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>>> NO SURPRISE THE HOLIDAY SEASON CAN BE TOUGH ON PEOPLE
THAT ARE STRUGGLING WITH
DEPRESSION AND FAMILY
PROBLEMS.
PROBLEMS.
PROBLEMS. HOW DO WE HELP LOVED ONES
NAVIGATE THE SEASON WITH
COMPASSION AND LOVE AND WHAT
WE DO IF WE ARE THE ONES
STRUGGLING?
STRUGGLING? DR. GREGORY JANTZ JOINS ME NOW
WITH INSIGHT.
WITH INSIGHT. IT IS SO GOOD TO SEE YOU.
>> THIS IS A TOUGH ONE.
>> I REMEMBER FROM CHILDHOOD
TIMES WHEN CHRISTMAS WAS SORT
OF JUST WHATEVER WAS GOING ON
ITS HIGH-END.
ITS HIGH-END. IF IT'S GOOD THAT'S GREAT IF
IT'S NOT SO GOOD THAT IS
PRETTY TOUGH.
PRETTY TOUGH. WE NEED TO BE AWARE OF THAT
WITH OTHER PEOPLE.
IT IS NOT ALWAYS SMOOTH
SAILING AT CHRISTMAS.
HAD WE RECOGNIZE SOMEBODY THAT
MIGHT BE STRUGGLING.
>> THIS CAN BE A TIME OF
STRUGGLE IF THERE HAS BEEN A
LOSS IT IS A TIME WHERE WE CAN
FEEL INTENSIFIED GRIEF.
>> MAYBE YOU THOUGHT YOU WERE
OVER.
OVER.
OVER. >>
OVER. >> I CALL THEM FAMILY
TRIGGERPOINTS.
TRIGGERPOINTS. >> SO HOW TO KNOW IF SOMEBODY
IS SUFFERING.
IS SUFFERING. WE NEED TO BE EVEN MORE
SENSITIVE.
SENSITIVE. IF YOU KNOW SOMEBODY HAS HAD A
TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCE OR THERE
HAS BEEN A LOSS I THINK WE
NEED TO PRACTICE REACHING OUT
TO THEM.
TO THEM.
TO THEM. HERE IS WHAT WE LOOK FOR.
DO NOT LET ANOTHER PERSON
ISOLATE.
ISOLATE.
ISOLATE. ISOLATION USUALLY MEANS
DEPRESSION, ANXIETY.
DEPRESSION, ANXIETY. FIND A WAY TO INCLUDE. THEY
MAY NOT WANT TO BUT EVEN
HAVING AN INVITATION AND
SAYING I DO NOT WANT YOU TO BE
ALONE, I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE
YOU WITH US SO MAKE THE
INVITATION.
INVITATION. >> REACH OUT.
SOMETIMES I THINK WE ARE IN
FRAYED -- AFRAID TO INTRUDE ON
SOMEBODY THAT IS STRUGGLING
THINKING THEY WANT TO BE LEFT
ALONE BUT AT LEAST OPERATING
-- OFFERING THE OPTION.
>> JUST OFFERING IT CUPPA
COFFEE AND ALLOWING SOMEBODY
THE TIME TO SHARE.
>> FINANCES CAN BE A BOOK DEAL
-- BIG DEAL.
JUST THINKING ABOUT THAT WITH
ALL THE PEOPLE FROM THE GM
LAYOFFS.
LAYOFFS.
LAYOFFS. ALL OF THAT IS HAPPENING RIGHT
BEFORE THE HOLIDAYS FOR THEM.
>> FINANCES.
>> FINANCES. FIRST OF ALL THERE ARE
EXPECTATIONS.
EXPECTATIONS. LIKE I EXPECT I HAVE TO DO
THIS SO I THINK PEOPLE ARE
EXPECTING ME ASK YOU OR I HAVE
DONE IT IN THE PAST BUT NOW I
DON'T WANT TO.
>> THEN WE HAVE TO COMPARE.
THERE IS YOUR FIRST DANGER.
PRESSURE AND COMPARING.
HERE IS THE THING.
I HAVE TWO BOYS.
I LOVE TO GET THEM SOMETHING
THAT IS MADE A SPECIAL
INVITATION TO DO SOMETHING
WITH THEM. THINK ABOUT
MEANINGFUL VERSUS EXPENSIVE.
>> WE HAVE ACCUMULATED ALL OF
THIS STUFF THAT MOST OF US
CAN'T EVEN REMEMBER WHAT WE
GOT LAST YEAR BUT IT IS
SOMETHING THAT WE CAN ENJOY
ALL YEAR LONG MAKES A
DIFFERENCE.
