it's kryptonite Superman a little souvenir for the old hometown I've
spared no expense to make you feel right at home so it's just having this amazing
conversation with a really good youtuber friend of mine and I was like you know
what I'm not gonna be selfish I'm gonna make a video about this and help the
entire world what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we
talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel
my channel is all about mental health so all my videos are designed to help you
with your mental and emotional well-being so bring that kind of stuff
make sure you subscribe and ring that notification now so yeah we'll start
this video with a little bit of story time let me introduce you a friend of
mine a very dear friend of mine this is kayla from the channel panko bunny all
right and we'll provide links to her channel down below don't take her
channel out and subscribe she makes a ton of amazing adorable delicious treats
she also does other kind of recipes and you'll see through the conversation that
we had like she will be making some more cool content anyways kayla is on a train
right now and her returning and she was congratulating me on my recent success
Thank You Kayla and Kayla's been around like since the beginning like since I
first started my youtube channel and I had like less than like 500 subscribers
Kayla have been talking she's given me advice and tips because she's been in
YouTube for a while she has like over 60,000 subscribers
she's gigantic over on Instagram and she's helped me was gradually a success
I'm like girl one of my missions in life is to get Kayla to a subscriber so ideas
and brainstorm and we're gonna get you there girl we're gonna get you that
silver play button anyways she was talking about and I was just giving her
ideas like I'm always trying to figure out you know obviously like what what
can I do how can I take this topic everybody's talking about and use it to
bring in a new audience and find things that people can relate to right so Kayla
with her needs and food on my she do this so I started tossing around
ideas with her and she told me that she's worried about being a sellout
right and that's why I was like girl girl I'm like you know what all
Kryptonite is do you know what our kryptonite is ego and fear those things
are kryptonite right so we're talking about this and I'm gonna touch on this
again later because she has a she has a healthy fear she's afraid her version of
selling out she's worried about making videos or getting brand deals for stuff
that she doesn't really believe in absolutely absolutely one of the themes
throughout this video when I tell you guys to quit killing so much about what
people think it's that you always gotta check in with your moral compass that's
the way that you overcome your ego and your fears okay anyways we're talking
like this is definitely something that holds a bunch of youtubers back but it's
probably holding a bunch of you back as well my mental health is that my ego is
my worst enemy my ego is something that kept me in my addiction my ego is
something that can be angry my ego is something that held me back from being
truly happy and what's evil what is this ego thing there's a great book that I'm
trying to find the time to read but until I get to that book and make a
review of it I check out this short clip Omega the ego creation once and seeks
the approval from the outside it wants to be fed by likes it wants to be fed by
following it wants to be fed by people feeding your you know you oh you're good
well it's not whatever you just produced or that that's beautiful that's great
yeah I think that you're really worthy now the thing is that what if it's taken
away from me bingo right there so either it's fed by these things this this
social status right all of you have heard me say all of you have heard me
say how much I hate social hierarchies because these are things that held me
back for so long not so much social hierarchies because those are gonna be
around no matter what I do but me caring about my social status is something that
killed me and think about how much is killing you too right
think about how you think do you have to have a certain
or certain clothes or certain job or certain amount of money or a certain
house all these different things the way you got to look on Instagram or Facebook
or Twitter all these things that are based on your ego how you want the world
to perceive you because you can so much about what people think right so when I
was talking to Kayla like part of this this whole sellout thing we're worried
about what people are gonna think about us right like the only reason the only
reason my channel is certainly to have an incline is because I got rid of that
I got rid of the fears right and you've been seeing me trudged
through it and like I hope you guys see underlying messages with my videos of
who I am or what I'm doing like you will see that I give less than
zero about some of the comments out there right like I have people who have
commented in my YouTube comments and they said Oh Chris I've been with you
since the beginning before you started making videos about youtubers by the way
if you want some more details on that Q&A yeah my ego might have held me back
and like welcome back to tough love Chris like here's the thing here's the
thing like me being cool is not gonna get me anywhere me like hearing like oh
yeah okay I don't care in my treatment center do you know how many times I gave
tough love to the people in my addiction treatment center there are so many
people young people young men young women even older men and older women
they spend their entire treatment episode trying to look cool and then
they go back on a relapse some of them even pass away right so your need to
feel cool to look cool to other people like where's that gonna get you I did
that for a long time I was like this persona this facade and all I did was
keep me sick all I did was keep me sick like I think I think it looks like I'm
just in a bubble I think we're hip ster face but that's a poem with hipsters
like oh yeah like I'm just so cool I'm so cool that I don't do trendy things
right like what that guy like I'm the kind of guy where I could tell you
stories about how like I interviewed Fall Out Boy before they got big like we
either fault interview Fall Out Boy when their
tickets were only $10 quote-unquote sold out screw it good for
them I love those guys sell out all you watts you know what I mean because like
