In this video we're going to explore three ENFP contradictions which perhaps
on the surface don't make a lot of sense but as we dive into it we'll all come
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So the first thing about us ENFPs is we kind of hate rules we hate structure we
tend to be the people who as a kid would ask the teacher why why why why does
this make sense why do I have to do that right we don't like rules and structure
especially if there's no logic behind it if it's an arbitrary rule you know the
teacher just says the worst thing a teacher can say to an ENFP is because
because I said so right you have lost us now here's the funny thing with this is
in my experience as an ENFP and working with probably a hundred plus ENFPs as
clients at this stage is we need rules and we need structure not that we want
some really boring orderly life but we need to create structures for ourselves
that allow us to thrive by creating a structure for ourselves and setting
rules and boundaries we can actually have a lot more fun be a lot more
creative and get a lot more done so on the surface hey we hate rules but in
reality that's what we need to really thrive and be ourselves number two is
that we really don't like to plan I filmed a video about this today as well
a lot of enfps love to be in the moment and not think about the future and yet
planning is one of the things that can allow us to really thrive when we plan
whether it's a day ahead or three months ahead it allows us to be more likely to
reach our goals but also to have less anxiety and more focus in the moment
many enfps want to do everything in life right and
that's where the planning can become tough because you talk to an ENFP and
they say hey I want to have my own band I want to be a film director I want to
travel the world I want to be a writer I want to be a poet I can't decide so I
don't want to plan because if I plan to do one thing I have to say no to all
those other things it's like saying yes to some
says no to other things the reality is is by not saying yes to anything we
actually often end up saying no to everything so instead of avoiding
planning and committing if we actually get really good at it then we can make
time to do all those different things so the ENFP who really embraces planning
and gets good at it and gets good at making commitment can be a writer and a
musician and an actor and a director and do all these different things because
they plan and they setup like a long-term plan how to break up their
time how to accomplish those goals and number three as ENFPs we often want to
make things better we want to change the world for the best and yet sometimes end
up being the ones to totally destroy it and ruin everything now hear me out hear
me out if you were to browse a list of some people that are thought to be enfps
you might notice a relatively high frequency of dictators revolutionaries
this sort of thing there's a saying that anything done to the extreme becomes its
opposite or the same goes something like that I'm paraphrasing here but that can
sometimes happen with us enfps where we don't necessarily understand the balance
of things nature human civilization the world as a whole tend to work well with
balances it's the whole relationship between conservatives and progressives
you need both that everyone in the world was a progressive things would fall
apart so quickly if everyone in the world was a conservative then things
would like stay the same and nothing would evolve and there'd be no change we
need both we need that balance and sometimes in our desire to make things
better we go a little extreme now probably I'm
thinking most of you watching are not yet dictators at least 80% of you are
not yet dictators of some kind of Latin American or Middle Eastern nation so
that's really positive the other 20% we can have a chat after class so likely
this third contradiction doesn't really apply to any of us in day to day normal
life right or does it let's take health as an example when someone wants to
become really healthy and make changes that
awesome right that's a really positive thing to be doing great you care about
your health you want to make it different but what happens when it's
taken to the extreme maybe things like natural health which starts off as
eating more vegetables and being healthier becomes a raw food diet which
I don't want to be the bearer of bad news but is not really healthy for you
in the long run or the desire to really care about your baby and have your baby
be the healthiest baby ever becomes a measles outbreak because no one's taking
vaccines anymore of course this is all hypothetical none of this stuff has ever
become crazy trends promoted by people who have an extreme belief in the
subject even though it they're scientifically invalid but yet their
passion and ability to persuade others which is completely not an ENFP thing
somehow persuades millions of people to take on these movements that of course
this is all hypothetical none of that has happened but something to think
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