he's like i don't know what he he's cursing in the kitchen he dropped something i think
oh hi dan okay okay here we go so i was looking at therap i started seeing a therapist background my
mom was um diagnosed with cancer in like 2015 and i started seeing a therapist i think what frank
2016 2017 maybe 2016 or something like that so she gets okay so might have been 2015 2016. i saw her
for years i would see her at least once a week sometimes twice i was like a very good customer
i would go all the time and then therapist doesn't really say congratulations like and i've only seen
this one so who knows how other therapists do it but they don't really say congrats you've
graduated therapy go on live your life stop coming back you know she there was no kind of like end in
sight and then we kind of argued like she said she was raising her prices and then she said oh i know
a couple who makes less than you and they can afford it and which turned me off so i was like
there's a couple of things and then so we stopped talking i stopped going like six months ago
in july late july so i just get a message from her yesterday it says um chrissy just checking in
few things uh i'm working in person and she gives her address in the city like the office that she's
operating out of uh if it's the political stuff that is keeping you from coming back
you need to know oh and i also got the feeling that like i told her i voted for trump and she
started to be a little bit weirder to me and that was part of the reason why i stopped going
so she said if it's the political stuff that is keeping you from coming back you need to know
that i'm not political i'm gonna mute you amy just while i read this because i'm worried about the
background noise okay um if it's the political stuff that is keeping you from coming back you
need to know that i'm not political and as long as you didn't take a gun into the capitol i don't
care if things are fine good if not why don't you give me a call and then her name i'll just
call her karen so i think that she just wants your money that's really really what i mean
yeah yeah like out of nowhere bringing up as long as you didn't take a gun into the cap but i was
like say what i've heard from you in six months so i write back hey karen hope you are well uh
i'm doing it and of course her name's karen i mean it's not her name i'm trying not to like go okay
doctor because i don't know how many uh people with her name are therapists in new york city
uh i hope you're well i'm doing great i said i'm not really in new york city too often these days
only on mondays to do my radio show i don't and i said i also i don't think anyone brought a gun
into the capitol building i think i also mentioned i didn't go inside i only covered the rally
and did interviews hope your cat is doing well because the cat was sick i don't know i'm just
trying to honestly you know land that's plain and then because i just think it's so [ __ ] weird
that she brought that up and then she responds with i didn't mean to say that anyone brought a
gun inside or that you went inside you told me you didn't go inside i was trying to convey that what
you do is not my concern unless you were planning to kill anyone which i didn't think you were
i'm just there to help you deal with things that get in your way of getting what you want
i'm glad your career is doing well is your is your relationship doing well too
if you change your mind i have an office at address on monday and tuesday so to me that is
so [ __ ] weird that she brought up capital at all and the gun thing is even weirder people
need to understand that so many therapists are [ __ ] charlatans like people i feel like just
have this natural trap not everyone some people are very skeptical of therapists but a lot of
people go into like any therapist and assume that this person is some sort of guru or shaman like
that's really there to like heal them and it's like first of all they want your money and second
of all the majority of them are [ __ ] crazy themselves in my experience she did have a cat um
it's trying to have a cat all right i am good i'm sorry i'm like i don't want to mute amy but
i went to a therapist i went to a therapist once with a boyfriend because we were having
troubles at the time and she made it way [ __ ] worse like we fought in that office
way more than we ever did at home like i feel like therapy's not it's never been positive for
me i've never gone and like walked away from it feeling like a better person yeah i feel like
therapy as a whole especially couples therapy is like i don't know aimed or maybe something
about is attractive to women because it's like oh we like to talk let's talk things out but that's
interesting that you picked up that you actually fought more in the therapist's office not
everything has to be talked about like there is a time and place to like talk about your feelings
and things you may have been holding in and you don't want things building up and exploding but
like i i found that in the therapist office i was talking about things that i would have not cared
about two weeks from that time like we just pushed you to talk about anything and everything just
to fill that hour and get there [ __ ] get your money yeah i was definitely getting the feeling
especially when she said she was raising her price and then i was like uh what was her new price was
it gonna be 80 an hour 70 80 and it was over zoom she'd never lowered her prices from in-person
pre-pandemic to pandemic zoom therapy that's you know and i'm sorry 80 an hour is actually
my numbing like i'll talk to anyone else i could go talk to like a homeless person on the street
20 bucks yeah and i think i'm i think a portion of it was being covered by my insurance at the time
like uh i think maybe i was like co-paying her like i don't know that's what it went down it
went down to 40 40 and then 80. yeah it was okay after all right after insurance i was then gonna
have to start paying her 80. which is like wait which is just too much i don't know and how do
you know you're done with therapy i just if i hadn't had that little kind of tiff with her
i probably would have still been seeing her because i'm like anti-conflict i'm like oh
well i always have stuff to talk about i guess and it was the politics thing it was the money thing
that just made me go like oh that was an incredibly awkward email yeah and that's when you
know it's rude as [ __ ] to be like i know someone poorer than you that can afford it it's like
who the [ __ ] is that that's a terrible somebody that wants your money somebody that wants your
money and doesn't care about you well they don't like know your financial situation just who like