selling out is something that we got to think of and by the way quick plug
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head over to the rewiring soul merch store get yourself one anyways back to
selling out what's selling out and what are the pros and cons by the way how
many of you real big fish sell out great song I love it I used to be a little
stock here anyways what is selling out selling out is kind of what I think
Kailas feel is backing brands that she doesn't believe in you know what I mean
and putting putting on this fake show this is something that's been going on
in the beauty community like sayings they love this product or like this
product like we sell out when we promote things for money this is one way to sell
out we promote things for money and we don't really believe in time we don't
really back them we make up lies like oh I love this product forever and all of
that right and like that's a thing like I've done flak about better help that's
a great example my ego gives zero once again you know why
because I check in with my moral compass I am NOT latch on to better help because
of my affiliate links I'm because because I truly believe within the
depths of my soul that they are a good good company you know why because my
girlfriend has benefited from their services judo from positively oil has
benefited from their service a lot of people from my channel have benefited
from my services but but if I care about what other people thought I wouldn't
promote a service I could possibly help people because I'm so worried about what
you're thinking and that affects my ego my ego is this monster inside of me that
can change who I am and make me do things that destroy my mental health so
now let's talk about the second piece of kryptonite that destroys our mental
health fear our fears right so now that we've identified the ego okay this thing
that is fed by social status and what people think of us now we can start
looking at these as fears right fear of not being liked
right fear of being judged fear of not being accepted for youtubers fear of
losing subscribers fear of Thomas think about these things think
about all of these fears and I'm somebody with a generalized anxiety
disorder so something I had to do to manage my anxiety and this crazy thing
up here is to walk through fears and really identify these fears it's saying
are these rational or irrational fears right things that affect my ego or not
things I need to be afraid of you know I need be afraid of like things that can
cause health problems to myself to my son to Tristan to my loved ones to the
planet right but if Joe Schmoe 576 in my comment section doesn't like what I'm
doing peace out Joe you know what I mean like we need to start separating our
fears a saying is this something I should be afraid of like I have so many
youtuber friends so many youtuber friends who like tell me all these
things that are afraid of doing for losing subscribers or what their
subscribers are going to think and all this and again this goes back to your
ball compass it goes right back to your moral compass if you are staying true
right if you are doing things with the proper motives and the proper intentions
yes you're gonna lose people along the way sorry you said I've lost people who
are in the way of course I have but look at how many more people aren't helping
as well you see what I mean so like and this is some more tough love like I have
no pity for you I have no sympathy for you if you're letting your fear of
numbers your fear of life's your fear of commas if you're letting those things
run your life I don't feel sorry for you right because what happens is that
people stay stuck in the problem and they don't move to the solution it's
really easy for youtubers or even us as people to say all society's keeping us
down or oh the algorithms keeping us down but don't get me wrong
Society and the algorithm of YouTube definitely have their problems but what
good does it do when we focus on those problems why don't we start moving
towards the solution so that's what I'm saying I don't feel sorry for anybody
anybody who is letting the fears of subscribers or likes determine their
success in life you see what I mean because that's something I wouldn't want
you to feel bad for me that's on me you know what I mean it's not on them it's
on me so how do you keep your your egos in check something I mention
all the time I'm gonna mention it again mindfulness mindfulness mindfulness
mindfulness whatever thoughts come in my head right I'm able to sit down and
notice all mindfulness is is noticing it's slowing down as you know I have a
lot of energy but I slow down and I'm like where is this thought coming from
where is this fear coming from this is from my ego right
is this a rational or irrational fear because a lot of us what happens is we
let our minds get the best of us and just run away and they turn these small
things into gigantic things because we don't catch them soon enough all right
but the more we practice mindfulness the more we can catch these things so now I
can catch this thing to say okay is this my ego
what about motives what are my intentions am I really selling out am i
doing something with the wrong motives with the wrong intentions am i
supporting something bad just so I can make a dollar off of it oh wait no I'm
actually trying to help people I'm trying to spread my message a little bit
more I'm trying to entertain people right I'm trying to support my child I'm
trying to do these things does that make sense
so whatever it is mindfulness will help you slow down and start acknowledging
the ego and the fear okay so anyways that's what I got again go check out
Kayla we need to get Kayla aka panko bunny to 100,000 subscribers it is one
of my goals in life alright and she is going to be doing a lot of cool new
content we've talked about some ideas this is also a great way for you to help
me keep her accountable okay so go subscribe to our channel so we can watch
and we can see if she tries to put some new things in motion all right
but let me know let me know down in the comments below how do you feel that your
ego right and your fears affect your mental health okay what are your fears
of social status and what people are gonna think of you how much is that
controlling your life but you know how we do also tell me about the solution
down in the comments below alright but that's all I got for you with this video
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in check and I'll see you next time