- Hey, what's up?
It's me, Jessica J,
and I was just wondering
if you've ever sat and thought to yourself,
"Hey, Jessica, what's something all women's secretly want
but they would never say?"
Well, and so I'm glad you asked
because it is Valentine's Day.
As you can see you trying be a little festive,
and that's exactly what I'm gonna tell you today,
some shit that we, women will never tell you,
even though we want it,
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Okay, so like I said, all of us women want this,
and it's so funny because I wrote these up yesterday
and I just started my morning
with the new Ali Wong special on Netflix.
And it was like her entire standup was about this video
I'm about to put on right here.
So I'm gonna get right to the chase,
'cause there's seven of these.
The first one is a man who makes good money.
Really we want a man who's not afraid to take control,
a man who is in charge of his life,
a man that we don't have to take care of
like he's another kid of ours.
I say this all the time,
we women want a man who's a leader.
We want a man that we can just let loose
and be feminine with.
And, I'm sorry, a man who doesn't make good money,
we usually see as a man who is not in control of his life,
because money represents freedom and resources
and a man who is not gusto about
getting freedom and resources
is a man that probably needs to be taken care of
'cause he is not taking care of himself.
Money represents to us capability, confidence, boldness,
and that's that shit we want in any man.
Now, obviously a lot of money is subjective,
but basically a man who could take care of himself,
hold his own,
even if he's working at McDonald's.
If you're a man that has those characteristics,
it doesn't matter what that dollar amount is.
But it could also be argued,
if you do have those characteristics
you would have a pretty solid dollar amount.
Number two is to be pursued passionately,
but not desperately.
I have too many men coming to me,
talking about like,
"Ugh, but I'm trying my hardest.
I'm paying for her rent and all her bills,
and I'm showing her how good of a father
I could be to her kids,
and then when I try to bring up sex, she tells me no."
Bro, that's not passionate.
That's desperate.
You are desperately pursuing her.
When I say we wanna man who's gonna pursue us passionately,
we mean a man who is not afraid to think with his dick.
That's where your passion for us really comes from.
Not from some weird hole or void you need to fill.
We wanna know that you wanna fuck the shit out of us
and you are going to pursue us with that in mind.
And let's take a step back to the romantic side of things.
Number three is we want a man who will just listen.
When I say listen,
we want a man who will listen to our problems
without trying to solve them.
There's so many jokes about this.
There's this one video I still refer back to all the time
where this girl has a nail in her fucking head
and she's talking about how much it hurts,
and her boyfriend is like,
"Um, well, you could try taking the nail outta your head."
And she's like, "Hey, stop.
I'm just trying to share with you.
Stop trying to solve my problem.
It's not about the nail."
And so finally he ends the conversation with,
"Okay, um, that must really hurt."
And she goes, "It does."
I get it, you guys wanna take care of us.
You wanna help us out?
You wanna problem solve,
but sometimes we just want somebody who's gonna sit there
and be like, "Hey, girl, that really sucks."
I'm telling you,
being that rock for us that we can unload on sometimes,
and you just listen,
that's the shit that turns us on.
Which then brings me to number four, which is more romance.
Yeah, we want you to fuck the shit out of us,
but we also want you to hold us
and tell us how beautiful we are
and how much you love us and shit while you do it.
Ali Wong just talked about this in her bit
where we want a man who will take time to notice
all the things that make us, you know, giggle and blush,
all the things that we really like.
Men who notice that and take time out of their day,
put forth the effort in thinking about us,
that's the stuff we want.
There's too many men out there trying to like,
"Well, how do I get her to get more wet for me?"
I'm telling you this is it.
In my one program, "Bring Her to the Brink",
it's really funny because the new girl
I hired for customer support,
she goes through all my products
to help guys find certain sections,
and she told me she's now making her husband go through it.
Not only that she's making her husband go through
my "Bring Her to the Brink" program,
which talks about how to make her come super quick
and super hard so you don't have to last long,
but the most important thing about bring her to the brink
is fucking her in the mind before you even touch her body.
And that's what romance is,
getting us all hot and gushy up here in the brain
so that our bodies and our brains do all the work for you
so you don't have to learn all these techniques
and positions and how to rub the clit better
or even find it at all.
