I lose everything after I post my last video which is my reality check I wanted
to disconnect to focus on myself and really just kind of hone in on you know
the things I was struggling with at the time and really focus on my mental
health manny MUA just released his video where
I've been what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we
talked about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my
channel I am NOT a drama channel my channel is actually all about mental
health so what I try to do is pull from different topics going on in the YouTube
community and all of that to try to teach you yeah you how to improve your
mental and emotional well-being so if you're into that kind of stuff make sure
you subscribe and ring that notification bell and it's crazy it's crazy because I
just made a video a little bit earlier and I was talking a bit about the beauty
guru drama so like obviously I don't do makeup but I was introduced to all this
stuff from my amazing girlfriend she loves watching different makeup artists
and their channels and her friend Shelby so they kind of got me in the mix and
then all this stuff went down you know in the beauty community I know a lot of
you are new here you know you came from the Shane Dawson stuff but before I was
talking about some of the stuff going on in the beauty community so a lot of you
already know but I'm not sure how many of you keep up to date with it I'll link
some videos up in the info card so you can go check those out but quick recap
basically um some stuff went down and manny mua a you know people were calling
him a social climber and he's had a lot of friendship said I don't know come and
go and manny mua is the common denominator and then Gabriel Zamora made a video
about it and then he made his video and he said he was taking a break so that's
a little recap man he just came back and he made a video and part of it is him
announcing that he's doing like many docu-series about his apology and where he's been
so one of the things that I want to talk about and there's gonna be a few topics
in here so please stay tuned is they're very important and again I make these
videos to help you out because I know that some of you can relate to it so
part of this and I haven't been keeping up on you know the comments of that
video or Twitter but I guarantee I guarantee there are so many people
already who are saying oh this is just a PR play oh he's just doing this to get
people back on his side and all that other kind of stuff that's cool I think
it's ridiculous because here's the thing one of the videos I'm linking up here on
the info card is how do you earn forgiveness all right like so many
people have done just dumb stuff apologize and try to get forgiveness but
the thing is and what I talk about all the time is actions speak louder than
words I'm much more empathetic to people who are trying to change and all of that
because I am a drug addict an alcoholic who has been clean for six years and
I've had to learn forgiveness from people so like I like sharing a little
bit of my story because so many of you are new here and you're just now meeting
me and I love when you guys give me compliments so you say you know Chris
you have great advice or a great outlook like I just want to make it very clear
with all of you there are people who know me who know me but they remember
who I was six years ago and they still think I am a jerk alright so I just want
you to kind of keep that in mind when it comes to you know different people who
are trying to change you're trying to get forgiveness but like I said like
actions speak louder than words like I think it's crazy for anybody to think
like oh yeah well you know I'll know whether or not I forgive this person
like in the next I don't know he took a month off like what what like he hasn't
done anything to show us he's changed and even when he releases these videos
like what is he done right so I will be like covering it because I've not
subscribed to Manny until today I just subscribe to him
because I'm really fascinated by it like for example I have an entire playlist
about how to apologize because so many people so many people don't know how to
apologize right you know I think it's important to kind
of look at this different situation to see what people are doing are there
actions speaking louder than words like I want to watch them and I want to
review them in a mental health aspect seeing how he's changing if he's
changing what he's actually doing and I work with a bunch of drug addicts and
alcoholics so I'm pretty good at seeing through BS so I did subscribe to his
channel so I can review those but the next important topic that I want to talk
about that I never get to talk about on my channel but this is why I love making
videos like this because people like Manny give me the opportunity to talk
about this stuff on my channel so I will preface this by saying like and when it
comes to Manny it's all speculation like Oh dive into it after you know we see
but I want to plant this seed with you and what this topic is is the topic of
mental health breaks alright like I know so many people I know so many people who
take mental health breaks maybe they take a day off of work or maybe they
take a week off and they take this little mental health break right and
it's like if you're not doing anything with that mental health break you wasted
your time alright and I know like some of you
might be getting a little defensive about it but like hear me out hear me
out so part of this but a lot of what I try to teach you guys about improving
your mental health not only is it from my education and my research and my
studying but a lot of it's from personal experience
so a little over six years ago right before I got clean and sober
I was hitting rock bottom I was a crazy person at health issues I had all sorts
