Today on Fertility TV, we're diving deep into the nine things that you need to know when
trying to conceive. Whether you're just starting this journey or have been on it for a while,
these key insights will not only empower you but also guide you towards a healthy pregnancy. In
case you're new here, welcome to Fertility TV. This is the place to be when trying to
get pregnant, improve your health, and get to the root cause of your fertility struggles.
I've helped thousands of women improve their fertility and get pregnant over the last 20 years.
I've been a fertility expert. I've helped them by finding out what's not letting them get pregnant,
developing a personalized plan for them, and giving them ongoing support while they follow
the plan to improve their health and fertility. Before we start with the nine things that you
need to know when trying to conceive, make sure to download the free guide that I've created for you,
so you can start improving your fertility now at home. Totally free, just download it right
here using the link in the description below. All right, let's get started. Tip number one:
age does matter, but not as much as you think. It's not the main reason why you're not getting
pregnant. And I know that everyone puts this emphasis on age because they use age as this
guide, these markers that determine your success rate and what treatment you should receive. And
again, I'm not saying that age is not important, but age is the only thing you can't control and
you can't change. That's right. Everything else that you need to do to address fertility and to
support yourself can be improved and can be changed. Age cannot. So when it comes to your
fertility, I want you to understand how your age impacts things and what else is really important.
So actually, I want to start there. I want to start with what else is really important because
that's everything. You have to look at the big picture. You have to look at the entire picture:
your hormones and what they're telling you, your overall health and what it's telling
you. Any area, any system in your body that is not functioning properly and supports it,
needs to be addressed. You need to take care of the lifestyle factors. You need to take
care of the things that you can actually control and influence. That is number one,
and that is by far more important than age. Where age really comes into play is in making decisions.
It's what I call the time factor because depending on your age, it will either shrink
your time or expand, give you plenty of time. Now let me explain that by an example. I had a
member in the program, and she's 33, and I had another member in the program, and she was 41.
Two different ages, right? They had very similar presentations. They had high FSH, low AMH, and
they had slightly irregular cycles. But the way you approach that with each one of them is very,
very different. The one that's 41 has to make decisions in a much shorter time frame because
of the impact of time on her overall journey and the options available to her and when she should
move forward with those. The one that was 33 had plenty of time, so we focused on her plan first,
and we said, let's give this easily 6 to 12 months before we make any additional decisions
in terms of a path because she didn't have a rush on anything. And that's where age and time
really play a role on your fertility journey. Tip number two: IVF is not the best and not the
only next step when you are trying to conceive. So I say it in that way because often what happens
or what you read and what you watch and what you interpret from that information is that IVF will
get us pregnant, and it's the best chance for us, and it's the next step that we need to take
because we haven't been pregnant. So I think that really varies from individual couple and based on
circumstances, age, time, and diagnosis. These are all variables that play into this process.
We've become very comfortable with IVF, which is great. It serves a really important place and is
really, really helpful. However, it's not the only treatment, and for many of you, it's not the best
treatment. I believe that anywhere between 50 to 70% of couples who go towards IVF never ever
needed it and have done it prematurely, which tells me that these couples could have tried
other things. The reason we end up going to IVF is that our OB tells us that's really the next step,
or you heard from a friend, "Oh, you've been struggling. Maybe the situation's similar,"
and they said, "Why, I did IVF." So you choose IVF as well. There's nothing wrong with IVF. I
just feel like many of you just don't need it. So I want to encourage you to get real answers,
to get real information on your situation, to determine if for you as an individual based on
your circumstances, your history, your diagnosis, your age, your time, all of these variables,
if IVF is really the best choice for you and the next step for you. And that's really what
I want you to do. I don't want you to make that assumption. I want to make sure that it's a real
choice and it is the best next step for you. Okay, number three. That's right, lab work.
