This video is about "The First Sign of Disrespect from a Person" I'm going to reveal the first signs
of disrespect from a person you're dating and ideally what you should do about it....
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As somebody who has endured toxic friendships relationships and most
recently toxic family members, I'm well versed in this topic unfortunately
People are getting worse and worse ever since the pandemic... more selfish, ruder and more disrespectful
I don't network or meet a lot of people like I used to... I work alone, I live alone and socialize
when I can. From Summer 2021 to 2022 I was single and I went out on a lot of dates and spoke to lots
of different types of women in London, from different backgrounds age groups and so on
It didn't matter to me how attractive they were, nor what job they had, how they dressed... I was more
fixated on something deeper, and that was in my opinion the first display and sign of disrespect
That first red flag as such to see how they would treat myself and anyone else too
Why is this so important? Because whilst I don't like to generalize you are very disrespectful and
rude to everyone they surround themselves with especially those who they date get married to
and speaking from experience the first moment I noticed any sign of rudeness entitlement
etc it would turn me off especially again if this was on a first date because ultimately I've dated
a toxic woman before for years... why on Earth would I want to repeat that all over again?
I really don't want that and neither should you AKA dating anyone that's toxic at the very first
sign of disrespect... politely and abruptly just walk in the other direction... their mask is slipped
you know what this person is like now and what you'd be in store for for the long haul if you
decide to stick around. Here are some signs of disrespect that happen early on by toxic people!
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you seriously or prioritize you or make you feel respected, but flaking is a huge sign of disrespect
Flaking is basically canceling at the last moment, throwing you under the bus
Will was seeing a girl he met off Tinder, things were going well, they'd been on just one date and he had
organized a nice dinner at a restaurant in London. They confirmed a time, where to meet and of course
the evening. Will came home and spent an hour getting ready then jumped on the train ready to
meet his lovely lady for a nice evening. He got to the restaurant bang on time sat at the table and
then saw the following texts = "Hey I'm tired.... what a long day! I've not got up from the sofa haha!
Can we take a rain check please?" She texted him the moment they were supposed to meet. Will was angry
but responded "okay rest up, let's meet another time!" There was no other time, she flaked two more times
even to just meet up for coffee.... she was a time waster and very rude. "I don't get it" said Will
"We kissed on our first date... we talked all the time.... why is it so hard just to meet up?!" Flaking like
this is a sign of disrespect especially at the 11th Hour aka the last moment like his date did
I've been flaked on plenty of times... once a flake always a flake... Notice how in her message she did
not say" let me make it up to you... the next meal is on me... I feel terrible... I'm sorry blah blah blah"
No she never took personal responsibility for her flaking, because truthfully she did not care
for Will nor did she care how she treated him nor does she care about how she treats anyone. Flaking
is a huge sign of disrespect and in my opinion especially with dating should never be tolerated!
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Have you ever spoken to a brick wall? That's what it's like talking to a rude, distant
toxic difficult person... especially early on. Jemima was ready to date again after a nasty breakup... her
ex was immature and never listened to anything she had to say. When she began dating she met a
guy she really clicked with... he was handsome, had a great job and there was a lot of fun to be had
Jemima spoke to him every day with texts, phone calls and voice notes... she was an open book
showing everything about her life... her family wants, needs, fears and so on. He opened up a bit as well
but it all seemed to fall apart by the third date. Jemima noticed that when she was talking
he wasn't listening... he'd be looking around the room or at his phone like his mind was elsewhere
"My work's been manic and so stressful" she said at dinner. "Remind me what do you do again?" he asked.
A little bit later she started complaining about her housemates "I didn't know you lived with someone?"
he said. Jemima knew, this guy didn't care what she had to say, her opinion on things, nothing
He just was not listening, he may have liked her but just never probably listened or took anything
she said on board... and it hurt her because she dated a guy for three years who never listened
especially when she was at her lowest or going through a very tough time and the last thing
she wanted was to be dating another person who didn't have the respect and decency to actually
listen to what she had to say and listen to her needs and what makes her who she is deep
down and even just the casual things like who she lives with, what job she has. Truthfully they
don't listen because I believe they don't really care, that never changes either as time goes on
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Deflection - That's a classic tool used by toxic people, it's also a real serious sign of disrespect
If a person cannot take any form of personal responsibility they are not worth your time at all
I once dated a woman who was very entitled, she was attractive, charming but I noticed she'd never
offer to pay the bill when we went out... that's another sign of disrespect by the way. By the
third date I called her out on it "you know it'd be nice if you even offered to contribute?" I said. She
scoffed "excuse me! You asked me out, therefore it's your treat not mine... remember you're the man... you
must always pay..." It was no surprise that I never saw her again, but even if it wasn't about a bill
being paid, That's a classic case of deflection.... Simply blaming anyone or everyone or anything
else for their behavior. Some examples of this can include "I'm late because you booked a difficult
place to get to...It's your fault I'm having a bad time... I did nothing wrong it's my parents fault... I
have nothing to say sorry for, if anyone should be sorry it's you..." Now if you are indeed an empathetic
person who hates confrontation you might be willing to let these statements go early on
The last thing you want to do is fall out with them right? Wrong! These people will get worse
over time... pretty soon they'll blame the person who's closest to them in their lives AKA if you
end up dating them exclusively they'll blame you for their job, they'll blame you for their poor
habits, when it comes to hygiene even cleaning up or actually financial habits or their bad behavior
They'll blame you for being upset when it's got nothing to do with you! You will get blamed for
everything and anything, even just breathing and existing! Is that what you want? Hell no!
Whenever a person, especially early on attacks you verbally and on a really serious personal
level that's a massive red flag. I remember going on a date with a woman who criticized me for how
I was dressed.... I have never been criticized for the clothes I wear by anyone in my life
We were driving to a restaurant and she shouted at me "you're wearing a jumper?! Really?!" Like a fool I
still drove there and left after the starters... she was clearly not right... I was treating her to dinner
driving her and she felt the need to shout at me for wearing a black smart jumper, and I wasn't in
a suit. Serious personal attacks get worse over time... especially if they're comfortable enough
to talk to you and comfortable enough to treat you in such a disgusting rude manner early on
Don't give them the opportunity, these people are rude and disrespectful... that's it... they get some
sort of rise out of an argument... they genuinely enjoy causing problems, creating drama... they just
want to chip away at you... they just want to bring you down... once again, don't let them. Walk away
You are not never going to accept such behavior nor should you deserve it nor should anyone else!