we are gathered here today
I truly can't believe it you guys but I am officially officiating my twin sister's wedding
in December so back in August on our birthday she gave me a birthday card and for the past few
years we've kind of done no gifts for each other like we just decided that we're not getting each
other birthday gifts anymore so I it slipped my mind and I didn't even get her a card this year
but she hands me this card and so of course I'm like I'm the worst sister sister I'm so sorry I
don't have a card for you I'll have to get you a card and she's like don't worry just open the
card I open the card and it's like kind of serious you've been so meaningful to me in my life and how
much of a role model my marriage is for hers and I was like this is a really nice birthday card and
then it said you know flip to the back I have a question that Zach and I want to ask you and the
question was will you officiate our wedding we had sort of discussed it because they are not having a
religious wedding and so they were actually having a little bit of trouble finding the right type of
person to officiate they were considering using a rabbi to officiate the wedding but because they're
getting married on a Friday night there were very few rabbis that would do it so they were having
trouble and they sort of jokingly floated the idea by me of me officiating this wedding and
I was like 100% I would love to do that for you but then I didn't really think it was real at
that time so then I opened this card and I see it and the water works it was a very emotional moment
for me I know what a special privilege this is and what an honor this is to be asked to do this
so I'm just touched I'm touched Allie and Zach I'm touched anyway I had to go through a lot of things
to get ordained so if anyone out there is looking to get ordained if you are going to officiate a
wedding and you're not currently a member of the clergy there is a pretty easy way to do it you do
need to look up the rules and regulations for I'm just talking about the United States by the way
but you need to look up the rules and regulations for the state that you live in or the state where
the wedding is going to be be taking place but basically I needed to go on the Universal Life
Church website and I needed to become ordained by just becoming a member of the clergy as a minister
of the Universal Life Church now this is like non- denominational you don't have to be any religion
literally anyone can get ordained and my documents have come in the mail I got this this is actually
a copy of it that I made and I'm going to block it out cuz it has my address on it but this was my
certificate of marriage officiant registration so I got this certificate of registration and then I
officially was sent this which is my credentials of ministry to certify that Lucinda Morris on
this day the 13th of August in the year 2023 is officially recognized as a member of the Universal
Life Church and has all rights and privileges to perform all duties of the ministry so here you go
I'm ordained this is actually a copy as you can see it's flimsy the original document had to be
sent to the city clerk's office in the state of New York I don't know I had to fill out some forms
send my actual marriage license my credentials of ministry away I'm it's unclear if I'm getting them
back but I've done it and one thing I've heard you have to make sure to do in the state is to like
make sure that you're filling out these documents correctly and that on the day of the wedding you
officially sign the right documents and you get them back to the office in your state within
the window that they need to receive it back by otherwise the marriage can be considered null I
think I'm like making things up here I don't know exactly what I'm talking about but I was sent this
book it's called by the power vested in you how to officiate wedding a guide for ordained ministers
I read this book cover to cover in 35 minutes I have to say as someone who has been to many
weddings before I knew almost everything in here aside from some of the laws and information about
making it legal and and things that are important to do and as you can see I've retained a lot of
that information because I'm sharing it with you incorrectly but this book was helpful at giving
me a pre-ceremony checklist of things that I as the officiant need to keep in mind before going
into this wedding ceremony to make it the best it can possibly be for Allie and her fiance and it
also gave me a nice list of questions to ask the couple basically before my wedding to Michael we
got married by a rabbi and the rabbi essentially did some prear counseling with us where he sent us
questions and we spoke through topics about our family's future goals and values and money and
our relationship and we felt like it was such a helpful way for not only him to get to know us so
that he could give us the best ceremony but also it was a good way for us to talk through things
that were important to discuss before marriage so I'm trying to take on that role for Allie you
know I sent them a whole questionnaire religion aside so anyway it's just very exciting and I'm
honored I'm truly honored if anyone out there has officiated a wedding and has their script
handy you know it might be helpful I feel like if I like look at other people's scripts I can
kind of pull elements that I found touching and moving and build my own for them that pulls inspo
from places so if you've got a really good script for officiating a wedding please send it to uh
Luciefink@gmail.com that would be really lovely if it's after December 1st 2023 don't bother sending
that but if it's before should over to me and I will just be eternally grateful to you this is
something I'm really excited for I'll try to keep you guys posted with how it goes and you know to
Allie and Zach's comfort I will share as much as I can about the process and what I did and what I
said but for now we're just getting very excited and I'm actually going with my sister tomorrow to
New York City to Kleinfeld where she is having her wedding dress fitting and in typical Bridal
Fashion she is not wanting to share her dress with any anyone before her wedding day so I'm not going
to be able to show you her dress but I'm going to take you along for the fitting because Kleinfeld
has given me exclusive access to their what's it called they have this room I'm going to find out
tomorrow but they have this room in Kleinfeld that is like their they do the hemming and they do the
beading and it's just like a crazy operation so I'm going to take you guys with me tomorrow and
they're giving me access to this special room so we'll check it out anyway that is what's
happening just so excited for Allie I'm so excited to do this and let's officiate a wedding together
$23,000