Lab work is important and essential and needs to be comprehensive. You've heard me say this
over and over, but I'm going to say it again. Without understanding what your body is going
through and what your labs are telling you, you're missing a lot of information, and your
lab work is going to tell you what's going on with your hormones at a deep level so that you
have the proper information to make the proper decisions moving forward. So that's why it's so
important because it tells you about you and your hormones and what is going on with your fertility.
How to get those labs? Well, hopefully, your OB or your REI will order all of those for you, but
what I will tell you from 20 years of experience is odds are that's not the case. So you may need
to find somebody else who's going to be able to order those labs for you. Many of you, especially
in the United States and in other countries, can actually order many of these things on your own,
which is amazing and awesome option. But you need to make sure you're ordering the right things,
which is why I want to remind you to download my free guide. Use that link in the description
below because I have a complete list of the lab work that you need in that guide,
and I want to make sure you get it, and I want to make sure you have the right list so that you
can get the right test. I also have some links in there to help you, especially if you're in the US,
on how to get that testing done on your own. Tip number four: a semen analysis is mandatory
or should be considered mandatory. I know for many of you, your partners think it's optional. They
don't want to do it for whatever reason. They're uncomfortable; their egos might even get in the
way, and they're just like, "This is just not for me or it's too awkward." I'm telling you this is
mandatory. There are no options here. Semen analysis is essential. It takes two to tango,
to tango, not to tangle, to tango. Maybe you'll get tangled in that tango part, but it takes
two of you to make this happen, right? We need sperm, and we need egg, and more importantly,
we need good, good sperm, and we need good eggs, and we need those to come together to create a
healthy embryo. That is why a semen analysis is mandatory and not optional. We need to know what's
going on there. 50% of all fertility issues are male factors, and I'm not just saying that because
it's 50% of the equation, right? There's two of you. I'm saying it because factually, 50% of all
fertility issues are male factors. So if you don't know what that is, what that information
is telling you, you have to get it done. And if you've done it years ago, you've got to redo it.
If your partner has had children in the past, it does not mean that the sperm are healthy
now. We still need to test his sperm; we still need to know what's going on. So, absolutely,
it's essential and mandatory to have that done. Okay, I love this one. This is number five. What
worked for your sister, your friend, your neighbor might not work for you. That's
right. Just because your sister, your neighbor, your best friend went to see a specific doctor,
did a specific thing, ran around the block, and they got pregnant, whatever it is, doesn't mean
that that's going to be the right next step for you. And that's why having an individualized plan
and individualized personalized support for you is so, so important. Yes, I don't know what they
did. I don't know what their circumstances were, and I don't know how or why they got
pregnant. What I can tell you is maybe some of the things that they're doing are helpful for you,
but probably not everything that they're doing. So you need a comprehensive individualized
personalized plan for your specific needs, which is why we need to know what's going on. It's going
to be based on your age, your lab work, your husband's semen analysis—all of these things
are going to impact your plan and how you move forward, which is why you need to get that done.
So as much as they're being helpful and you love them, and they mean the best for you,
it's not always in your best interest. So I want to make sure that you understand that and that
you are able to get the care that you need and not the care that they needed for themselves.
