y'all thought the ace family did a great job of gas lighting keemtar's
straight-up saw that in his eye here hold my G fuel what is up everybody this
is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the
solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health
and what I like to do is pull different topics from the YouTube community to try
to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being so if any of
that stuff make sure you subscribe and bring that notification bell so yeah I
want to start off this video before I jump into the topic of gas lighting to
kind of explain a little bit of something I do to work on my mental
health so I wrote this book rewire your anger and there's something that I
forgot to add in that book but I'll share this story with you real quick so
I had a lot of anger issues that's one of the reasons why I started when I
started writing that book because I had a lot of anger issues and I know a lot
of other people do too so I wanted to you know teach people how I overcame
those things so one of the biggest issues I had when I first got sober and
started working on my mental health was I just judged the everybody looked at
everybody and I was like right but in in an effort to work on myself like what
good was that doing what was it doing for me how was that benefiting me in any
way shape or form so full disclosure out of light cream story love them don't
like them but but anyway so when I started working on my mental health when
I started seeing these people who I didn't like I was like how can I turn
that into something that benefits me how can I take every single situation in my
life and use it to improve myself so what I started to do was look at people
who I wasn't a fan of and say what can I do to avoid being that person right so
for me getting sober it was seeing people with more clean time than me who
were jerks or who were miserable or whatever they were right I was like okay
what can I do to avoid that right so that's something that I still to do to
this day so when I see bigger youtubers when I
see people I can store whatever like even though I might not like the guy
like what can I learn from them right because
one of my biggest fears one of my biggest fears on earth is being a
hypocrite like do you guys understand how often we judge people for doing
something and we're doing it ourselves it's something that I noticed when I was
doing some some writing exercises is to kind of figure out the root of my
problems like I was judging people for things that I was doing right for
example I was judging my parents for how I was raised but when I got sober I was
being a bad parent to my son so I'm like oh dang or when I was writing about my
friends oh my friends don't show up for me but then I was looking at myself I'm
like I don't show up for them or oh this person lied to me I'm like wait I lied
to a lot of people you see what I mean so that really showed my own hypocrisy
so there's a lot of self-reflection we can do when looking at other people so
Keemstar being a bigger youtuber as well as a lot of other youtubers who I
talk about on this channel or who I don't even talk about on this channel I
look at them and as I rise through the ranks on YouTube I'm like okay what
could I do to avoid that so another good example is when I noticed youtubers
burning out or having mental health issues I'm analyzing these people and
saying okay how can I avoid that so a way that you can use that in your own
life here's a great example aside from life looking at people who are jerks or
any holes or whatever like look at people in maybe your career path right
like say you're a new teacher let's say you're a first-year teacher you see a
teacher who's been there for 20 years and they're absolutely miserable right
look at that person maybe have a conversation with them and say okay what
can I do so I'm not miserable in this job does that make sense because a lot
of us want to you know rise up in a position at work or whatever it is but
we see other people who are miserable at the place where we want to be so analyze
that situation and then model your life in a way that you avoid the pitfalls
that may be led them on that path does that make sense
but you can also do this in a positive way find people who are doing right and
then model your path after that all right
so anyways anyways let's jump into this okay so yeah those of you who don't know
what gas lighting is gaslighting is a form of manipulation okay
it is actually something that originated from a super old movie I forgot what the
name of it was
but is a technique used by manipulators to make you question your own sanity
okay this is something that a lot of people have dealt with in abusive
relationships and all of that so I'm going to be using clips from my girl
Ashley Kyle she has a channel here on YouTube she's an awesome woman go check
her channel out you want to get the full tee on the situation go check out Ashlye
Kyle so I was just kind of on Twitter last night while I was hanging out with
Tristan we were watching YouTube have any of you watch that channel mr. Gigi
dude is hilarious right but we're looking around on Twitter and I saw that
people were losing it over keemstar and he was getting into it with the channel
t spill and basically what happened was was keemstar compared Elka Costelll to
Eugenia Cooney so earlier today team star tweeted this photo that had the
caption Eugenia Cooney 2019 now if you are unaware of who this photo belongs to
it belongs to Erica Costell which is Jake Paul's ex-girlfriend was the 2019
Eugenia Cooney because she had a picture and you know she looked thin in it and
I've made videos on Eugenia Cooney and I hope you know those of you who know my
channel like I allegedly want people to get help I want people to you know learn
from others and maybe recognize that they have a problem or whatever and you
know even though it's not confirmed and I'm not here to diagnose anybody like it
looks like Eugenia Cooney is very ill and maybe this is anorexia maybe this is
a health issue whatever it is but it's a very scary situation here on YouTube
