Okay, so yes, women do notice looks.
We all do, even you
or you wouldn't be attracted
or unattracted to her at first glance.
In fact, men actually
care more about looks than women do.
Otherwise, you'd be going for ugly chicks
with great personalities.
Am I wrong?
All right, well, did you know that 70% or more
of women in long-term relationships
were not initially sexually attracted to their man?
Sorry gents, maybe you're the one exception.
Anyways, men and women are different.
Except for both sides in some ways
and in other ways, it's amazing
and we compliment each other beautifully.
Regardless, you'll be less miserable
if you accept we're different
and take responsibility
for doing what you can
with what you've got
because we can't change anyone else.
This is probably not
what you want to hear, and I'm probably not
your favorite person right now.
But I wouldn't be doing you any favors
if I sugarcoat the truth
to tell you what you want to hear.
So, in this video
you'll learn the top reasons
why women aren't into you
and explore how and when
you can influence her feelings about you.
If you're new to my channel,
I help man decode modern women
so you can find, attract and keep your keeper.
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if you want to settle down without settling,
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Okay, let's jump right in.
Number one, not her cup of tea.
Gentlemen, attraction is like
a buffet of preferences
and sometimes you're just not
the dish she's craving.
Maybe you're not her cup of yerba-mate.
It's like asking a vegan
to get excited about a nicely marbled ribeye.
Move on and find someone
who craves your meaty flavor.
Cheesy coach.
Survey says,
while there are some
stereotypical attractiveness factors
like a strong jawline
or broad shoulders,
when women view thousands of men's faces
even the "Chad's and Tyrones"
who got overall higher average scores
the key point is every single man
averaging even in the lowest score
did score highest for some women.
In other words,
no matter how ugly you think you are
there's a woman out there
who thinks you're handsome to her.
You may just need to get rejected
by a lot of other women to find her.
Solution, accept it, embrace it
focus on what you can change.
Two, missing that spark.
Chemistry, my dear comrades
it's not enough to make a relationship work
but it is the secret sauce of attraction.
You might be into her or want to be
but if the fireworks don't go off for her
you won't get off in anyway.
It's like trying to light
a soggy firecracker on the 4th of July.
Sometimes through no fault of your own
the connection just isn't there.
So, just get back on the path
to finding a woman who does have a spark for you.
Survey says,
remember at the beginning of this video
I told you most women
in happy long-term relationships
weren't... Were not initially attracted at first sight.
Well, unfortunately,
I hear it often from women.
The spark just wasn't there.
If only all women realize
that 70% of the time
the spark takes time to catch on
but you can't do anything about that.
I will give you a solution
when we get to how you can
influence her feelings because it applies to
probably all of the reasons
why women aren't into you.
Well, not all of them but a lot of them.
But first number three,
different strokes for different folks.
We're all unique,
we're attracted to different things.
Maybe you're into Netflix and chill
and she prefers nightclubs and Coca-Cola.
Or you're a party animal
and she's the homebody.
Embrace your quirks and who you are
and find a woman who's compatible with that.
Survey says,
men on dating sites
who unapologetically express
their weird, quirky, real selves
attracted women who actually
wanted that type of different.
But you don't have to go on a dating app
to find your right match.
Just like who you really are
and own who you really are.
Unless of course those flaws
are hindering you regardless of any woman.
Four, feeling emotionally flat.
Fellas, as I've said many videos
for the kind of woman you want
attraction isn't just about looks
no, it's likely won't work
if she feels the ick factor.
Otherwise, it's about connecting
on an emotional level.
If you're as deep as a saucer or an ashtray,
do they have ashtrays?
Anyways, and can't hold the conversation
She can't bond with you.
At the same time women are emotional creatures
who do need emotional stimulation.
If there's no positive stimulation
some women will seek out yes, drama.
Work on developing your emotional intelligence
and finding a girl
who appreciates the depth you bring
and at the same time
don't be afraid to challenge her
or disagree with her.
Survey says, mild fear feels a lot like
enthusiastic anticipation.
If you want to take her on a roller coaster of emotions,
emotional stimulation,
and you're allergic to conflict,
literally take her on a roller coaster
or rock climbing
anything that gets her heart rate up
but maybe also gets her laughing.
Also avoid showing up in a van with no windows
that's the wrong kind of adrenaline.
Okay, number five,
beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Okay, at the same time
yes, physical appearance
does matter to some extent
but here's the kicker
beauty is subjective.
Just because she doesn't
swoon over your dad bod
or chrome dome
doesn't mean someone else won't.
I have a girlfriend who prefers a shaved head.
