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The Power Of Silence
12 Moments you need to be silent
Speaking less has a lot more benefit than you might think.
If you are not aware of the power of silence and you are unsure when to speak and when
to stay silent, check out these 12 moments you should stay silent.
No1: When you are really angry When you are angry, your emotions get the
best of you.
You are not capable of thinking straight.
There is a real danger that you will say something you will really regret when you calm down.
So, the best thing to do when you are in a steaming rage is to take a step back and stay
silent.
That way you will allow yourself to process all the information.
You will be able to see things more clearly when you are calmer.
Then, all the decisions you make and all the things you say will be better and more productive.
No2: When someone else is really angry The decision to stay silent is not only smart
when you are angry but is a good move when someone else is angry as well.
People can’t hear what you want to communicate to them when they are in the heat of anger.
They hear only those things that add fuel to their feelings.
If you don’t want to start the argument or get in the middle of one, stay silent.
Wait for the person to cool down.
Then tell them everything they need to hear.
The conversation will be less futile that way.
No3: When someone taunts you Many people will engage in a verbal attack
just to taunt and irritate you, out of hatred or jealousy.
When someone only wants to hurt you, responding with words will only add credibility to their
words.
These kinds of people don’t deserve a response.
By staying silent, you will show that you are above these types of behavior.
Also, you will give them no material to continue to taunt you and they will have to stop.
No4: When someone needs to be heard There are many occasions when someone approaches
you out of the need to be heard.
They don’t want advice and they don’t want your running commentary.
They simply want to speak from their soul.
This is perhaps the most important occasion that you should be silent and see the power
of silence.
Sometimes, words cannot fix problems.
Silence can offer much needed empathy and support.
It’s a great help to just listen and show that you care.
No5: When you don’t have all the facts If you suspect or know that you don’t know
everything important on the topic of the conversation, you should stay silent and listen.
If it is some topic that is not your area of expertise, it is better to stay silent
than to appear ignorant.
This may be also the case when you are talking to your friends.
For instance, your friend might share with you that her boyfriend cheated on her, but
she didn’t tell you that she cheated on him too.
If you only heard one side of the story, it would be wiser to just listen, stay quiet
and not give any advice.
No6: When other people are gossiping Everyone gossips here and there.
But, it is often wiser to restrain from participating in gossip, especially if you are at work or
around people you don’t know that well.
It may seem entertaining, fun, and even harmless.
But don’t fall into that trap.
The next time someone talks about someone you know, stay silent and let them talk.
That way you will learn a lot about those who are gossiping.
If they ask for your opinion, you can give some vague response or tell them you don’t
know that person very well.
It may feel a little awkward, but you will surely feel much better later on.
No7: When someone has just criticized you When someone criticizes us, our first and
natural response is to get defensive and maybe a little louder than we usually are.
But, the wise thing to do is to stay silent.
Critics provoke negative emotions.
It is better to stay quiet, stop and think about the criticism but also about the person
criticizing you.
If the criticism is based on real evidence and the person told you that in a calm, non-accusatory
way, then think about your behavior and about what you will say in response.
But if the criticism was malicious and said with spite, the best thing to do is remain
silent and move on.
No8: When someone has made an obvious mistake When someone messes up and makes an obvious
mistake, it is better to keep your thoughts on the situation to yourself.
In the moments right after these kinds of things happen, we can often make hurtful and
unnecessary comments that will make things even worse.
You don’t have to remind them; the mistake itself was evident enough.
Stay silent; avoid seeming pretentious and mean.
No9: When you have a sense you will hurt someone If you want to say something that you suspect
might hurt somebody’s feelings, you better stay silent.
Think about the necessity of those words.
Does that person really need to hear that?
Do you really need to say it?
If the answer is yes, then choose your words carefully.
In most cases, the answer will be no.
That is why you need to stay silent.
Give yourself time to make that calculation of what you should say and what the consequences
are.
No10: When you want to avoid a petty argument Silence is really golden when you don’t
want to engage in a petty argument.
If your friends are trying to drag you into some argument you don’t care for, just tell
them you are not interested and stay silent.
Otherwise, you will only end up exhausted.
You should learn to recognize these pointless arguments and stay stubbornly silent.
It will save you a lot of time and energy.
No11: When you are in the middle of a negotiation Silence conveys a sense of power because it
might make the other side believe that you are willing to walk away if you get less than
the desired outcome.
Say what you have to say and then close your mouth.
Let the other people draw their own conclusions.
Your silence will show you are confident in what you have said.
In addition, being silent shows you respect the other person enough to hear what they
have to say.
No12: When there is an opportunity to learn There are many things each and every one of
us doesn’t know.
There are also many opportunities to learn something new.
Recognize them; speak less and listen more.
You cannot afford to remain ignorant.
If you want to get facts, you need to stay silent.
Imagine you’re new to a job or you’ve just joined a new team for a project.
It makes sense to listen to others, especially in the beginning if you want to learn everything
you need to know.
Have you been in a situation where you wish you had stayed silent?
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