- Do you react quickly and flip out on your boyfriend?
Well, all you have to do is follow these five tips
to help you with how to control your emotions
when he is teasing you,
trying to cause arguments or playing games with you.
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Now, before I go over my five tips,
ladies, please remember the world is not heaven,
and people like to use others for their own advantage.
And when you share your secrets,
vulnerabilities or insecurities,
you are literally providing manipulator
with tools how to play you.
Now, without further ado,
the tip number one.
Do not take it personally.
When water is shaken,
it does not erupt.
Water is calm,
and this is exactly how you need to be.
If someone is deliberately offensive towards you
in the hope of making you either insecure or reactive,
you must simply be aware of your own actions.
For example, do not react
because the person is aware of their unkind behavior
and you have control of your response.
So in this case,
you do not take it personally
and you respond in a calm manner
rather than erupting like a shaken can of coke
which explodes everywhere.
And this is when he gets a chance to call you what?
Crazy.
Whereas if you respond calmly,
you show the other person
that you are disciplined and mature
and that you do not perform in circus.
Therefore, instead of labeling you crazy,
he starts to respect you more.
Remember the saying sticks and stones?
You are controlled and wise one,
whereas they are presented as foolish.
Number two, leave the room.
If you are early in your transition
to controlling your emotions,
you may feel the urge to clap back.
So in this instance,
you simply leave the room, why?
Because this will prevent you from saying anything
that you should not have.
Do not worry if the other person thinks they have won
because they have caused you to leave.
The fact that you have not reacted emotionally is good.
People who tend to poke others with sticks
are the ones who enjoy drama
and try to pull you down to their level.
Do not allow yourself to do this,
and leaving the room will be another way to show
that you do not perform in circus.
Number three, poker face.
If you are in a situation where you cannot leave a room
as you both are in a cabin,
airplane or car,
then I strongly suggest you present a poker face.
What does this mean?
You behave normal or you look out the window
or you go on your phone.
Ladies, note this,
when you show that you are upset with the manipulator,
it gives him satisfaction
because it shows that you care
so you keep rewarding this petty, insecure man
with your attention
and make him feel good.
Therefore, he does it more.
Whereas instead, if he pushes you further,
talk in a calm manner and respond to his comments.
So you're essentially playing along to his silly game
without giving him a reaction.
For example, if he says,
"Let me drop you home,"
after 20 minutes on a date,
you say, "Okay,"
and you let him drop you home.
If on the way,
he calls his friend
saying that he will be at their place soon,
you remain quiet and let him take you home.
Do not react.
And if there are any shops on the way home,
even better, you can ask him to drop you off there
so you can make the most of your day,
meet other people and go shopping.
This way, you are showing that his manipulations
are not affecting your day.
The result usually is
that the manipulator gets upset himself
as his game didn't work
and shows his cards in the open
by asking you why you are not upset.
Do you have any feelings for him?
Or why you don't care?
This is when you get your confirmation
that all this behavior was a plan to provoke you.
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men play on women,
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Number four, knowledge is power.
Controlling your emotions is easy
when you know the person's game book.
The majority of men have a set of games
which they use over and over again
because they worked in the past.
Once you see the game,
you won't feel the need to react
as you know it's all a game
to get your attention and reaction.
For example, one of my clients' boyfriend,
well, now an ex,
tried to bait her into chasing him,
so he started posting happy images with other girls
on a yacht on his WhatsApp status
in hope of her reacting and messaging him.
Did she?
Of course she did not
because she knew it was a game.
After this, he removed his WhatsApp picture
to give her the impression that he has blocked her.
Did she message him?
No because she clearly knew
that he wanted her to react and panic,
and of course emotions of anger,
they're there for this client,
but she kept it together
to ensure that she did not fall into his obvious trap.
The result was he put the picture back on a day later,
called her and shared a story
of how he was a model in the music video
which explained the yacht and the pics with other girls.
Now, if she would have reacted to this,
she would have looked like a fool
as she would have shown him that she doesn't trust him
and he would have labeled her as crazy,
even though he was the one that was trying to provoke her.
By having knowledge of men's games,
she was able to keep her emotions in check,
along with the support of my VIP group,
which again you can find the details of that
in my video description box below.
Number five, just laugh.
Laughter is the best medicine for this,
and let me explain why.
Whatever scenario you face,
just laugh it off
because you immediately disable the offender.
It shows that you do not take their insults
personally or seriously
and that they are in fact the clown in this situation.
You can ignore them as you're not focused
on what they are saying,
meaning they have no purpose
and will eventually learn
they cannot behave this way with you.
You do not need to verbally respond,
simply smile and give thumbs up or carry on with your day
as there is no need to waste time on drama
like the offender wants you to.
Ladies, you do not engage in a verbal mess,
you simply leave it along as you have better things to do
with your time.
Remember, high value women do not perform in circus.
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how to stay attractive via text,
games men play on women,
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