can you be fat and happy well stay tuned because in this video that's exactly
what we're gonna talk about what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired
soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and in this video
I really wanted to discuss more of our value systems which I've mentioned in
some other videos but in this particular video I want to talk about where we're
at as a society and our focus on mental health versus physical health okay this
is a very very very important video and I can't stress that enough so please
please do me a favor share this video watch the video if you get something
from it or you think this is a message that somebody needs to hear please make
sure you go out and share this video okay let's get started alright as always
I put a big fat disclaimer right here so the display before this video is before
I have like a bunch of like Nicole arbors coming out like trying to come
over here and tell me about my unhealthy weight and say stuff like this if we
offend you so much that you lose weight lose lose weight I'm okay with that
you are killing yourself like I just want to let you know I'm not ignorant
I'm not dumb I understand unhealthy weight I understand that being obese is
not healthy I get that okay so as a father and a boyfriend and a son and a
friend and somebody that people relies on yes my health is something that I'm
working on and I've made some changes which I struggle with and maybe I'll do
a more dedicated video on this but just for example steps that I've personally
taken the last six months I've been vegetarian I've started to try yoga my
bad about going to the gym I need to get my butt back there but yes physical
health is definitely something that's on my mind I have that issue where I've put
my mental health so far past my physical health that this is not under control or
where I needed to be at but I just want to put that disclaimer like I'm not
delusional to the fact that physical health is important all right so now
let's about the real issues so something that
I mentioned in the video I will link above when I discussed lost connections
the book about depression and the experiment I did something that keeps
coming up it keeps coming up because I think it's the most important thing is
our screwed up value system and it's something that society has impressed
upon us okay so throughout our lives we're always being told you know that we
need to look a certain way we need to dress a certain way and all these
different physical things and when that is embed in your head we start to look
at our prioritization and we start to put you know our looks our physical
attributes and all these things at the very top of the list and you know
unfortunately that's why many people who are overweight or don't look the way
they think they should unfortunately that's why they get quite depressed and
I'm gonna touch on that in the second half of this video but I really want to
focus on this value system of thinking that you know being a certain weight
having certain physical attributes like big biceps or like sick legs you know
things like that I want to discuss how these are sometimes the wrong thing that
we're chasing when it comes to our values like the reason why this is
something that I feel like I need to address is because of this and I hate to
be so blunt about it but it's just to give you some perspective and let you
understand the depth and weight of what I'm talking about
there are plenty people who commit suicide each and every year who have a
six-pack let's think about that for a second and
I just want to put it in perspective for you like I've done other videos about
you know success and happiness and you know which one comes first and the
reality is is that losing a certain amount of weight having um you know
different physical appearances all these things there was absolutely nothing
guaranteed about your mental health when it comes with that so like I do have
more videos on like it's the same thing with like money right
like there's this idea that we've been led to believe that if you make a
certain amount of money then you'll be happy and we now know that's not true
like when the lead singer of Linkin Park committed suicide money fame family
people loved him you know what I mean like we have to really start stepping
back checking in with our value systems and
something for anybody out there who is in shape I really want you to pay
attention in this video as well because we need to start focusing on our mental
health more as a society and like don't get me wrong don't get it twisted there
is absolutely nothing wrong with being a shape nothing wrong with it like we
should all be in shape we all need to take care of our bodies need to take
care of our minds our bodies our spirit all that stuff the problem comes from
thinking that this certain body is going to make you happy so one of the reasons
why this is an issue is typically because of the ideas that we have embed
into our brains about what comes along with looking a certain way why like for
example I'm going to attract better partners you know better looking women
or better looking men whatever your thing is we get that idea that this is
what we're going to get maybe the idea is that if we look a certain way we're
gonna get more respect from people right in some cases we may think that looking
looking a certain way is going to help us get the job that we want right so at
the end of the day when we talk about success for us happiness even with those
things there's not guaranteed happiness let's use a prime example and one that
hits home close to me the idea that by looking a certain way you're going to
attract the person who is going to make you happy is not necessarily true for
example I have a friend right now this dude is a health nut
dude is eating healthy hits the gym really focused on his body but he's not
focused on his mind and he is currently in one of the most emotionally abusive
relationships I've ever seen his girlfriend is constantly beating him
down over and over and over again all with her words you know what I'm saying
so like all of the hard work that he's done on his body has attracted somebody
who was emotionally abusive so where's the happiness in that and you know he
keeps going to the gym he keeps working on herself
now he's keeping this this figure you know right that attracted his girlfriend
but he's not happy you see what I'm saying like I hope you're following me
on this so just keep in mind like anybody out
there who is overweight like I don't want you to get into a situation where
you think by losing all this weight you're gonna be happy I know a lot of
people who have gone gastric bypass and things like that and don't get me wrong
a lot of them are for health reasons but there are a lot of people who do it and
think if I could only lose this weight then I'd be happy right but then they go
through all that trouble and then they realize that they're still not happy you
know and we're constantly seeking the next thing that will fill that void
that's always inside of us like is it possible to be fat and happy like I like
to think that I'm a real good example of that you know what I mean I am happy
more often than I'm not and it's because I've gotten my priorities straight like
my weight a lot of this weight was put on during my drug and alcohol addiction
like about 200 pounds of it was put on and there's been a battle to take it off
but I'm almost grateful that I've had the weight issues you know over these
years because it's helped me really learn how to love myself without having
to have a six-pack and big farms and stuff these are kind of buffing you see
those can zoom in on that but you know what I mean I have learned to love
myself and be okay and I've learned that other people can love me too even though
I look this way and the main reason is and why I make this channel and make so
many videos so many videos is because I want you all to learn that despite your
circumstances you can be happy so for any of you watching this if you're
overweight like my goal was saying this thing is to give you hope I want you to
know that it's possible to be overweight and be happy once you get this thing
right again again physical health is extremely important because just like I
said there's a lot of people with six paths who commit suicide like there's a
lot of people with great mental health who die from diabetes and heart attacks
you don't know so like I said I will make a more dedicated video on maybe
like just the struggles I've had with my weight and all the
things I've tried and you know all sorts of stuff if you would like me to do that
leave a comment down below but anyways I'm gonna do a lot more videos on this
just about our value systems cuz I just want you to sit back and start thinking
I just want to get your wheels turning and have you just started thinking like
why am I constantly seeking the next thing and how do I know that that is
going to make me happy you know what I'm saying so like once we get our values in
check we're more likely to have you know this kind of a equilibrium of happiness
and not all these ups and downs all right
but anyway it's like I mentioned at the beginning of this video if you found
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