all right we're at Kleinfeld Allie is about to do her wedding dress fitting
in her beautiful dress I'm so excited can't wait to see her again he your dress yeah so
we've now been to Kleinfeld so many times because I got my dress here years ago our
sister-in-law Hannah who's also here got her dress here years ago and we already came for
Allie to try on dresses she already picked her dress and now we're just back to get it fitted
and it's my first fitting yeah it's our first fitting Kleinfeld is letting us go by behind
the scenes because they have this incredible Warehouse of beading and sewing where they're
doing all the alterations on people's dresses it's such an operation there are so many people
working here and they're so knowledgeable about everything wedding dress related it's incredible
and if you've ever watched Say Yes the Dress which is filmed right here in Kleinfeld you
know how busy this place gets and we're here on a Saturday so this is prime time I'm also
going to go upstairs to the main floor after we go into the alterations room and I'm is
going to see how bustling and buzzing it is today I'm sure it's exploding I'm so excited
to be here just over 2 months to go oh my gosh that's it all right well let's go to alterations
Milo can I have a paper towel please thank you
that's nice Milo do it Milo wants to do it it's too cold for you
all right I'm in my office right now and this whole wall behind me I don't know if you can see
all the holes in the wall where all the wires are coming out but this whole wall behind me
we're waiting for our millworker to have a free schedule again because he's going to come back
to our house and he's building up these floor to ceiling closets that are going to panel the
whole wall it's going to be three sets of double doors so the left and right will be double doors
that open up and we have adjustable shelving in there that's where I plan to keep all of my work
gear cameras lights lenses all that good stuff and then the middle double doors are going to open and
retract back in on themselves like this open and retract wait that was a weird way they're going to
open and retract and there's going to be a desk in there that's hidden away behind the closet doors
and basically I still am going to have a floating desk I actually ordered a new desk this is my old
desk from my old apartment and it's all scratched up and I'm going to donate it so I ordered a new
desk it's here it has not yet been assembled but I will show you that as soon as I open it and
my plan is to have this like beautiful floating desk be sitting in the middle of the room empty
clutter-free I'm not going to keep much on it I really want people to come over over and be like
wow your desk is so minimal but really when I spin around hopefully my chair won't hit the desk but
when I spin around and I open the closet doors that is where all my work stuff will be hidden
away like a desktop computer and all my papers and pens and anything I need for my work will be
in there I'm drinking you just saw me make this amazing hot cocoa drink that I am obsessed with
I don't know if I can call it hot cocoa because it's technically hot cacao I feel like when people
use the word cacao it sounds very pretentious but that's what this is this is 100% cacao and
I ordered these little like 100% cacao discs that come straight from South America and they're 100%
cacao no sugar they're really amazing if you like bitter dark chocolate which I do and I just
put them in hot water with our instant hot thing and I used the little ooh hair I used the little
whisk thing and I make this incredible afternoon drink that is so healthy for you has so many good
things in it and it's also not caffeine free but there's something about this dark chocolate this
100% cacao has this other thing in it that like neutralizes the effects of the caffeine at least
that's my understanding of it so I don't get jittery like I would with a cup of coffee and
I've had this right before bed and it thankfully does not keep me up the way coffee definitely
does just wanted to share like a little bit of my desk set up right now as is in this office things
are kind of coming together I will move back and show you like a whole view of this room so far cuz
they just hung some artwork one thing about this desk chair I love it it's so comfortable but a few
times I've been on calls with people and they've asked me if I'm at the dentist I get it it's like
a high back chair and especially with like the holes and the walls and the wires I think it looks
like I'm literally at the dentist about to get my tooth filled but I wanted to take you here because
I have been sitting here now for a few hours I'm actually editing this video that you're watching
right now like other parts of it my next plan because my parents just took Milo out to a Habachi
restaurant I'm so jealous my next plan is to work on this officiant speech and so I sent Allie and
Zach these questions like a questionnaire that our Rabbi sent us I found some of the questions in the
book that I referenced earlier in the video but I also kind of just found some online and I sent
them off so I'm waiting for their reply to my questions and once I get that I'm really going
to get started but for now what I'm doing is I'm sort of writing out some of my initial thoughts
like I'm just brain dumping I feel like this is a good start because I have a lot of thoughts
swirling around my head that I haven't put to paper in anyway so I'm just going to open up
this word document and we are brain dumping if you'd like to brain dump with me you may
so f***ing good let me show you the room first hold on here's the space so far this is a curved
sofa from Castlery I am in love with it it's so beautiful this artwork hanging over the fireplace
is my mom's custom work I have this little coffee table from West Elm this is a couch
from a company called Acorn it's like actually a little Milo couch we're not leaving it here
fulltime but this is right here while we figure out what type of accent chair we want to get I
just threw Milo's toys in a little basket to the side of the fireplace and then this is where I was
sitting so this is the wall I was talking about it will be totally paneled with closets and then
I'm not sure if I mentioned it in a previous video because I don't think I had decided on it yet but
this cutout right here we're actually putting a builtin accordion door and it's one of those
like indoor to outdoor bfold accordion doors that like collapses to one side and then closes all the
way and you can use one of the panels as just like a regular swinging door but then you can
also fold the whole thing against the wall and open up the space so I'm just going to freeze
the screen here and pop in a picture of what it's going to look like hopefully once it's all done