So I promise you, more romance is the way to go.
In fact, they even say that the more you spend time
making out with a woman or kissing her,
the wetter she'll get and the longer you'll last,
which then brings me to the next one,
which is we women want better sex and more of it.
Too many men treat sex like it's a fucking Olympic sport,
like the only great thing about sex is
"I gotta make her come.
I gotta make her come and then I'm gonna come,
and hopefully I don't come before she does."
But there's so much more to sex than that.
Some of the best sexual experiences I've ever had
involved me never having an orgasm,
because it's about taking the time,
take time on our bodies,
and find out what we really like,
and again, fucking us in the head
before you fuck us in the puss.
Nothing is more of a turnoff to me
and to most women than a guy
who just goes straight for the vagine.
Why touch my inner elbow or something?
Kiss my neck, my God.
Tell me I'm so cute and this outfit makes you so hard.
My God, we're starving for better sex
but better sex doesn't necessarily mean more sex.
We just want more better sex.
I have girlfriends who are just flat out
not fucking their husbands anymore
because they dunno how to fuck them.
And it's like, why waste our time
when we could be folding the clothes
that have been sitting on the bench
for three, four days now.
So if she's not chasing you down
or the one initiating sex all the time,
chances are the sex ain't that worth it,
and you should do something about it.
Number six is somebody who doesn't take our shit.
It's funny because in the Ali Wong special,
I just watched it so I'm gonna reference it again,
she talks about how her husband said to her,
"Hey you don't talk to me like that."
And she was like,
"Oh, my God, oh, my fucking God,
I'm so wet I'm gonna suck your dick."
Too many men think that they need to bend over backwards
and do whatever she wants, and give her whatever she wants,
and agree with whatever she says.
No, we don't want a baby.
We want a fucking backbone of a man.
Only babies are like,
"Cool, we'll okay.
Whatever you say, mommy.
Can I have chicken nuggies?"
No, we don't want that shit.
If you feel disrespected,
if you feel slighted,
if you feel that you actually aren't in the wrong,
you better fucking speak up.
'Cause we want a partner, not a pussy.
We have that.
We need something else.
And now I'm gonna slide back on over
to the nasty part of the segment.
Number seven is somebody who knows how to
turn us on to the fucking brink of insanity.
I'm telling you right now,
if a man doesn't know how to make me desperately beg
to stick his dick in me,
then he's not fucking worth it.
Ah, and too many men have no idea how to turn us on.
I'm telling you right now
it starts with your conversations.
It starts with connecting and creating chemistry.
Here's the thing,
we're all wired for connection
and men want sex to connect with women.
Whereas women want sex when we feel connected.
And nowadays in the age of this
(phone tapping)
nobody's making the connections we're actually looking for,
the connections we were actually built to sustain.
And we just want a man who's gonna, you know,
make us wanna like rip all our clothes off,
rip all his clothes off,
and pound the shit out of each other
in you know what town.
We women are desperate for it, my God.
You could turn her on to the brink of insanity
within five minutes of meeting
or after five years of not having any sex at all.
So if you know you're not getting this girl
ripping your clothes off,
dropping to her knees to service you at a moment's notice,
then you're not speaking to spark arousal,
and you need to know how to fucking do it,
and luckily enough, if you get "Speak to Spark Arousal",
you're also then able to get access to my
"Bring Her to the Brink" program,
which talks about maxing out her orgasmic potential.
So again, if you're not getting women
who are desperate to be with you,
women who are desperate to get you into pound town,
women who are desperate to lock you down,
and will stop at nothing to make sure they keep you happy
then figure out how to do so at speaktosparkarousal.com.
So yeah, these are the seven things we want.
I always feel weird telling you guys this shit
'cause women very much know instinctively
that we're not supposed to tell you.
So, it doesn't feel good.
I'm telling you right now,
it doesn't feel good to have to tell you this,
but none of this is really bad.
None of this is stuff that you can't take care of
if you really wanted to.
So again, check out how to take care of it
at speaktosparkarousal.com.
Thanks for watching, as always.
Happy Valentine's Day,
and I'll see you guys next time.