DIFFERENCE. >> FIND SPECIAL THINGS YOU CAN
DO TOGETHER.
DO TOGETHER. IF YOU GET A CHRISTMAS TREE GO
OUT AND DO THAT BUT FIND
SPECIAL THINGS TO DO TOGETHER.
KEEP IT SIMPLE. IT DOESN'T
HAVE TO BE EXPENSIVE.
>> MY YOUNGEST SON DECIDE WHAT
YOU WANT FOR CHRISTMAS?
I SAID I DO NOT NEED OR REALLY
WANT ANYTHING. THERE ARE
SPECIAL THINGS HE LIKES TO DO.
SO TO HAVE SOMETHING PLANNED
WHERE WE CAN BE TOGETHER.
>> I LIKE THAT IDEA.
>> THERE ARE ALSO TIMES WHERE
PEOPLE ARE STRESSED AND THEY
DON'T WANT TO COMMUNICATE THAT
BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT TO
WRECK SOMEBODY'S HOLIDAY.
>> WHEN WE ARE STRUGGLING ONLY
START TO HOLD IT INSIDE IT
WILL AMPLIFY ALL OF THOSE
FEELINGS.
FEELINGS.
FEELINGS. SO YOU LOOK AT HOW CAN I SERVE
OTHERS.
OTHERS.
OTHERS. IT'S A TIME TO LOOK AT
VOLUNTEERING AND LOOKING AT
WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP SOMEBODY
ELSE THAT IS IN NEED.
I MAY FEEL LIKE I CAN'T DO IT
OR I DO'T HAVE THE ENERGY FOR
IT BUT THERE IS SOMETHING THAT
HAPPENS.
HAPPENS.
HAPPENS. WE RECENTLY WENT ON THE SEARCH
AND RESCUE. THERE IS SOMETHING
THAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU GO OUT
AND HELP SOMEBODY ELSE.
>> IT SEEMS TO BE UNIVERSAL
THAT PEOPLE EXPLAINED THAT
THEY GET MORE BACK THAN THEY
GAVE.
GAVE.
GAVE. DO
GAVE. DO WE EVEN UNDERSTAND WHAT
THAT IS?
THAT IS?
THAT IS? >> SOMETIMES IT PUTS OUR
PROBLEMS IN PERSPECTIVE.
>> IF YOU ARE SERVING A
HOMELESS PERSON AND YOU SAY I
THINK I WILL MANAGE THROUGH MY
ISSUES AND ALSO WE REACH OUT
TO THEM AND IT SHOWS US THAT
IT IS OKAY FOR US TO REACH OUT
TO OTHERS AS WELL.
THIS IS THE TIME OF YEAR THAT
SOMETIMES WE NEED TO SAY I'M
NOT DOING SO WELL I NEED HELP.
>> YOU CAN USE THOSE WORDS.
>> AND CONNECT WITH SOMEBODY
YOU CAN TALK TO.
>> ANXIETY POPS UP MORE AND
MORE THESE DAYS.
YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHY THAT
SEEMS TO BE ON THE RISE?
>> TWO THINGS WE KNOW ARE TRUE.
THE WORLD HEALTH ORGANIZATION
SAYS DEPRESSION IS THE NUMBER
ONE DISABILITY, THE, A
DISEASE, AND THE WORLD.
THEY ANNOUNCED THIS YEAR THAT
IT HAS ALREADY HAPPENED.
WE HAVE DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY.
ANXIETY MEANS IT HAS HIT ME
PHYSICALLY.
PHYSICALLY. I HAVE PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS.
I WAKE UP IN THE NIGHT AND I
FEEL ANXIOUS AND HAVE SWEATY
PALMS AND I FEEL IT IN MY
STOMACH SO I HAVE A PHYSICAL
SYMPTOM.
SYMPTOM.
SYMPTOM. THAT'S USUALLY A SIGN THAT YOU
NEED TO ASK FOR HELP.
ANXIETY AND ITS CLOSE COUSIN
DEPRESSION AND IF YOU HAVE
TRIGGERPOINTS THIS TIME OF
YEAR IT IS AN OVERUSE OR OVER
DRINK AND OVERSPEND. THOSE ARE
DANGER CUES.
DANGER CUES. >> WHAT AM I TRYING TO
COMPENSATE.
COMPENSATE. >> THE HOLIDAYS ARE GOING TO
BE TOUGH. IT IS NOT A CRIME.
LET'S TALK ABOUT IT AND DO
SOMETHING.
SOMETHING. >> WE HAVE POSTED ADDITIONAL
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