yeah so like most people today I just read the disgusting blog post from Alec
holowka former partner scott Benson and it is so disgusting what we're gonna
be talking about today is how everybody wants to be a mental health advocate and
raise mental health awareness until they have to deal with somebody who has a
mental illness what's up everybody this is chris from the rewired soul where we
talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel
what i try to do is take different topics going on in the community and try
to see what lessons we can learn from it and something i am very very passionate
about is mental health not only have i overcame my own struggles which i'll
discuss a little bit in this video but i have worked in the field for a little
over three years now but I've been clean and sober for seven years and I've been
working on my certified alcohol and drug counselors license but you'll learn more
about that later anyways if you're into this stuff make sure you subscribe and
bring that notification bell and do me a favor do me a favor and share this video
because I see this happen all of the time and even though we're making great
strides forward to talk about mental health issues it seems like we're living
in the dark ages and it just it blows my mind so yeah we're gonna be talking
about the the blog posts from Scott Benson
Alex former partner I'm gonna link it down below I'm not gonna go through this
this dude wrote way too much and it's just absolutely ridiculous
long story short he's writing about how awful a person was who just committed
suicide and had a mental illness a history of mental illness that this dude
acknowledges right so check this out if you just came here to listen to me rant
about scott benson or talk about zoe quinn being an awful person you're in
the wrong place alright well i am going to discuss how
awful some of this stuff going on is I'm gonna be sharing some of my personal
experience because listen you guys like so many people are watching this and
you're not learning a damn thing from it all right like we need to look at this
and learn about it because here's the thing there are people in your life
right now struggling with a mental illness and you're acting like Scott
Benson alright so many of us do this because here's the thing when it comes
to mental illness everybody just wants to talk about the light and fluffy
mental illnesses right like everybody wants to believe that oh yeah I'm a
mental health advocate with what they really mean is I don't mind talking to a
friend who's going through a bout of depression alright
like this dude Scott Benson talked about how he knew Alec had mood disorders
because Scott Benson had him as well right
also Alec's sister came out talking about personality disorder like you guys
the way we treat people with personality disorders is absolutely disgusting so
Alex sister opened up about how Alec not only stole through a personality
disorders but he was also a victim of abuse and like here's the thing that we
need to take into consideration all right
so many people so many people like if you look it up the statistics of people
who are in prison right or the people who are just you know people who are
emotionally abusive and relationships which doesn't mean it's an excuse but
these people were abused in their life right and the most we can ask for these
people is when they're an adult that they go out and they get help and that's
what pisses me off about this story every single thing I fear about who Alec
was before he took his own life was he was working on it all right
he even apologized to Zoe Quinn okay but there are more mental illnesses than
just anxiety and depression because here's the thing I guarantee all the
people like Scott Benson all the people talking crap about Alec and his history
these are all people who say that they're there
their mental health advocates and you know believe survivors and all this but
here's the thing they pick and choose so one thing that I want to talk about the
Scott Benson brings up and this is something that I see happen all the time
on the internet all the time oh you can look at what just happened to Etica
alright and here's what it is if you're making suicidal threats you're
an annoyance but once you commit suicide then we feel bad like hi that's how it
starts all right like people who are mentally
ill do talk about committing suicide and they need help the problem is is that
most people don't know what to do right so many people say oh they're just doing
it for attention like to see this guy to see this guy write a blog post talking
about how a man who just committed suicide used to threaten committing
suicide blows my mind all right and I hope you guys are following me here when
people threaten suicide they're an annoyance but once somebody commits
suicide we all just feel bad now some of you who are just meeting me hey sorry
for being so amped up but you're wondering why I'm so passionate about
this topic so like I mentioned I am seven years clean and sober I have
struggled with mental illness most of my life I had a traumatic childhood being
raised by an alcoholic mother and let me tell you this I am living proof that
people can grow and change and when I see their disgusting things that people
are saying about this guy Alec it makes me sick to my stomach all right I was
talking with one of my friends today who's been following this story as well
and like he's known me he's known me since before I ever picked up a drink or
a drug he was my roommate during my addiction I'm like could you imagine
could you mad mike let's say I died let's say I died clean sober I've been
this clean sober guy for seven years now let's say I died tomorrow now imagine a
bunch of people just coming out with all their stories about who I used to be in
my act of addiction right but what the hell like you guys
just for the purpose of this video I have no problem opening up about this
stuff I used to be an awful human being I used to lie cheat steal
I would buy drugs instead of food for my son or instead of clothes alright I
would steal from my own mother okay I did awful terrible things I wasn't a
good boyfriend I'm sure I'm sure in blackouts and
things like that I was what you would call emotionally and verbally abusive
and on the other hand I also dated women who are emotionally and verbally some of
