- I actually was thinking about
the very first time I met you.
- When was it?
- I'm gonna say somewhere around 10 years ago.
- Yeah. - It was at
the Sunset Tower Hotel
for The Daily. - [Tan] Oh.
- [Gigi] The award show, yeah. - The award show.
And you were winning, like,
(Tan laughs)
basically, like, goddess in shell, Venus de Milo.
- Yeah. Person of the year.
Yeah. (laughs) (audience laughing)
- And I'll never forget your speech
because you said,
"My mom taught me that there will always be
other fish in the sea
and if I don't act appropriately, act humble,
- Yeah. - act grateful,
then, not only do I not deserve this,
but there's no way to carry on."
- Yeah. - And I was so taken by that.
- Oh, thank you.
No, I mean, I think that it's really important.
I'm very grateful for the life
that I've come from and both my parents
worked really hard to give me that,
so I try to be myself
and try to show, you know,
people why I deserve to be there.
- Can I add to this? - Please.
- If that was 10 years ago,
I'm telling you, she still lives it.
After five years of knowing her,
she's still that person every day.
Truly, like, the kindest - [Gigi] Thank you, Tan
and Drew. - [Tan] person you will meet.
- In fact, you two met for the first time.
I actually have a snapshot of this story.
(audience applauds)
And that's Eva Chen. (Tan laughs)
- And that's Eva Chen.
So, I, like the rest of the world,
fell in love with Tan
and the Fab Five - [Tan] Thanks.
- when "Queer Eye" came out and-
(audience cheering and clapping)
- [Tan] Thanks. - Yeah.
And Eva Chen, who I'm friends with,
head of Instagram, had Tan at her office
and I was like, this is my chance.
Like, I saw it on her stories
and like, I'm just gonna FaceTime.
It was clearly, like, nine in the morning
and like, a Saturday. - Yeah.
- And we just, like,
hit it off. - Hit it off.
- And I was like, will you come to my house right now?
(audience laughing)
- [Tan] Yeah. - And?
- [Gigi] And they came over. - I came over. So-
- That's right. There was an interview.
- It's what all of America deserved,
but I just got that. I took it, you know what I mean?
I ran with it. - [Tan] It was (indistinct).
- Listen, go after what you want and need
in the world. - And look at me now.
I manifested this.
- That's what you have to do! (audience applauds)
- I know. I know.
Never would I have believed that this is
how this was gonna turn out.
I was like, okay, - No.
- we'll be casual friends
for a little while and then she'll get over it
and she'll never talk to me again.
- [Gigi] And then we became best friends.
- Yeah. - And then-
And thank God we like working together
'cause it could have - Love.
- gone really bad, right? - Yeah.
- You never know what kind of chemistry.
- You've probably had friends that, like,
you love and then you work with them
and you're like...
- Oh, you're not great.
- [Drew] I- (audience laughing)
- Name names
is what we're saying. - Not gonna name names.
I'm not saying names names. - Right.
- I'm just saying (Tan laughs)
would you understand that concept?
- It's funny, most of my friendships
have come from
we work together first. - [Gigi] First.
- [Tan] Oh. - [Gigi] And you respect
them as, yeah. - So it's-
- [Gigi] In that setting first.
- I don't tend to- - It's a gamble.
- Yeah. - It really is a gamble.
It can ruin a relationship. - It is a gamble when you
buddy up because everyone
I'm really good friends with
are so close with their family.
Like, we started working together
and then grew a family from that.
So we didn't have that-
- It's happened to me the other way
where I've - [Drew] And what did you do?
- been friends with someone first
and then worked with them and I just
- [Drew] Realized. - Yeah, it kind of fizzled
after that when I saw them,
'cause at work-
- How does one skirt out
of a partnership with a friend?
- It kind of naturally was-
- You phase 'em out.
- Yeah. It was naturally, like,
fading anyways, probably for, like,
similar reasons, you know? - [Drew] Right.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - Right?
- You're like, with the writings on the wall,
I'll just let the invisible ink come apparent.
- Yeah. Because you can spend
two hours with somebody and it's great.
Spend two weeks with them, it's horrible.
- Spend 17 hour days with them.
- Yeah. It's rough.
- So you come to her house.
What are you talking about with them?
- Well, it was three of us.
So it was actually Antoni's-
- [Drew] The fab three.
- [Gigi] Yeah. - Yes.
It was Antoni's birthday that day
and we were meant to go out for lunch
for his birthday and I said,
Ant, look, Gigi Hadid just called.
And we had only been in entertainment
for three weeks, so we didn't know anyone.
And we're like, Gigi Hadid just called
and she's invited us to her house.
I know I'm meant to take you out for your birthday,
but do you wanna go to Gigi's house instead?
He was like, uh-huh, (Gigi and audience laughing)
we should, we should
definitely do that. - And now Antoni's
one of my best friends
and my neighbor. - Yeah.
- Isn't it amazing to have
these gentlemen in this world (Tan and audience laughing)
- Yes. - and in this life
to help us navigate. - And you.
- People like you and mostly
the Fab five though. - It's so nice.
- Look at us. Look what - That's so nice.
- you've done for us. - It's true.
We're human beings who need - You're so welcome.
- to figure out how to live a life
and you guys have great advice - America, you're so welcome.
(audience laughing and applauding)
- This is why-
- That's so nice.
That's so nice.
Thanks for that. - And you both have children.
- Yeah. - We do have babies
that are, like, eight months apart.
Obsessed.
- [Gigi] Obsessed with them. - [Tan] Obsessed.
- [Gigi] Obsessed with them. - Did becoming a parent-
Like, everything changed for me.
