hi sisters today we're going to be talking about why James Charles has to
apologize so damn much what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired
soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new
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right so the the bulk of this video we're going to be talking about James
Charles we're gonna be talking about anger we're gonna be talking about
impulse control this is actually a continuation of the video I did just the
other day about the psychology of James Charles drama a lot of you love that
video because I did a lot of neuroscience in it so I'm gonna try to
do some more but this is more of a continuation so if you would like to
click up in the info card I'm gonna link that video I did as well
alright so anyways some people are you know painting James Charles as a
hypocrite because today he and Jeffree Star just released their video where they're
pretty much destroying a bunch of makeup palettes now real quick before I jump
into this like can we talk can we just talk about Jeffree star for one second
so on snapchat Jeffree said this alright and you guys know I'm gonna
start off the new year with a bang tomorrow I'm uploading my first video of
2019 featuring a sister James Charles it is a good one we got the sledgehammers
ready and the flamethrower and miss mama just wait until you see what really
happens you know there is a lot of speculations so much T like James got
mad about a girl destroying his palette how dare him girl wait till watch the
video cuz you don't know what instincts and then this happened
it's time to move on baby because in 2019 or vaccinating our kids really
Jeffrey alright alright so I think I think what Jeffree was referring to
about this video not being what you think it is I'm really cool Jeffree Star and
James Charles announced that they're both donating $25,000 each
to women shelters in Los Angeles which is awesome very very very very cool but
today we're going to be talking about impulse control and anger and all of
that so one thing that is very well-known of James Charles is the drama
he's had this year in 2018 but he always apologizes alright so we're gonna be
talking about why he apologizes so much I'm gonna use some of my own experience
and you might be able to relate to it as well so the first lesson I want to teach
all of you the very first lesson those like the best lesson we can all learn
from James Charles aside from like blending and like what else does James
Charles teach you Tristan like how to put on like this stuff up here on the
eyes yeah you know what I'm talking about
the best lesson that we can learn from him is this the second you experience an
emotion is not the time to post on Twitter let me repeat that
the second you experience an emotion is not the time to tweet something out so
James had a little bit of an issue with another influencer because she destroyed
his palette but that's exactly what James Charles did in this video
but James kind of explained it away like this well I just got into a scandal
regarding this actually because there was a video circulating of a girl who
destroyed my palette and when I first saw I got really hurt by it yeah
obviously I had worked on it for so long and also too it's been sold everywhere
so all you to give her all right beats that were so upset of people that
couldn't get it and I was again I got this go away just to destroy it but
after a further thought like once she was getting hate comments which is so
not okay and anyway perform so I felt really bad but - like it's her money and
you can do what you want with it and like I just it was I hurt at first but I
was like let me get over this it's not that deep so
cortex is still developing and part of this is impulse control this is one of
the reasons James Charles tweets so many things out
that combined with emotional regulation right James Charles feels some type of
way and his mind tells him a syphon ego and it's I'm not saying James Charles is
egotistical which he might be but our ego says that we're justified we need to
put this information out there we need to say something about this person right
and and James did this why when he found out the news and this is why it's so
important to meditate and develop your own pause button alright part of
meditation is strengthening your prefrontal cortex so you can pause and
make better decisions and this is so so so important because what happens to a
lot of us is that we come off like hypocrites so something that I didn't
talk about the other day when it comes to the prefrontal cortex is one of the
responsibilities of the prefrontal cortex is empathy
so what James Charles figured out later on was oh my god like you know he
actually put himself in Lauren's shoes he's like oh she bought it she can do
whatever she wants with it not about it now but in that moment when his emotions
were taking over he didn't have that type of empathy he couldn't see from her
side so here's a great example about how I work on my impulse control as well as
my emotions there was something that James Charles did I forgot which thing
it was it was months ago but I had a lot of people who wanted me to make a video
about James Charles tweeting something out and I just ignored it I didn't make
a video about it because basically what happened was somebody said something on
Twitter and James Charles clap back at him like sticking up for himself
defending himself he got a little sassy like if any of you follow me on Twitter
you see that I post comments that I reply to all the time where I'm clapping
back so think about it if I didn't have the impulse control like if my brain
says yeah Chris make a video on that just to get views if I didn't stop and
pause and think about it and think about James Charles situation try to put
myself in his shoes I ask myself why he did that
then I would have made a video then all of you would have came to me calling me
a hypocrite because I do the exact same thing and by the way I'm going to make a
video explaining why I do that because I think it's very
important that we talk about it because a lot of you understand why I do that
and some of you don't but I hope you're starting to understand why we need to
stop and pause because when our emotions are taking control we can become
hypocrites so like here's the thing like one of my biggest fears in life is being
a hypocrite and even though I love when you guys call me out I have my beautiful
girlfriend over here Tristan she really enjoys calling me out on stuff like I
try to pause and like think about the entire situation as a whole to make sure
that I'm not a hypocrite especially when I'm in a position that I'm in right not
only just you know being a youtuber but also when I'm talking to other people
about their mental health like it's hard for me to teach or preach something that
I'm not doing myself you see what I'm saying so something that I talked about
in my book rewire your anger is apologizing alright so let's talk about
this real quick James Charles like it's great it's great
to apologize but let me tell you this let me let me let you in on a little
secret about Chris I hate apologizing I don't know if you can relate to that but
I hate apologizing I hate it I hate it I do it but I hate it all right and you
know what the trick is to quit apologizing so much is quit doing things
you need to apologize for all right and that is why we need to control our
impulses as well as our emotions do you see what I'm saying
because when I don't have control over those things I keep doing a bunch of
wacky things that means I have to apologize to people and then I feel dumb
because I have to apologize for something so like I always tell you guys
I'm always trying to teach you guys mental health is more than just not
having a mental illness okay mental health is impulse control
mental health is controlling your anger you see what I'm saying so like I no
longer lash out on people and have to apologize for something I have really
done to apologies on my youtube channel with almost 700 videos and both of them
were very minor very minor there were more corrections and apologies but I did
understand why people might you know see what I was saying in a different way so
I went back and I corrected myself all right but I used to be a drug addict an
alcoholic constantly had to apologize to people
not only for like lying cheating and stealing right but a lot of it was from
my my anger my emotional outburst like when I first got sober I have so many
anger issues it's one of the reasons why I wrote my book rewire your anger I had
so many anger issues and I felt so bad like can you relate to that let me know
down in the comments below do you feel bad about the anger that you you
experience where you lash out on other people
cuz I felt bad about it and by the way that's proof that you're not a terrible
person because you actually feel bad about it but I would ask him be like man
what do i do I just freaked out on my mom and it was totally uncalled for
whatever and they said here go apologize and try to correct their behavior I'm
like Jerry I hate apologizing right so something that I learned was quit doing
stupid things that you have to apologize for so I hope you realize if you're new
to my channel this video isn't for James tall's this video is for you so if you
can relate to James Charles always having to apologize how about you start
going to therapy how about you start meditating you know what I mean how
about you start running your ideas past other people something that I do
constantly that y'all don't even know about really is that I'm constantly
running ideas past twisting for YouTube videos for tweets you know what I mean
like do you think this would cause a problem right because my ego says I
should do it but thank goodness Tristan has a very level head and that's maybe a
bad idea alright but anyways you shorten with
anger issues check out the description below there's some resources like my
book and some other stuff come to the discord server we have an entire chat
just for venting so you don't gotta tweet stuff out and then apologize later
alright that's all I got for this video if you
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