hi guys i've had some of the worst feeling days in a very long time so i thought what
else is there to do then make a video about it and hopefully someone can benefit from these tips
i just feel really tired i feel like i work too much and it just feels like i spend the
whole days in front of my computer and on top of that i got a message from my aunt who's in norway
who got a message from some random person in sweden who said that there was a letter from
the graveyard saying that they might remove my mother's grave i mean it has honestly
not been a good week and tomorrow my husband is having surgery for his nose and i am super nervous
and it's just a big week and i don't really know how to get through it but i'm trying these tips
myself i've been depressed for many years um and i just really know i need to take very good care of
myself when i feel depressive tendencies because if not i risk slipping right back into depression
so that is what i'll share with you guys today also i promise there'll be no face masks to
help cure your depression in this video so if i'm having a bad day or a bad week as long as
i'm not super depressed i really try to do things one thing at a time i get easily overwhelmed when
i have a lot of tasks so i have a tendency to just push through it and just do them all very
forcefully and very with a lot of effort but that really doesn't help my mental well-being because
then i end up drained crying on the floor like i did yesterday night so instead today i'm taking
things one by one i started day very thoroughly me and my husband sat down and we did one thing at
a time we did breakfast and i did work then i did one task at work then the other one then i cleaned
then he went to work while you get the gist it's just about doing one thing at a time
to really feel calmer and don't feel like you're rushing through many different tasks because that
just doesn't feel good the next tip might be a bit counterproductive because i know this is
about taking care of your mental health but for me what really helps and what's really important
to remind myself of is to prioritize my physical health now that does not mean going to the gym
when i'm feeling like this or doing really hard yoga because that just makes me feel even worse
so instead it means about meeting my very basic physical needs because i tend to push them away
when my mental well-being is going down so it's very little things like drinking when i'm thirsty
filling my water bottle up instead of saying to myself oh you don't need it now just keep pushing
you can drink in 30 minutes or you don't need to go to the bathroom now just keep pushing through
work and you can go to bathroom when you're done but the thing is that never really happens because
we live in this world of just constant to-do lists and tasks coming at us so i think we have to
prioritize our well-being in the sense we have to take breaks and for me that means especially when
i'm feeling down it means drinking water going to the bathroom and eating food when i'm hungry
and if i wouldn't be hungry i mean personally that never happens to me but i know there are people
who say like oh i don't really get hungry when i'm busy then you're gonna have to take schedule
breaks but personally um yeah that never ever happens to me the third thing that helps my mental
well-being is having a clean space around me but also the physical act of cleaning now when i feel
how things are overwhelming like they are this week and today i also suddenly start to notice
everything that is wrong about my house so i notice dust i notice dirt and i also get very very
tired and triggered by being on the computer since i spend so much time working in front of a screen
so therefore cleaning sort of has a dual purpose because or almost a triple purpose because it
allows me to accomplish something that makes me feel a bit more calm and grounded because i
can sort of remove that from my brain secondly it makes my house feel nicer so i don't even have to
go there if my like anxious tendencies start and thirdly it is a practice of movement that
doesn't involve screens the fourth tip that i'm trying to follow myself is to turn my phone off
it's easier said than done i tend to not spend a lot of time on my phone but when i'm upset or
anxious i tend to reach for my phone but what's really important for me to remind myself of
is that this never helps it doesn't matter if i look at happy videos on youtube
or if i look at something i like being in front of a screen really triggers my anxiety and it
just doesn't make me feel good another thing is this idea of widening your gaze so both for
your mental and physical well-being but also when you're feeling depressed is that we tend to really
narrow down our focus and this is also an issue for most of us working in front of a computer
that really narrowed down our focus and same thing when we're on our phones really really near our
focus but our eyes are meant to work wide you know they're meant to see things in nature and discover
things and using our peripheral view it's much healthier for the brain and it can really help tap
out of anxiety if it's not so intense sometimes widening your gaze can really help so for me
this is really important to stay off screens because it just keeps my narrow minded focus even
if it's on something positive it really doesn't matter it's still too narrow and then i also feel
not so good afterwards because i spend too much time on my phone
the one exception though is if i'm facetiming someone and that leads me on to the next point
so my next point is to reach out to a friend if i have the time which i haven't really felt
like i've had these couple of days but if i had i would have reached out to a friend sometimes