of problems and my the owners of my company they're like Chris you need to
take a break like you're losing it you need to take a break so they gave me a
week off they gave me a mental health break do you know what I did during that
week can I tell you what I did I sat in my dark apartment by myself I got drunk
and high all day and I watched the entire series of lost that's all it was
it was me going in and out of blackout watching lost like how insane is that so
for me to sit back and say that I utilized that week off
in a way that improved my mental health would be absolutely ludicrous
so what I want to say to all of you is like during a mental health break make
sure you're taking action whether that's spending more time with your friends or
more time with your family or seeking out a therapist like if you're one of
those people who is so busy you can't even go to therapy or anything like that
or if you're somebody in recovery and you're so busy you can't even go to a
meeting like use that time to take actionable steps to improve your mental
health like if you take a mental-health break and all you did like that day was
just sit around and binge watch Netflix you didn't do anything to improve your
mental health so again like I don't know what mani did during this like month and
a half off on social media and all that but we're gonna see I want to hear like
did you do something like that was one of the pet peeves I had with Bobby burns
like when Bobby burns had his mental health breakdown like a few months ago
and he was like talking about how he needed a break needed to take a break
and like I was watching him and I foal discontent I'm like it doesn't seem like
you took actionable steps but I do know that not everybody puts all that
information on video but I would appreciate if they did that because if
they said that it would inspire people to do the same so the last topic I want
to talk about is in this clip right here man he talks about something he gave me
the month I was man he talks about self medicating and interested to see what
that is like alcoholic in recovery I know all about self medicating like I
have a brain that beats me up constantly and in order to quiet that voice
I would self-medicate with alcohol and drugs so in manage case I'm interested
to see I don't know if it was substances but I know some people they
self-medicate with other things like shopping or gambling or some of them
it's being promiscuous I'm gonna link another video up here about how
addiction is everywhere because what happens is is when you start to
self-medicate you're rewiring your brain to become dependent on that thing so for
example if I drink are used every time I felt bad about myself then my brain is
going to learn that any you feel bad about yourself you should
get drunk or high so self medication is a big big big problem now here's
something that I teach to my clients here's something I teach to my clients
at the rehab I was working at alright this is this is a secret I'm gonna teach
all of you okay you ready you ready okay so like in a group I would say like how
many of you ever drink are used because you just felt like a piece of crap right
and pretty much everybody raises their hand right let's say how many of you
drink or use because of feelings of guilt and shame and pretty much
everybody raises their hand so I tell them I said I'm gonna teach you the best
recovery hack ever you're gonna get rid of two triggers by not doing things that
make you feel guilty and ashamed right it seems that seems too too easy to be
true right but it's the real stuff like that's what I imagined Manny might talk
about is he was self-medicating because he felt he has he has some kind of
conscience in him and he felt bad about the things that he was doing you know
what I mean so like if you're somebody like that I can't believe the great
timing of this because in my last video I just made about Shane Dawson I was
talking about like doing these random acts of kindness if you are somebody who
has a lot of negative self-talk if you judge yourself too harshly if you have
problems with self love and self compassion I'm telling you go out and do
things for other people go out and be kind I guarantee it will make you feel
better go out and do things without expecting anything in return the only
thing you should expect is that good feeling you get just by doing something
nice but one of the reasons I love mindfulness is it balances your
expectations like don't expect that every time you do a nice thing you're
gonna feel great because then you are really trying to get something in return
but I would say if you did ten nice things in a day you'll probably feel
good at least at least with about eight of them all right so this is the way
that you counterbalance that negative voice in your head if you're somebody
who carries around a lot of guilt or shame or self-criticism
just go out and start helping people like the way I say it is it's really
hard for your brain to beat you up and call you a bad person when you're
going out and putting so much good into the world like somebody left a comment
on my last video about perfectionism self-criticism and anxiety and I have
some videos about self love and self compassion that you should check out but
I really need to do a video about perfectionism and anxiety because I
definitely can relate to that but anyways I just want to talk about this
and again I will be reviewing many mu a's videos when they come out so here's
what i want to do down in the comments below let's do this let's talk about
mental health breaks like let me know how you take advantage of a mental
health break or what you suggest somebody else could do during a mental
health break to really improve their mental health alright I can't wait to
see what you guys say down in the comments below anyways that's all I got
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