You have chosen to be homeless.
Not really.
But I've been staying with friends.
The friends you meet at the Facebook.
Total strangers are friends, right?
Um, I don't really feel comfortable
with him being here.
Okay, but you're not running this, I am.
So-- Right yeah.
I understand.
So, I have a question here.
Why are you not taking care of your personal hygiene?
I am.
That's his opinion.
I mean, what issues-- When was the last time
you had a bath or a shower?
About yesterday, pretty much.
So, yeah.
And where was this?
At the hotel we were staying at.
And were you there when this took place?
We had separate rooms.
Her idea of a shower is not a shower.
What's your idea of a shower?
Getting in the water and what most people
would consider a shower, I guess.
Uh huh.
She just, it tends to mean-- How often do you shower?
About once every other few days?
But I mean--
That's not true.
I'm not really comfortable with him being here, so--
There's some behind you there.
So you need to either leave that
or take it with you, one of the two.
Okay, that's fine.
I'm not surprised.
Yeah.
In my opinion, she's either lying to herself
or she's actually delusional.
(clapping) There are times when family
members can get to a point that
they're really beyond you loving them out of
the problems that they have.
There just comes time where the problems get
so complex, so layered and so deep
that you've gotta call in reinforcements.
You've gotta get professional help.
You know, we try to support people.
We try to love people.
We try to help them where they can overcome obstacles
or dig themselves out of holes.
But then there are times where it actually rises
to the level of a mental illness.
Here's the thing.
I think that you are experiencing a lot of anxiety
that's expressing itself in a lot of different ways.
There is a place here in California,
in Pasadena, California that's called Las Encinas
and it is a private hospital
and this is a place that provides medically supervised
patient-centered treatment approach.
The reason I don't feel like that's too necessary
is because I thought that she,
she's the one, if anything, has told me to just
sometimes either just go on the street
or she has told me to live with friends.
She's not a professional.
She's a mother.
Because what I'm doing is offering a healthy,
therapeutic, supportive environment
to give her a restart in her life.
And I'm gonna ask that you at least go over there,
meet them, and take a look around.
Will you do that?
Um...
I don't know.
Right now, probably not. Okay, well that offer,
that offer expires today.
And at that point, you need to not be in denial.
You need to reach out and get professional help
and maybe it starts with your family doctor,
general practitioner.
Maybe it starts with seeing a counselor at your church.
Maybe it starts with your neighborhood corner
psychologist or whatever.
But when you are faced with that,
it doesn't get better with time, it gets worse.
So, act on it quickly because habits have a way
of entrenching themselves and the longer people
live that way, the harder it is for them to redefine things.
So, if you're in that situation where you're just not
living in a functional way or somebody in your family
is not, acknowledge it.
Reach out, get help for it.
Don't let days turn into weeks,
weeks turn into months or months turn into years
while somebody wastes away their life energy.
Get the help you need.
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