- Let's kick things off with a special edition of Drew Love.
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- All right, and we invited the best of the best,
dating, sex and relationship gurus here to answer
all of your burning questions.
So let's meet 'em.
- My dear friends
from the "Girls Got to Eat" podcast host Rena Greenberg
and Ashley Hesseltine are here.
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- And our resident Drew Crew Dating Expert,
Demona Hoffman is here.
Hi Demona.
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- I'm so excited I've been fortunate enough to do
his podcast, we've made friends over the years.
He's someone I deeply respect.
An international dating and confidence coach who's
helped millions of people, let alone women around the world,
Matthew Hussey is here.
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- And okay, ready for this,
The OG of them all renowned sex therapist,
the one and only Dr. Ruth.
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- Let's get started, first we have Tiani and it's so funny
'cause I gravitated towards you earlier, Tiani.
So you have a question
for Rena and Ashley, take it away, Tiani.
- Hi everyone, how are you?
So someone I usually FaceTime,
I investigate a guy before going out on a date with them.
Do you guys think what I'm doing is okay
or should I change things up?
'Cause I know it could take the spontaneity out of things.
- So you have to investigate.
We're all doing it.
We all are pre-stalking someone.
I think if to screen someone,
I keep getting catfished with people's voices.
So I'm trying to get a voice note
from someone or find them on YouTube somehow.
Pre-screening all day.
We gotta be safe out here on these streets.
- Yeah, whatever makes you feel comfortable and safe
and confident going into a date.
So like Ashley said, if you need a pre-stalk, do that,
for me, I don't want to sort of ruin the magic
of like, let's get to know each other in person
by having too long of a FaceTime.
And I love a FaceTime, but after we meet each other
so I don't want to like ruin all of the excitement
that I could learn about you on the date ahead of time.
- Demona, what's your take?
- Well, I agree that you don't want to take
the magic out of it
but I would say, girl,
you a queen and your time is very valuable.
So the pre-screening will save you time in the end,
instead of just swipe, swipe, swiping, going right
to the date.
You gotta know that somebody is worthy before you show up.
- Matthew, I'd love your take on this.
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- You're pre-screening
because you don't want to waste your time.
You can mitigate that by just having shorter dates.
So instead of giving up an entire evening
to see someone you don't even know you have
a connection with, go for them,
go for a coffee at lunchtime with them.
FaceTime's not bad
but I wouldn't make a rule that stifles your love life.
- Okay, great.
- Brilliant, and Dr.-
- Don't even call it love life, call it acquaintance.
First you have to get to know the word, love.
I want you to leave for me.
Nevermind.
- I was just leaving sex for you.
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- You talk about acquaintances, you talk about
and you have some very good points about making a decision
if that person has a chance with you or not.
And now I know that if I would be much younger
I would have a chance with you.
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I know that.
However, I'm not going even to entertain,
not at my age, right?
I don't see a wedding band.
- I'm engaged though, Dr. Ruth.
- Oh, I tell everybody that you're engaged.
- I am engaged.
- Okay, so hold on to her so that next year
when we do another television
I want to see her with a wedding band.
- You will.
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- Well said.
- He said I'll see you anyway, don't I?
- This has turned into you micromanaging my relationship.
- Well, if someone's gonna micromanage it
I would take it from Dr. Ruth, Rossi.
- Totally, I'm here with Mikel.
Hi, by the way.
And now you have a question for Matthew.
- Yes, my question is, when dating, when is it
the appropriate time to send those, racy pictures?
The thirst straps?
- Oh, a little sexting.
How soon do we do that?
- I wouldn't send anything to anyone ever
that you wouldn't be happy to see online someday.
- Yes, I'm happy to see it all.
- I think of photos like secrets.
You wouldn't tell a friend a secret
that you don't want out there.
If you're not sure that person's gonna be your friend
five years from now.
So I don't think, especially if someone's living
in the same town as you, you don't need to
send a sexy picture to keep their attention.
If you think you do, then you've gotta explore why that is?
- Ah.
- Have you distanced and you're not gonna see them
for a while
and they're in your life, really in your life?
Then send them a sexy picture.
I'm not talking
about a naked picture because, I suggest.
- No don't send naked pictures.
Never.
You don't know what life brings.
And never, never ever to send a naked picture.
Send a picture that looks like a passport picture.
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- I didn't think you were gonna go to the other extreme.
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- I'm old fashion and a square.
Send a picture that you don't mind if it's on the air.
- Right.
- Yes, very smart Rayna and Ashley thoughts.
- So I feel like it's not a rush.
You don't need to send all these things right away.
You can let the attraction kind of build.
And I'm a big fan of the subtle implied nude.
So I like to imply that I have no clothes on,
maybe like you look in the mirror, you put a little blanket
around yourself, they can see you have no bra on,
but yeah, your dad could also see that photo.
You don't need to send everything right away.
You can save a little bit and take your time.
- All right, to all of you at home
you can join in on the Valentine's Day fun too.
Just head over to our Instagram
and use our heart filter to show
that you are single and ready to mingle, Ross.
- Yeah, all right, well coming up,
will sleeping in separate bedrooms kill your sex life?
We'll talk about that.
Our experts are gonna weigh in coming up.
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- Hi, I'm Audrey.
I've been married to Joe for 66 years.
- [Joe] I'm Joe and we met in high school
- And as soon as we graduated, Joe got a draft notice
and our parting words were, you do what you want
in Germany and I'll do what I want home.
And when you get together we won't tell each other
and it's worked.
- And I guess she did that.
- I didn't.
- The secret is that you gotta get along with
each other and take it day by day.
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