them were even physically abusive towards me right because I was messed up
in the head for a very long time okay not only that but I was also so
depressed and so suicidal I was the type of person who would threatened suicide
and help all these ups and downs and issues with my emotions bouncing all
over the place one day I love you one day I hate you
all right but it's been seven years and I am miles away from the person that I
used to be so the question I want everybody to ask themselves out there is
this like who deserves Redemption who deserves forgiveness okay like I've been
clean and sober for seven years my beautiful girlfriend sitting behind me
she's never seen me drunk or high my son who is 10 years old now I got sober when
he was 3 years old doesn't remember me drunk or high but could you imagine if
people were still holding that stuff over my head are you imagine like I said
if you and I see what happened to Alec and I'm like oh wow Chris like maybe
you've become successful and you start you know going around speaking about
mental health and addiction recovery and then some asshole from your past comes
out and tries to ruin you for things you did back in your addiction and thank God
I have the tools necessary to handle it now you know what I mean so
when I see this post like I look at what Scott Benson posts I'm just like what
was your motive what was your goal what were you trying to accomplish here like
the only thing I can think when I'm reading that I'm like are you trying to
explain the world to the world that that you know it's a good thing that this man
who is working on himself took his life but what was the endgame right here's
the thing I have compassion for Scott Benson all
right and like somebody left a stupid comment the other day like oh this guy's
a gamer now like oh like I have a pretty sense of gaming history anyways like
here's the thing like a lot of us a lot of people like in gaming but not even
just in gaming like we suck at having social skills you know what I mean and
look at Scott Ben so I'm like what are you doing you're trying to impress
people are you trying to like get good like you know a new significant other by
saying oh look look at me and look like I what I stand for and everything like
that but like I said the thing that disgust me is everybody who's on that
side who's like celebrating the loss of Alec I guarantee every single one of
them tries to talk like they're a mental health advocate but they're only a
mental health advocate if you have one of the good mental illnesses if you have
a good mental illness that doesn't make you angry or upset or anything like that
alright again this isn't to excuse anybody's behavior those of you who know
me who have been around my channel for a while I'm a huge advocate of personal
responsibility seven years ago I had to realize that I could no longer use my
past as an excuse to continue being a dick and that's why I work so hard on my
mental health but I see somebody like Alec who was working on this right he
was working on this he was trying to apologize to the people he heard in the
past much like me and a bunch of other drug addicts and alcoholics who have
recovered but you have someone like Alec who wasn't an addict but he was trying
to better his life and you see these people
is crapping all over them alright so when you go out there and you say that
your all-pro mental health think about what that really means alright if you
need to like when I'm reading Scott Benson's blog posts like let's talk
about this for a few minutes I was gonna end the video but give me a minute all
right here's the thing this is why we need to talk more about mental health
learn how to set boundaries okay like listen I feel sorry I feel sorry for
many people who you know if you're like you know the employee of a bosses a jerk
and stuff and if that was a traumatizing experience or whatever it is but learn
how to set boundaries alright like that's something that I can speak about
from experience I used to get in the most toxic relationships I used to let
people walk all over me and talk down on me and just belittle me and everything
like that and now since I've developed some self
love and self worth I don't allow people to treat me like that
alright so although the other person might be mentally ill you have the
choice to walk away if you are in a me a type of abusive relationship reach out
and get help there are resources everywhere if you don't know what to do
shoot me a DM I'm on Twitter and Instagram at the rewired soul I will
help you alright but what I've realized working with literally thousands of
people is a lot of people do not leave abusive relationships out of fear and
it's not even necessarily fear of being physically harmed but it's financial
fear right like oh well how am I going to afford this how am I going to afford
that and all that stuff and that's when we just got to look within ourselves and
check out priorities but if you are in a situation like this seek help there are
so many resources and maybe if you're not very good at setting up boundaries
seek out therapy talk with a therapist because sometimes we are just too too
too much of people pleasers or we're codependent
right and we have to learn to break away from toxic people like I'm not saying
that anybody should have stayed around Alec longer than than they should have
right but people should have left all right like that's what we need to do we
need to set up those boundaries so like for example if you're single and looking
to get in a relationship if you start noticing the frickin red flags get the
hell out of there all right man anyway it's like this this whole thing has just
got me riled up and just try to think about compassion forgiveness mental
health mental illness setting up boundaries like learn from what just
happened okay a man is dead the Internet is fighting over ridiculous stuff and
not even realizing how so many people involve so many people on Twitter
blaming zoe quinn blaming these other people you're treating people in your
life with mental illness like absolute garbage we need to check in with
ourselves on that all right we don't get to pick and choose oh okay I'll deal
with this nice this nice mental illness alright anyways I'm done ranting alright
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