So, keep rocking your style
because there is a woman out there
who will find your unique brand of handsome
absolutely irresistible
as long as you're not insecure about it.
Survey says,
though there's a woman out there who will
swoon over what God gave you
one of the top turnoffs is being smelly.
So, whether it's bad body odor or bad breath
or greasy hair or bad hygiene,
hygiene and grooming are essential.
Number six, personality pitfalls.
Your personality can make or break
the attraction game.
If you're a cocky Casanova
or your love language
is insensitive sarcasm
some women will totally dig it
and others will swipe left on your heart.
One thing is fairly consistent though
polish those manners without sipping
and don't be a dick.
Only emotionally unhealthy women
stay with jerks.
Survey says,
turns out personality and character traits
such as attention, kindness, generosity,
communication, conflict management
are actually what make
a long-term relationship last
who knew?
Seven, battling the ghosts of boyfriend's past.
So, when it comes to relationships
women have memories like elephants
as many of you know.
Her haunting memories can make her hesitant
to jump into something new.
As long as she's not exhibiting red flags
be patient, understanding,
and show her you're different
from all the ghosts of boyfriends past.
Again, without sipping
more on that at the end of the video.
Survey says, if she's been through a recent breakup,
it will take time for her to heal her heart
in order to be able
to be a better mate in the next relationship.
Rebound relationships rarely work
especially for women.
Eight, sexual harmony mismatch.
Ah, the dance between the sheets.
Sexual compatibility is crucial in a relationship.
Sexual compatibility includes
values based on body count, frequency,
duration, kink level boundaries, and more.
If you desired tango
and she's more into square dancing
well, that might be a dance off
without a happy ending.
Communication is key.
Find a woman whose rhythm matches yours
and together you can salsa into ecstasy.
Okay anyway, coffee.
Survey says, when it comes to
long-term loyal love
it's best to get out of your comfort zone
sooner than later and open up
about your sexual desires, needs,
and long-term mating goals.
Teammate.
Number nine, gut feeling.
Sometimes attraction or the lack of it defies logic.
You can have all the boxes checked
but if her gut tells her something's off
whether it's about you or her or her past
it won't work.
You can't fix her
or force her to be a certain way.
So, keep your eyes open for someone who has
positive or at least neutral associations being with you.
Survey says again,
for women most long-term relationships
started with the man in the friend zone
meeting either at work or through social groups
or shared interests.
Key point, never wait for a woman
hoping her feelings will change.
10, timing and priorities.
Life has a way of throwing curve balls fellas.
We all know that.
Maybe she's focused on building her career
or exploring her passions,
enjoying her independence,
working through feminism,
maybe even working through a string of bad relationships.
Maybe she's gone through one of the big four Ds,
death, divorce, disaster, disease.
Respect her personal circumstances
and give her the space she needs.
Survey says,
while women can be more emotionally vulnerable
to a man's kindness and influence
when she's dealing with trauma,
when she eventually and inevitably
finds equilibrium
there's no guarantee
she'll stay with you or that the two of you
are actually compatible.
Remember attraction and chemistry aren't compatibility.
You might be able to ride out the storm,
but it probably won't be easy.
So, what about how and when
can you influence her feelings?
Well, if she's not instantly attracted to you
the only possibility of that changing
is by her getting to know you over time
without romantic pressure.
Key point, without romantic pressure.
Of course, there is still
no guarantee of success such as life.
But if you have a hidden agenda
she will feel that
and it will definitely sabotage
any chance of a real connection.
The best way to meet a woman
who could be or could become attracted to you
is to do the things in the world
that you truly enjoy.
Or at least initially engage with women
with genuine curiosity
not romantic or sexual intent.
Sharing a common interest is a great way
to develop a connection
because it's rooted in genuine mutual interest
and the bonus is
you're doing something
that makes you happy regardless.
So, if you're not sure what your passions,
hobbies, and interests are
or don't know where to get started
get my Wake Up To Love program.
It provides a step-by-step action plan
specific to where you are
and who you are to develop a life you love
that others admire
and is attractive to the kind of woman you desire.
But it won't work if you don't do the homework
and there is a lot of homework.
don't waste your time and money.
And if you are
It's not about convincing
or winning her over
that almost never works.
Most of the time, it comes across as needy,
desperate, and low value.
Instead consider all rejections
as blessings and time savers.
Finding your keeper is about
finding an amazing connection
where both of you equally
are excited about the other person
in the journey ahead together
and where both of you
feel like you're the lucky one
to be with the other.
If you enjoyed this video
The right match is out there
waiting to join you in your epic love story.
So, thank you for watching all the way to the end.
Lots of love, God bless.