- He promised you the world,
but something just doesn't feel right.
(upbeat jazz music)
Hello, my name is Greta Bereisaite.
I'm dating and relationship coach for women.
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Just before I share with you the three key reasons
why men make promises,
don't forget to take myself awareness test:
Are You A Woman Of Low Value Or Higher Value?
Which I will drop down in the video description box below.
So let's start.
Number one is promises through flattery and future.
There is nothing wrong with a man giving you
a lot of flattery and promises.
And if he is giving you flattery and promises,
he is charming you, it means he's attracted to you.
He is interested in you.
He feels the chemistry.
Therefore, he wants to promise you the world
and make you feel amazing.
Compare flattery and promises to a light version
of a man serenading to you.
I mean, it's a bit of kind of low investment light version,
but it's still something similar to that.
It's like a beautiful poem. We all enjoy it.
But the main key here is not to be naive and gullible,
but to be wise.
If you choose to be naive and fall into his trap,
like sleep at him way too soon,
or actually think that he fell in love with you
from the moment he has seen you,
you're going to be jumping up and down in your mind.
And because of that, you will decide to give
your whole self to him in the first few days,
weeks or months, most likely he'll be gone in no time.
He will feel that you're way too easy. So ladies, be wise.
Men do not fall in love at first sight as they are smart.
I would say don't underestimate men,
overestimate them instead.
Because it's them who are coming with strategies
on how to seduce women.
And if him falling in love at first sight with you was true,
he would fall in love literally
with every single female he met that was attractive.
Men fall in love with spending quality time with a woman.
And the only way to keep a charmer is to behave correctly.
Which is being smart, being high value.
Setting proper boundaries,
respecting yourself, loving yourself,
taking the relationship step by step
and observing his behavior.
Ladies, let him charm you and enjoy it,
as it's a natural and wonderful feeling.
As long as you understand it is to charm you and impress you
for you to like him and show you his best cards.
Please watch my video right here,
How To Be A High Value Woman,
if you want to keep us charmer interested.
The number two, he makes promises to keep you around,
to drag you along for as long as he can.
Guys want to squeeze as much as we can out of you.
Not all guys, but many of them.
So if you are in a relationship with a guy
for one, two or three years,
and he has not given you full commitment,
and there is nothing official happening,
I mean engagement or marriage,
it's because he is dragging it out.
He might have told you that he really wants to marry you,
have plenty of kids,
he's talking about getting the house together.
He says what he knows you want to hear in the moment
to buy some time.
But as the time passes, he will start mentioning things
such as before committing, first I want to move in.
And then he'll want to start a business with you
and then have a baby.
If you agree to all this first before marriage, for example,
few years down the line, you will be moved in together,
pregnant, with the business to share,
and he will start saying things such as:
I think I might have some commitment issues.
Where will you go then?
You are trapped.
So what do you do not to fall in such a situation?
I would really recommend to have a timeframe for yourself.
He doesn't need to know about it.
If one, two, three years down the line
the relationship is not growing
and you have been really high value,
really the best version of yourself,
then you have nothing else to do,
but let it go as he simply does not deserve you.
A high value woman is a rare diamond.
If he is not seeing that or assuming that every woman
is like that, and there is way more fish in the sea,
let it go as he is simply not a worthy of you.
If he doesn't see your value
and doesn't appreciate you for who you are,
ladies, keep your self-dignity and let him go.
The relationship, same as everything in life,
needs to grow and flow in order to be happy and fulfilling.
Otherwise it becomes like still water, which is not moving.
It gets stagnant, dirty, filthy, and it starts to stink.
Number three, promises that he will start to change.
If you have been dating a guy
and you have been on that low value side,
which is losing emotional control, arguing,
please watch my video:
What Is A Woman Of Low Value? right here.
It is natural that your guy has been taking you for granted
and not treating you well because you were acting immature
and not valuing or respecting yourself.
If you broke up with this guy and he now wants you back,
you can take him back and test him
to see how things will go.
And if you are now applying high value to your behavior,
which is again, being mature, wise,
in control of your emotions,
understanding the differences between men and women.
If you're not sure are you high value or low value,
as I said before, you can take my free self awareness test,
which is linked down in my video description box below.
You can see how much the relationship is improving
because a guy will only change how he treats you
only when you will change on how
you treat yourself and others.
So if you'll value yourself, if you'll respect yourself,
he will start to value and respect you too.
However, if you already have a high value behavior
from the start, you are a busy woman
going for your dreams and goals,
you take care of yourself, you go to the gym,
you set boundaries and he is doing nothing with his life.
He is partying, he's lazy,
plays a million of manipulative games.
He has no goals, no dreams, no ambitions.
And he lacks emotional control
and you choose to break up with him
as that's just not good enough.
He then begs you back after a couple of months,
he promises that he will change.
Well, it will not happen.
Why?
Because it's impossible for anyone to make solid changes
in their lives in just a few weeks or months.
Change is a long-term process.
It can take years if you're serious about your own change.
Self-improvement, for example.
And it can take many, many years
if you just grow as you go along.
And a lot of people don't even think they need to grow
or change for the better.
So that type of person is...
We can pray for them.
So if you want to take him back,
my suggestion is to take step by step.
Test him, date him, monitor his behavior.
You can still give him a chance, but be wise,
observe and take your time.
Then make that decision.
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And that's it. (giggles softly)
So, ladies, thank you for watching.
Have a beautiful day. Kisses from Manchester. (smooches)