I just want you to feel something.
Do you feel that?
That's my heart beating fast.
I love you.
TRACY MCMILLAN: Hi, I'm Tracy McMillan from "Family
or Fiance", and I'm here to take a look at these singles
in "Read to Love".
Their body language, their chemistry--
what's going on here?
We're going to have a look.
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Do you want more kids?
I don't want any more.
It all depends, really.
You could get a possible one out of me.
WOMAN: I want two kids, so you don't want that.
My baby's got to come out a full genius.
WOMAN: You've got to be careful who you have kids with.
I really hope you get what you want.
Dang.
TRACY MCMILLAN: So the first thing I
notice is how he's covering his face
and orienting away from her.
Watch.
He's going to turn right away from her.
Boom.
Do you see how his knee comes up?
He's just not open at all.
He's not open to her or what she's saying.
And I don't care what his mouth is saying, that is a no.
It is not happening between the two of them right now.
Can you cook?
Oh, absolutely.
Oh, man.
We're starting to talk about food, we're on my subject.
Black eyed peas, greens, I mean, we go to the pork chops,
smothered pork chops--
- Smothered pork chops? - --rice--
Let me see your hand.
I just want you to feel something.
Do you feel that?
That's my heart beating fast.
I feel it, too.
When you said smothered pork chops it skipped a beat.
Really?
Do you feel it?
I love you.
I'm just kidding.
Can you cook?
Oh, absolutely.
TRACY MCMILLAN: She asked the question,
and when he says something she likes--
see how he moves his body towards her
and he starts selling his assets?
See, here's who I am.
Here's who I am.
I'm this guy.
I'm going to do this for you.
I'm going to cook.
I'm going to make this food you like.
And she says oh, really?
Well, I'm open to that.
And then look how she's gazing at him and smiling slightly.
This is a picture perfect I'm open to you.
Being open means you could be rejected.
Then she takes his hand and puts it right on her chest,
and you're like, whoa, this is on.
She's very clear-- my heart is beating for you.
I'm open to being chosen by you.
That's what she's saying.
She's not doing the choosing-- like, hey,
I want to go on a date with you.
She's saying I'm available to you.
But she's not going over there to get him, she's saying,
I'm here if you want to come get me.
She's not giving her power to him, though.
She's simply saying, I like you and I'm open to it.
Many, many women want to be the person who is chosen.
But in order to be the person who is chosen,
you have to be open.
She's not proposing anything to him.
You see what I'm saying?
She's being vulnerable.
She's saying, here's how I feel.
Telling someone how you feel is not
the same as doing the choosing.
In fact, it's kind of the opposite.
That's what makes it so scary to just be open-- and saying,
I like you, and stand there and see if they choose you.
And then she even floats the trial balloon--
I love you-- just to see what his reaction is.
And he's like, holy crap, what's happening right now?
And then-- boom, they laugh, and they're
in what's called synchrony.
So what people do when they are having great chemistry
or when they're very attracted to each other
is they start to mirror each other's gestures.
And you can see these two being in the synchrony by the end.
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