boyfriends, up until this point
that I have ever lived with.
The first one was was 15.
He didn't live with us.
He did not live with us.
He lived in the house next door.
My grandmother's old house.
Her house, he lived there.
But still it was right next door.
Well, when was the last time
you ever said to your mother thanks for
letting us live here, I really appreciate it.
When's the last time you ever did
anything nice for your mother?
'Cause I'm getting a little tired
of everybody beating up on mom
and it seems like you're sitting there and unloading.
It's been a while.
I'm not condoning your physical abuse
that you're fighting and all that.
And that pushes me.
She pushes me and I understand I can't use
that as an excuse.
But you're still saying that she pushes you.
It's not like you have a lot of resentment.
Do you feel like you've sacrificed a lot
in your life for you.
I have sacrificed a lot.
I think I take the resentment out on her
because I have been left with such a big plate.
Yes.
I do not get not one second of time to myself
and I haven't since my mother passed away in 2009.
Right.
When I go to sleep, that's like my time,
but I have a 55-year-old sister
who I constantly have to do things for.
She can't be left alone.
She cannot read, write, dial a phone.
She other day, last Thursday I took her to work,
had these two and everybody wants to fight.
My sister pecks at him, he picks at her,
and I'm constantly finding myself
screaming and yelling.
Last Thursday I got up and my chest was so tight
from all the stress that I just can't do anymore
and I honestly, we went and dropped her off
and I went and took my blood pressure,
my blood pressure was through the roof,
it was 147/92 and I want straight
to the pharmacist and said
am I gonna have a heart attack,
do I need to go to the hospital.
Also adding to the stress
you also feel that you're helping her raise her son.
I am.
Yeah, I'm the one who disciplines.
I'm the one who raises him.
I'm the one who's singing ABCs to him.
I'm the one doing all that.
When she's sitting at home on her phone
and it just gets me to that point
and I scream bloody murder.
Or at the bar, right?
She goes to the bar and leaves the kid.
Sunday, came in, oh, he's asleep.
Alyssa called.
I go hang out with my friends maybe
once every two weeks.
Now.
Maybe if that.
It used to be worse?
It was worse.
How often would you say she would go out?
Two, three, four times a week.
Not, that's over exaggerating.
And how old was the baby at the time
when she was going out like this?
He was little.
I'd go once a week, I'd go every Thursday.
It was all this past summer
because I decided to pick up and start
doing cocaine so I could stay up
all night long.