i think she did i think she did know because i was seeing her at the time she was helping me
like try to negotiate like because that's a thing i feel like she used the knowledge of me against
me because one of the issues i talked about in therapy was like oh i'm not getting a raise at
work i i just need the guts to ask for a raise so then i told her like what i was making and
she's like oh you deserve to make xyz like at the time i was like this you know executive assistant
for a high profile person oh you should be making this much more and we kind of talked about how i
can ask for so she knew exactly what i was making and i feel like she later used that information
against me by saying like oh i know this couple who makes less and they can pay it and i was like
ew first of all you don't know like what all my expenses are how those expenses change over time
also confidentiality like why she randomly throwing her patients information there
it's already hard enough as it is to go to therapy to motivate people to go and actually talk about
their problems and fix them and then she's going to go and politicize it and make it uncomfortable
she's a terrible therapist in my opinion no offense christmas i know it feels good i feel
better about kind of putting her on the fade now especially like i've been seeing this woman like
once a week sometimes twice a week for a few years why would she even doesn't she know me pretty well
at this point why would she even sit oh as long as you didn't bring a gun into the capital it's
like girl don't you know me at all like don't you know me well enough to know i would never do that
it's just and even if you did hello i need therapy like we still need to like you're not a very good
salesperson like i'll help you with your problems but not if you have those kind of problems
like yeah that's above my doesn't make very much sense i remember anything that would get her more
sessions with you because you have a problem in her opinion so she can make even more money off
of you you know when i first started seeing her i was like out of curiosity i was like oh is there
anybody like you wouldn't see and she said pedos and i was like that i fully agree with i guess you
know right there's certain people and she also said she would never be a therapist to trump
that should have been the first sign yeah highest like girl he would never hire you so
well did she specify like narcissism or something like that like personality types like that like
she just doesn't specialize in that so she can't talk to people like that like pedophiles it would
be pretty hard for a therapist to kind of relate to them i think like most humans that's right but
once a week therapy they need a little more yeah you have to be a special type of therapist to
be able to talk to those kind of people which i totally understood because her office was near a
playground i'd be like oh yeah i mean like on one hand you might get a lot of business on the other
hand you know they're tempting themselves every time so i would just want to say um i know that
you guys said you don't like therapy and i agree there's definitely like the therapy
question of like them trying to fleece you for your money especially if it's like after like
maybe two months and your problems aren't solved or whatever or at least like getting worked on
um but in my opinion for me i was in and out of therapy since i've been like five years old
and i like being able to like complain at someone for an hour straight like i love just like nagging
someone for an hour straight it was good to vent sometimes it really felt good um but then it was
like years later and i was like oh i still i feel like i'm working on a couple of the same things
so and then like a friend sometimes i would be like so how was your cat like i would
start therapy sessions with me asking about her freaking cat oh how's her son is he back from
pilot camp or whatever i guess for me if i like am to open up about my problems i have to be with
someone that i really respect so like i'll seek out a friend of mine that's maybe a little older
that i really respect the way their life turned out like it's hard for me to jump into like oh
this is a woman named mary sue and her job is to talk to me and like i just don't trust it i guess
yeah yeah did she actually help you for the thing that you went in for um i went in she
did help me a little bit unpack like my mom i went in thinking i had daddy issues turns out i had mom
and dad issues so if she did kind of help me like unpack more problems well i know
picking off my old scabs yeah um she did help me a little bit like she helped me understand like
the patterns that i got because of how i was raised and and like why i am the way i am like
why i'm was kind of raised to be conflict diverse like we all were kind of tiptoeing around my dad's
anger and like why i have trouble standing up for myself because i never saw my mom standing up for
herself like blah blah blah like never never heard her say like don't talk to me that way um
so it did help in some i think we probably should have cut it off at some point like
you know but what is she going to say goodbye to like a good customer so then i felt like yes
stop giving me money go away yeah and i helped take head shots for her like but
one day she was like oh i don't have any good photos of me and central park she's like you
know what i won't charge you for one session and i took head shots of her in central park like she
used them for both psychology today and she said she used them for her match.com profile so i like
really helped this lady out yeah is that okay this is that personal relationship
and i was like oh cuz i take good photos and i'm like i'm a comedian i see a lot of headshots and
i just was like it was cold it was like february and it was so weird it did feel like i don't know
like the ant from napoleon dynamite trying to like get back out there that was the vibe she
was giving me like she's like oh i brought flowers should i pose with these flowers and i was like oh
honey no she's watching right now no there's no chance she's watching well
that's what you think there's always a chance mm-hmm where i guess does she know your channel
that's a good question i don't think she subscribes
i don't know anyway if you are watching i guess then you have your answer
i won't be back next week she's gonna text me be like i see you got a couple super chats you
sure you don't want to come back oh no it's so crazy though it just feels like a big
mental jump going from like oh i need this therapist to like get through my life to be
like oh no i'm okay i'm okay like figuring things out for myself so i guess that's the lesson