hey Rebels Coach Matt here from nerd fitness have you ever wanted to get in shape but feel like you
need someone yelling in your ear to do it telling you to put down that food or shaming you into
doing that workout well I'm here to tell you this tough love is not what you need to stay in shape
and relying on it might be holding you back getting healthy is so much more than exercise
and nutrition alone today we'll talk about mindset a mindset that is built on positivity
rather than punishment this is the approach we take with our online coaching program
it worked for Mason who lost a ton of weight and gained a ton of strength even got his
first ever push-up he said that coaching made him feel accountable to my schedule but I was
never made to feel ashamed or guilty it was only non-stop encouragement this is a big mindset shift
as most dieting advice boils down to stop that we're so proud of mason's hard work and success
why don't we give them a shout out in the comments below alright let's dive into things further first
tough love is a type of coaching where people feel like they need a drill instructor someone to
just yell at them with no input in return and this will be the thing that finally gets people into a
healthy lifestyle now before we completely dismiss these thoughts tough love can be really effective
to get us up and going in the very beginning it's why so many of us turn to it time and time again
but it's not sustainable for long-term success and it's why we see so many people shoot off like a
firecracker and then fizzle out just as quickly see even this loser wants fireworks fireworks
the underlying truth to the tough love approach is it's someone yelling at you to do something
you don't want to do but in the end if it's going to be a long-term lasting change it has
to be something you want to do now I can already hear the protest I hate exercise
healthy eating is so boring if you don't like your workout then look for something else exercise
doesn't have to look like something traditional to be effective there are countless other activities
that you might find more enjoyable than going to the gym each week go out and try them all
the bottom line is that we need to move or pair your exercise with something else that you love
as well something like an audio book a podcast a television show or joining up with your friends
don't say it don't you say come on so that way exercise becomes something you look
forward to rather than something you dread and we know that making exercise fun leads
to long-term sustainability if you don't like your nutrition look for something else there too
maybe it's trying a new recipe or incorporating a meal delivery service or finding ways to level
up your cooking we have plenty of articles on that but if you find yourself not really
interested in what you're doing nutritionally try something else now are you going to get excited
and energized about health and fitness every single day absolutely not we all
have our own ups and downs and i find myself resisting workouts from time to time as well
the long term idea though is that we want to be looking forward to things more than dreading it
think about lifelong habits rather than month-long habits another phrase we hear a lot is people
just want to be told what to do i don't want to have to think about it just tell me what to do
this is the same unsustainable tough love approach in different clothing and just like the screaming
drill instructor it can get people up and moving to start but falls flat in the long run and as a
coach sure i could tell you to work out five times a week eat chicken and broccoli and rice every day
and sleep eight hours a night but we know very few of us have a fortress of solitude to get away to
real life is something we all have to face clients like Sarah who is a new mom and busy professional
on top of her full-time job and new baby duties she was also dealing with an old back injury
Nerd Fitness Coaching helped Sarah with a plan and accountability her coach worked with her to
figure out sustainable practices rather than just yell at her to work harder we're super proud of
Sarah and all her accomplishments especially with such a busy schedule give her a shout out in the
comments below too now sometimes people say just tell me what to do because it's a way to avoid the
self-reflection that's needed for real change if there are things you're doing in your life right
now that you want to change give yourself the time take that step back and really ask yourself what
you want out of this experience you can dig in and ask why do this from a non-judgmental place
if being hard on yourself worked it would have worked already remember mason's success
he was able to accomplish all of that without feeling guilty or ashamed
but you will have to ask yourself some tough questions and maybe turn over some uncomfortable
thoughts that's what leads to long lasting change some starting questions might be what do i really
want what might i have to give up to get there what might that look like and how might my life
look differently if I make this change that I'm considering will this whole process be easy
probably not but the best adventures never are I'm going on an adventure but the great thing is we
get to choose our own adventure we can choose the difficulty of staying where we are or we
could choose the difficulty of moving towards where we want to be whatever we choose to do
remember that the path is long put away the tough love and practice some self-compassion
thanks for watching we hope you found this video helpful and thought-provoking give it a thumbs
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most ironing and voice boils down to stop that I think I said it voice and voice it voice it's
so much should I get it like a toddler now I can already hear the protests I hate exercise I use
the bottom line probably a lot today even myself i find myself about myself myself hello myself
I forgot meditating meditating every day after you wake up at 5am
cold shower exposure cold therapy exposure making sure you're doing 17 different breathing exercises
all at the same time I feel like there's some sort of joke about baby duties to be made