there's nothing better than to take a break from everything and just talk to a friend when i'm
feeling anxious i don't like talking about my anxiety with my friends but what does help is
to connect with the other human being and talk to them instead of focusing on what makes me feel sad
obviously this is only true for super healthy relationships so don't reach out to someone who
isn't kind one thing i recently learned or i guess remembered because it's very innate is from the
swedish guy he's a napropot napropath i don't know what that's called english anywho he said remember
if you don't feel like meditating you can just lie on the floor and stare up in the sky and that is
more than enough and for me this was sort of like an aha moment because when i'm feeling sad and
anxious i do not want to exercise i do not want to meditate i do not want to do breathing exercises
because this just feels like a lot of pressure and i tie my self-worth into doing these activities
but the idea of just lying on the ground and just looking up in the sky either either inside or
outside it really just calms me because first of all lying on the floor and feeling the support of
something firm is really grounding second of all it's just really nice to just do nothing
in the sense that you don't just do nothing and lie in front of the tv because then you
do something but you do nothing by just lying in front of in front of you know in front of yourself
and just looking up in the sky my next tip that really helped me last night when i had i told my
husband i said i'm going to have a panic attack within five minutes and he said do you want to do
this do you want to do this do you want to do this and i said no no no and then he said you want to
have a shower and i said hmm maybe so shower was and i think this really reminded me that anything
sensory really helps so anything that gets me out of my mind and into my body is extremely useful
and not into my body as again in a heart exercise way no but like into my bodies and realizing that
my body is not just my mind or my arms or my stomach or my heart my body is this cohesive
huge thing that has so many more parts than my brain or my mind that you know is that even in
there so my favorite tips for this would be riding showering being outside just lying on the ground
or going for an easy walk pretty much anything that is sensory in a sense and that is feels nice
and good for me and writing is fun i'll do that sometimes if i feel like it but especially it's
about this thing about the narrow minded focus again so going outside is normally better because
it helps widen my focus and just a reminder for anyone who's like me who struggled with episodes
of like compulsory training or training too hard or being too forceful on yourself it's just a
good reminder to do easy walks so don't go for a two-hour walk unless you want to i have one walk
that's completely flat which is great when we're feeling down we've used it many times because it's
completely flat but surrounded by nature and it's usually pretty quiet so that's a good one and my
last thing that i try to always remember is the phrase this too shall pass this phrase has really
helped me throughout my life remembering that things aren't permanent and when i remember that
even the bad feelings and the negative moments aren't permanent and that they will pass and in
the next moment or in the next day or in the next week or whenever they will just be forgotten about
it's a really good reminder when you feel really sad and can't really don't really feel like you
can do anything about it it makes it a bit easier for me to sit in the sadness if that makes sense
to find some sort of stillness and the sadness where it's okay that i'm being sad or it's being
okay that i feel anxious and it normally makes it feel more sad and less frustrating and less angry
which is normally um quite nice for me because i find it a lot easier to be sad
than to be angry simply because being angry can be so destructive so this too shall pass
is a fantastic phrase i like to remind myself of another one the bonus one i also have is
a quote which is gently my dear gently and that's also a good one to remind myself of
if i'm becoming more angry or more frustrated where it normally goes towards myself a bit more
i feel a bit better even just talking about this with you guys so thank you so much for watching i
find mental well-being so important especially since i've struggled with depression for
so so many years and not being able to sleep and anxiety and lots of disorders
but now i feel like i'm generally quite happy but i tend to be extremely cautious or maybe
extremely aware as a better word because it's less judgmental anytime i'm feeling down so this
week i had three days in a row of feeling sad and quite sad which is not so normal for me these days
so i tend to i try my best to really pick it up and really listen to my body my feelings
and just do one thing at a time listen to my own advice but also be hyper aware of my feelings
and emotions that i could fulfill my emotional and my physical needs so that my mental health
was okay those are my neighbors dogs but i think it's really important if you had depressive
tendencies in the past or if you feel like you're getting more and more depressed to really catch
these moments of sadness and be able to sit in them without harming yourself if that makes sense
so i'd love to hear what you thought about this video in the comments this may be a bit different
um thank you so much for watching it was a really fun video to make
because i'm hoping this will help me i still have a few hours left of this date to survive but i
think it will be fine and then just another day tomorrow and i'm hoping i will wake up
a bit happier then so thank you so much for watching and i'll see you next week bye
you