Hey Dan here and in this video we're answering a question about ENFPs and our
tempers do ENFPs tend to get angry do we tend to blow up or is this
particularly ENFP he wrote me just one of a kind if you knew the channel my name
is Dan this is Dreams Around The World and my mission here is to help you
become the best version of yourself the question comes to us from Danielle in
Costa Rica San Jose specifically which is kind of cool because that was the
first place I lived when I left Canada and started traveling the world now
Danielle says I'm wondering if you have any information on enfps with strong
tempers I am so short fused and I wonder if it's an ENFP thing I am so critical
and a perfectionist so I'm not really tolerant of mistakes and this is
something I'd like to work on awesome question as I thought about it more and
more different things came up now right before filming this video I was actually
booking tickets for flight to Ireland I'll be in Dublin this July and I booked
it through this company Ryanair which if you're not familiar with them they will
do everything they can to steal from you to screw you to confuse you Oh God
anyone if you do not have perfect eyesight their website will find a way
to sell you life insurance three different ways and of course tonight
they definitely got me with one of those tricks where they crashed the site and
then when that reloaded the price was more but I was screwed and locked in
because I'd already booked other flights connected to that flight and why did
that get me so mad well I don't think it's about being a perfectionist I think
it's about being an idealist as an ENFP we want people to be good we want
justice we want things to be right and when things aren't done right for me at
least that is definitely one of my triggers for a short fuse so know you
are not alone Danielle at least you and me are in on this together in terms of
being enfps that can have a bit of a short fuse for
me I definitely feel it when I sense someone is being unjust maybe trying to
steal from someone or just incompetent and lazy definitely the ideal as part of
me that sees how things could be and sometimes does not have very much
empathy for the reasons behind someone screw up or dishonesty or whatever else
now this is definitely one of those videos where I want your comments and
feedback my enfps if you're watching this so either now or at the end of the
video just in the comments just let me know
your own experience in terms of your temper and maybe if you have a short
fuse or all the patience in the world I think being idealist seen the best
possible outcome or potential combined with our introverted feeling you know we
make a lot of our decisions based on how it feels to us we have this internal
compass of right and wrong and we like to think that what we think is right is
always right but enfps have not exactly been strangers to becoming dictators and
slaughtering large amounts of people so in the moment it may always feel right
may not always be maybe get a second opinion and that's something that
actually a lot of rational thinkers have helped me with and sometimes they do
water down my fury if I'm really angry about someone that I feels and just if I
see some company that's blatantly lying or some person online making claims I
know or BS I get really fired up about it and sometimes it does take a more
rational thinker to just bring me back to reality and I don't necessarily think
that's a good reality I don't necessarily change my opinion of this
company or this person being wrong but just bringing back to that middle ground
of like hey this is human nature this is the world we live in you know you don't
need to maybe invest so much emotions being upset about this injustice or
whatever else so truthfully I don't know what's better or worse is it better that
we get so fired up and we use that anger and that super power of ours to right
wrongs or should we learn to mellow out a little bit more and accept a maybe
lower standard for society that is something that I personally think about
and deal with and I don't have an answer for you right now but maybe it will be a
topic for another video or discussion we have now one thing I will add to this
video is that whatever traits we're talking about with a certain personality
whether it's punctuality or temper or social levels like how much you like to
be around people it's definitely going to be influenced by your society so if
you're coming from Costa Rica where people are known to be a little more
fiery get angry you know the the dynamic between people is definitely different
than what you might see in Germany or in haneda then everything is going to be
relative to your group and your society what you've learned is acceptable and
what you've learned that hasn't you know I like to joke that an ENFP who tends to
be late who is German will be three minutes late an ENFP from Spain will be
three hours late and that's just how we adjust relative to our cultures and it
does get really interesting to look at how our culture and our upbringing fuses
with our personality and shapes our behavior especially around what we maybe
perceive as acceptable or not and I'd be curious to hear your experiences in the
comments with that as well if where you grew up was it acceptable to get angry
to yell to have a fit was that allowed was that something that was encouraged
was it discouraged and how you think that may have affected your own
relationship with anger and your temper so leave your thoughts below in the
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