I didn't know how to work anymore.
I didn't know how to be myself anymore.
I didn't know how to be my other self,
which I was like, are there two of me?
One is a work person, one's a-
- [Tan] The answer's yes. - Just the person at home
and no, I think they're the same person.
But now, my heart is completely focused
on kids and parenthood,
so I don't feel like I can work the same way,
but I've been on a track my whole life.
I don't know how to get off.
I don't wanna get off
but I need to do things differently,
because number one priority is now my kid.
- [Tan] Not us, yeah. - Yeah.
- How was it for you guys?
(audience applauds)
- How was it for you?
- I think that it really-
I mean, I was pregnant during Covid,
which was a interesting, strange,
but lovely- - Was it stressful
because, like, I just wonder, like-
I was-
- [Gigi] There was two sides to it.
- Right.
- There was, like, I loved that
I was able to really have my pregnancy
be private and very peaceful.
And obviously, I got to stop working
a lot earlier than I would have
if Covid hadn't hit.
And, but then, the other side was like,
especially towards the end,
when, like, you get in your head,
like, am I good enough for this?
And like, you start to, like, nest
and you're obsessed with like-
It would've been nice to, like,
get out of the house and be with friends
and be able to, like, go to lunch
or like, just, you know, do other things.
- Or maybe not having the we might all die looming in the-
- [Gigi] Yeah, that too. - You know, just that-
- Also, like, just like, don't touch anything.
I was a crazy pregnant- - Yeah.
- Like, I would go to the grocery store
and then everything home, on the ground
and then from the ground, wipe it down.
Then on the counter.
But then, I think it really kind of
made me focus on what would help me feel stable
in my work environment. - [Drew] I noticed
that you, like- - And maybe you feel this way
with this show.
- Consistency. - Yeah.
- Like, you and I have this great ability
to be adaptable.
You're going to this place tomorrow. Great.
- You show up on this set, you get to know everyone.
You understand how they work,
how they want to be, like, creatively, you know,
how they communicate. - Like, this job to me
felt like stability. - Yes.
- And I feel like- - I call it my office job.
- It is our office job. - Yes!
- My office job! - That's exactly it.
- Get to go to the same place every day,
see the same people, there's no,
like, small talk in morning,
like, how's your daughter.
- [Drew] And it doesn't go away.
- My birthday, you know,
how many kids they have every day,
like, a new group of people.
So this was really nice.
- This was my first job, working with Gigi,
after we had a baby also.
So it was so humbling, stabilizing,
and it helped me settle into,
oh, you can be a really strong parent,
but also be a really strong employee
who can have both worlds.
I didn't wanna give up my career.
And I didn't wanna give up being a parent.
- Do you see how eloquent he is?
- No, he's amazing. - It's just,
we're all like (shouting incoherently)
and he's like, - He's teaching me so much.
- well, this is it. (Tan and audience laughing)
- [Tan] Here's the thing- - [Gigi] To pause.
- I learned so much about being a parent from G.
- Really?
- Did I not text you a thousand times saying,
what would you do in this situation?
When I came to your house, I was like,
I can't get my baby - That's true.
- to stop crying.
Like, how do we do this?
How do I put him down for a nap? And-
- I don't even know what I, remember what I say, though.
- You gave really good advice about-
- Yeah, what did she say? - I don't know.
- So I was holding him for eight hours a day for his naps.
But then Gigi was like,
okay, I'm gonna give you a tip.
This is how you ease out of it.
She was like, put him in the stroller.
He can still see you,
walk around your island in your house
and get him to sleep. - In your kitchen.
- Yeah. And then put the island-
Put the stroller there
and just kind of walk- - Sit next to it.
- Yeah. Walk away and sit down
and so he can still see you,
and then he'll gradually fall asleep.
That advice changed my life. (Gigi laughs)
- [Drew] Thank you. (audience applauds)
- Changed - Thank you.
- my life. - Thank you so much.
- Yeah. - That is actually
great advice. That is.
And we're all trying to figure it out.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- Now, I've seen the first two episodes
of the show and I am freaking out. First of all, this is one
of my favorite shows on television.
I love it so much.
- [Tan] Thanks. - And-
(audience cheering and clapping)
Second of all, you are so effervescent.
- [Gigi] Thank you. - You are so cute.
- [Tan] So cute. - [Drew] Goofy, sweet.
- [Tan] She's nuts. - [Drew] Excitable.
- [Tan] Put simply. (Gigi laughs)
Yeah, she is. - And it is so nice to see you
come to life because you are
a fully fledged, realized person,
which is why everyone gets so fascinated
up in your business and how you decide.
And I've looked at your journey with your sister.
I'm in therapy too.
I have been my whole life.
Mental wellness, you know,
figuring it all out.
A boundary. I didn't know what a boundary was.
- [Gigi] Oh, me either. - [Tan] Oh.
Just figured that out
couple years ago. - Well, you know what, I'd
like to pull up a picture of you.
Here is, like, where you started.
So yeah, look at that.
- [Tan] Oh. - [Audience] Aww.
- I mean, can you stand it?
And I started at 11 months old,
and I do think that by job description,
the point of what we do
is to not have boundaries,
to allow yourself to be an open vessel.
And so that in itself is very contradictory
to what a boundary is.
How are you doing on boundaries?
- I'm good with boundaries.
I think that once I worked in therapy
to realize that you can be assertive
and as long as you're polite,
that doesn't make you ungrateful or rude, obviously.
So I think that once that clicked for me,
now, it seems obvious,
but I just started to say
what I thought more and as long as I,
like I said, was polite
and you know, still respectful,
then you can say how you feel.
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