Number six: If you don't feel like your doctor is listening to you or understands where you're
coming from, then you need to find a different doctor. I just spoke to a member of my program,
and I hear this all the time. Yeah, so that you know I went and spoke to them, and the doctor just
told me, you know that I need needed IVF or I need to take this medication, and it didn't feel like
he listened to anything else that I said. I didn't really get a good explanation about anything. He
didn't tell me why I was having these issues. If you're experiencing that, then you might need to
speak to somebody else. If you've been working with someone and you feel like, you know, maybe
that's run its course, they haven't been able to give me the information that I need. They listened
in the beginning but maybe they're not listening now because they're so set in their ways, you need
to find a different option. So, I encourage all of you to get a second opinion or even
a third opinion, and more importantly, you need to speak to someone who has a totally different
perspective. That might be if you're working with an IVF doctor; it might mean that you need an IVF
doctor that has a different perspective on things. That might not be easy to find. If you are working
with an IVF doctor and you want a more natural perspective to balance things out, that's where I
can help you, and that's where my program can help you. We understand different circumstances and
needs, and we've seen it all over the 20 years, and so we know how to guide you and how to help
you advocate for yourself, so you can get the care that you need. Okay, number seven: eating healthy
might not be enough. That's right, and more importantly, it might not be what you need. That
eating healthy is not bad, but is that exactly what you need? So, more specifically, I think that
you need a personalized plan nutritionally and for your supplements based on your individual needs
and your lab work. More importantly, that's right, so is eating healthy generally okay? Absolutely,
but eating, let's just say, a paleo diet versus a keto diet versus intermittent fasting versus
a vegetarian diet versus a pegan diet versus autoimmune diet—these are all different types
of diets, and I just named a few, right? That's just like a handful, but more importantly, how
about within each one? Like, if you ate a paleo diet, is everyone who eats a paleo diet eating
the exact same way? No, and you shouldn't because even though that might be the outline, the general
framework that you have to work within, we could take five different individuals, and they're going
to be eating slightly differently within this diet plan based on their specific needs, culturally
where they were raised, their diagnosis, their lab work. So that not only happens with diet but
happens with supplements as well. I think a great example of that is women with PCOS, polycystic
ovarian syndrome. If we take women with PCOS, they might all be on slightly different supplements or
some combination, some different combination of those differently for all five of them based on
the reason, the root cause for their PCOS, and any secondary findings, any secondary diagnoses
that are there. So, you need a personalized plan for you to get the results that you're looking
for. Number eight: stopping life and obsessing won't get you pregnant faster. Ask for support
and let that burden and go to somebody else so that you can just follow that framework. Many of
us actually what we end up doing is that we stop everything, right? Like, I can't go on vacation, I
can't see friends, I have to just do this 24 hours so I can get 24 hours a day so I can get pregnant.
That's not going to help you. We need balance, and more importantly, we need support. So,
I want to encourage all of you to get the proper support that you need so that you can achieve the
goals that you're looking for and don't stop living life. There are vacations for a reason;
they're healthy for you. Take them, spend time with friends and family. They're there to
support you, but make sure they're with people who actually support you and that you enjoy spending
time with. Don't ignore those things. Number nine: how do I know that I need to improve egg quality?
This is such an amazing question and an important question. This all comes down to, by the way,
your personalized evaluation and assessment looking at your lab work, your medical history,
your diagnosis. All of these are going to add up to tell us: do you really need egg quality
supported? That's right. Now, most of you assume that egg quality is what you need, and that's
why so often that's the approach that's taken. You might not ever need egg quality support; it
might be something else with your endocrine system might be stress, but that's what you're focusing
on is egg quality. I would guess that about 30 to 40% of you actually are treating and supporting
egg quality, and you don't even need it. But for those of you who do need it, then we need to make
sure that you are taking the right things, which is why myself and two other fertility experts,
Aimee Raupp and Dr. Merhi, created three amazing new fertility supplements. And because we're
talking about egg quality, that's what I'm going to talk about right now. We created a product
called Rejuva Eggs, and I'm going to leave that link in the description below to help improve your
egg quality and ovarian function. And in addition to that, we created a second product called Rejuva
Repair, which is targeted antioxidants to support mitochondrial health and function and enhance
the effects of Rejuva Eggs. And you can take those together to improve your egg quality,
ovarian function, and help you get pregnant. And if that's something that you're interested in,
again, I'm going to leave that link in the description below so you can check it out.
All right, if you really want to go deep into your fertility and find the root cause that's
not allowing you to get pregnant, then I want you to fill out the application as soon as possible by
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identify what the next best steps are for you and see if you are a good fit to join me in my hope
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A 42-year-old woman was able to get pregnant and I will see you in the next video. Stay fertile.