By the end of this video, you're going to have 10 things,
make sure you watch till the end.
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Let's talk about the 10 things you should stop doing with narcissists and
you're going to want to make sure you watch till the end,
because the 10th one is the best one.
I know that you definitely want to do that,
it is so hard, because they trigger you all the time and
you really want to call them a narcissist,
especially now that you're like, studying all this stuff and
you're like reading it and you're looking at it and
you're watching these videos you’re like,
“Oh my God, they are such a narcissist, right?”
But don't call them that, you know why?
You know what the real reason is you don't want to call them that?
Because the minute you do, that’s what you're going to be,
they are definitely going to be calling you that now.
That's going to be your new word and
not only are they going to be calling you that to you,
they're going to be telling everybody else that that's what you are,
that's going to be their new favorite word.
They're going to be saying that to all their flying monkeys,
all the neighbors, their best friends, everybody in the world.
That's going to be their new word for you,
so, definitely don't call them that.
You are going to be caught setting boundaries now,
because now that you're learning about all this stuff,
you are going to have to set new boundaries,
because there's going to be a new game in town,
there's going to be a new you in town,
you are going to be learning how to recondition them,
they've conditioned you,
they've learned how to make you good supply for them,
they've been doing it sometimes for years,
whether it's a business relationship, a personal relationship,
whatever kind of relationship it has been,
you've taught them how to treat you,
you’ve got to teach them it's going to be a new way now,
but don't allow them to cross those boundaries, okay?
You're going to be setting new ones,
don't allow them to cross those new boundaries, all right?
They have been disrespecting you for a long time,
now, you're just going to very calmly say,
“You're not going to talk to me like this anymore,
we can have a conversation when you are ready
to talk to me in a manner that is respectful” and that's that.
If they don't like it, that's fine.
They're like two year olds in adult bodies,
they can have their tantrum,
they can have it somewhere else that's not near you.
I do have a whole video,
it's called “This is the only way to get narcissists to respect you”,
I highly recommend that you check that out,
there are very few ways to get narcissists to respect you,
you definitely need to check that video out.
They're just not going to,
so stop expecting them to, just forget about it.
There are certain like F words when it comes to narcissists and
that's like one of those things, just forget about it.
You can give them the facts, especially
when you're writing them emails, or texts or something like that,
you can respond to them,
don't explain or justify, or anything like that.
You just respond to the facts, that's it.
Just put “Truth” in the comments.
They will use it, you know they will.
I mean, dealing with a narcissist is like getting arrested,
anything you say or do will be used against you and
you know it will,
I mean, especially if you're in a litigation battle with them,
anything you put your hand to, is going to be a potential trial exhibit
so don't give them any ammunition,
like, if you go to write something,
just imagine like the judges face over your shoulder going,
“Mmm, no, yes, no, don't you dare push send on that”,
that's what you need to remind yourself of, all right?
Don't give them any ammunition,
please don't do that to yourself.
My dad used to say, “Consider the source”,
that's what you need to remind yourself,
do not take anything personally,
we're talking about narcissists here, people,
like, they don't think highly of themselves inside, they don't,
as they say things to you,
be like Superman with the bullets flying off your chest,
or like Wonder Woman with the bullets off your thing,
like okay, yeah, I hear you saying that, mmm.
They're narcissists, you're not getting that from them,
you didn't get it when you were like in a relationship with them,
you're not getting it now,
with narcissists it's either black or white with them,
so, that means you're either for them or against them.
If you're against them, that means you're public enemy number one.
You're not getting empathy, compassion or caring from them,
it's not going to happen.
That's their grade A Diamond level supply,
they will do whatever they have to to defend that… Whatever they have to.
That's your leverage people, that's your strategy.
Remember slay, my S.L.A.Y methodology and
you are going to slay this because you're going to remember this, right?
All right, number 10.
Remember I told you that number 10 was like the best one?
Well, we've gotten to number 10 here.
They’re not going to go, “Yeah, I was a jackass to you”,
“Oh my God, I was a terrible person,
I could see that I lied and the impact on you was awful”.
They’re not going to do that,
stop getting them trying to get them to see that,
you're like totally wasting your time.
You’re not getting the closure, it's not gonna happen, move on,
it will be so much better for you, so much better for your life,
so don't do that.
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all so much better ideas than wasting your breath
trying to get them to see the error of their ways and
stop doing all these things that I said because
it is all the waste of time, all right?
Remember today is a great day to start negotiating your best life.
I will definitely see you in the next video!