Having a baby has been the
biggest blessing in my life,
but so many women are currently
struggling with getting
pregnant or have gone through a
heartbreaking loss of a baby.
Whether it's miscarriage,
still birth or SIDS,
it's so common but rarely talked about.
That's why today is dedicated to
those women and their families.
It's national pregnancy and
infant Loss Awareness day. We
wanted to give our baby Kyle
fighting Chance on November 1st.
Lauren Kaiser and her family will light
a candle on a cake for what would have
been their son Kyle's first birthday.
We got pregnant again in July of 2020.
You know COVID stalling on it's
crazy but we were so excited after
experiencing a miscarriage in April 2020
and losing a family member to COVID.
This pregnancy was an answered
prayer the second you get a
positive pregnancy test.
Start kind of dreaming I guess.
And thinking about that child that's
about to come. Kyle was born at
21 weeks three days,
but sadly didn't make it the
hardest day of my life.
I could get teary eyed talking about it now.
One in four women will lose a
baby during pregnancy delivery or
infancy according to count the
kicks.org. There are about 830
stillbirths a year in North Carolina
but we see it. All the time, it
happens more often than
I think people realize.
October 15th is a day to remember those
little ones and support their families.
Cone health chaplain Katie Clawson
says days like this can really help
the grieving process and less of a
child unless any kind of elastic.
Not something you get out there.
It's something that you learned
to carry differently in time.
For Kaiser, it's looking to the future
knowing you'll see her babies again one day,
it's. You know, still hard,
it'll never get easier, but.
You do kind of, you know,
get over the hump and a year
later I'm still standing,
which is amazing 'cause I really
didn't think I would be so.
Now there's a movement to light a candle
or a post on social media telling your
story tonight at 7:00 to mark this
day of remembrance and make sure that
those babies aren't forgotten guys.
Sadly, so many women go through this.
I've had friends, family members that
have suffered from loss from different
kinds of things in pregnancy or infants,
and it's so sad and heartbreaking to me.
But it's so common,
so I think that it's so important
that it's also talked
about. You know,
it's funny you talked about that, you know?
There is a time even to a degree.
Now people don't want to talk about it.
You know if it happened to them,
but it's so important,
I think we we say this all the time right?
On this show that's important to
talk about things to get it out.
And it's funny that I didn't find out until
I was an adult 'cause I was a late kid.
The next I'll just meet 13 years
older than me that there were
two after that before me that my
mom never really talked about in.
My sisters had said there were two
miscarriages before we even got to
you and so it's just that you know,
it's that generation that just
didn't want to talk about it.
But it's so important that
we say she had to and I didn't find
out until I was an adult as well.
It's true, I'm glad we're talking
about it more now.
Your package when it said
one in four women goodness,
just to put that in perspective,
I have friends, family members too,
that I've had miscarriages, stillbirths,
and one of the things they said is
something that you always live with.
It sticks with you.
You might be able to, kind of.
I wouldn't say get over it,
they're able to live their life,
but it always sticks with them.
And I didn't even know
there was a day like this,
so it's important that we having
this conversation that you've
done this story so we can talk
about it. Someone say once they said
who had gone through this? Is it?
It's always in my back pocket,
that's the way they talked about it,
so I keep that in my back pocket.
Yeah, you try to get over it.
You live day today,
but you still carry it with you and
actually the entire month of October.
I know it's usually associated
with breast cancer awareness,
but it's also awareness for
pregnancy and infant loss.
And but today is specifically the day,
and Kaiser was also telling me that what
helps her get through every day is her faith,
her family, her friends,
and then also knowing
she's not alone in this.
So if you're suffering from
something like this,
please know you're not alone.
There are so many women that are
going through this and there
are so many resources.
Cone health has a Resource Center
available that you can do some
virtual meetings with people,
and I'm going to have all
that posted on this story
on our website. Good.
Check it out if you need new jobs.
Yeah, that's good stuff.