because this young woman you know isn't doing so great right and keep Starr used
that as an opportunity to talk crap about Erica Costello being thin so
basically people were losing it on Twitter t spill jumped into it Jake Paul
jumped into it and yeah they were using the word body shaming okay so what is
body shaming body shaming is using the person's body to insult them pretty much
what it is right calling someone too fat calling someone
too skinny it's pretty simple easy concept to understand
so throughout this tea spill was tweeting back at at keemstar and
everything he keeps um was sending out other tweets and then he manages to
start picking on other people any guys like it's no secret Kim stars a bully I
don't like using that word with adults but that's what the dude is so anyways
he ends up body shaming another young woman on Twitter now in his tweet he
also included a zoomed in photo of her profile picture and she's gorgeous so I
don't get it and obviously and very clearly body
shaming her and not only that but once again he knew he was throwing her to the
wolves to his fans he knew this the girl went on to a quote tweet keemstar by
saying did keemstar really just tweet my picture body shaming me because I called
him trash for body shaming but then T spill brings up a point she
says you know it's it's pretty pretty messed up that this man being the the
father of a young daughter you know for him to go around doing this right
and keemstar lost it so everybody has a hot button and as a parent I definitely
understand that when people talk about my parenting it it can hit me hard right
but that's another reason why I gotta manage my anger you know the other day
when somebody made a video about me they talked about my parenting and I was
surprised at how I handled that because I didn't even bring it up in my response
but yeah I can definitely hit the thighs with care star but you know they're
bringing up a good point so as influencers as influencers like my
son is 10 he knows I have a YouTube channel if if he watches my videos will
I feel proud of what he sees if he sees videos about me how am I gonna talk to
him about them and explain them right so basically what TSP was saying was that
it's not healthy for the father of a young daughter to make this kind of
statement about Erica Costello you know especially with you know young women
having a lot a lot of body image issues right
and that's you know I'm trying not to stereotype but it's something that I
know a lot of young women who watch my channel struggle with I've seen a lot of
the comments and everything like that so anyways keemstar jumps on twitter just
snapping tea spill and he says this listen tea stop talking about my kid
stop tweeting about my kid my kid is not online my kid is not an online
personality my kid is not a youtuber stop talking about my kid you're over
there calling me a scumbag and a dirtbag and all I'm complete trash because I
body shamed first of all I didn't body shame anyone I didn't and if you're
assuming that based on what I tweet it then I think the body shame er is you
and in fact if you have such a problem with body shaming then why are you
ashamed of showing your own face your own body you have an online series where
you don't even show your face so let's stop the body shaming right now what do
you look like show the whole internet right now who you are and what you look
like come on where's your face upload a vlog
of you talking or are you ashamed do you support body shape so what you
saw from his earlier tweets as well as this video his Q star is gaslighting
okay so keemstar is basically he's trying to make you feel bad he's trying
to take this this thing that he did the body shaming aspect and he's saying no
no no no no I wasn't doing that but if you think I was body shaming then you
have an issue MA keemstar gaslighting at its finest right so think about an
abusive relationship and no I'm not saying
keemstar is the same as a domestic abuser so please don't think I'm saying
that but I'm just giving you an example because gaslighting often happens in
abusive relationships if you even look at the comments on my Austin McBroom
AIDS family video you'll see the comments when I ask people if they've
been gasline live right where somebody takes something like this they'll do
something to harm you and then make try to make you feel bad for it right and
this is messed up okay but thankfully a lot of people on Twitter see through
team Starr's tactics doing this and and yeah what he was
doing was body shaming so basically what I like my assumption is either he's
gaslighting us or we got to feel a little bad for keemstar because he
doesn't understand the definition of body shaming so what are those two
things on one of them he's gaslighting the other one I just feel kind of sorry
for the guy but anyways remember how earlier in this video I was telling you
one of my biggest fears is being a hypocrite right so keemstar
claiming that he doesn't body shame anybody what is my loyal rear I read
soldiers out there brought up a good point and looking back a few months ago
when I made a video about keemstar you know claiming to be an advocate for
mental health in some ways by defending some people he took a shot of somebody
else talked about depression talked about you know I'm often himself a thing
like that and then q-star came at me and he was talking about this so anyways
here's another lesson for everybody out there just remember use your prefrontal
cortex have some impulse control get some logical decision-making regulate
your emotions because never forget never forget the Internet is forever and with
all of the the t channels we have out there with all of the the internet
investigators out there just remember you can't get away with saying things
and then trying to act like you're not that person because there are receipts
of these things you know what I mean so again don't be a hypocrite
don't Gaslight people and try try try your best to learn lessons from people
even if you don't like them alright anyways that's all I got from this video
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