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segment of this video are you more
afraid of failure or are you more afraid
of success this has been Hollywood and
the media's portrayal of success since
before we're born so we probably all
internalize this in some way shape or
form but what's on the other side of
success oh we don't talk about Bruno we
just banish him from society blame
mental illness or simply turn a blind
eye you see success without Direction
means will never truly be satisfied
think of tech tycoons who need to throw
extravagant parties with things that we
will not name because this is a
family-friendly channel to probably feel
something and to probably numb whatever
it is that they're feeling because
something within them isn't being
satisfied success without fulfillment is
hollow and empty think of celebrities
who just look completely soulless and
empty inside success without morality
will give you the VIP in Squid game so
if you thought
what a silly question of course I'm
afraid of failure who's afraid of
success
there's actually plenty to be afraid of
we've been sold this version of what
success looks like our whole lives and
seldom do we take a step back to really
ask yourself what success actually looks
like to strive but to not know what
we're really striving for can be very
scary so if a lot of these very
successful people are still so unhappy
and vacant why are we trying so hard as
a society to glorify that and to reach
that level of success I really believe
that in life you give what you get so
there's nothing wrong with being
successful at all rather I hope we can
all be successful by our own definitions
of success so how can we actually be
successful first calibrate your compass
what does success mean to you
not to your parents not to your peers
not to your professors
but to you what does success mean to you
I feel like for most of our Lives we
wander around measuring ourselves with
external coordinates set by other people
which confuses us and manifests as this
gaping void within that can never be
filled no matter what we fill it with
materially with substances escapism a
dramas literally anything thankfully the
anecdote is simple change your external
coordinates to internal does success
mean raising a healthy and happy family
does it mean winning the Nobel Peace
Prize or winning an Oscar does it mean
making so much money that the next three
generations of your lineage will be
taken care of and don't stop there
challenge Yourself by digging deeper and
ask yourself why is this important to me
and do I think this will really bring me
the peace and fulfillment we all are
seeking even if we may not know it is
what we're seeking before we go on I get
it this is some comfortable this isn't
easy some of us have been told our whole
lives what to do and some have been told
how to think even so remember that good
things take time and that it's okay our
answer to this question will be as
unique to us as we are as individuals
and our definitions of success will
definitely grow with us as we grow as
well for example in 2014 success to me
meant happiness and then it meant being
proud of myself but I quickly crossed
that out and chose being at peace when I
started my channel in 2016 success to me
meant finding myself being true to
myself and helping others along the way
in my 2018 podcast with Eileen from
lavender success to me meant being able
to go to bed every night fulfilled and
content with who I am as a human and
with the way I spent my time success to
me these days is just a slight elevation
from previous years continue staying
true to myself and my values as I grow
as a human and in my business with an
even bigger emphasis on service and
being able to make a positive impact in
people's lives this is something I found
very reassuring instead of putting the
pressure on us to come up with the
perfect answer and craft the perfect
plan so that we can perfectly execute
our vision what if we learn to
internalize the fact that within us
there are many many great lives to be
lived and there's many many great plans
to be executed so with all of these
great plans and all of these great lives
within us we get to choose and we get to
chart our own coordinates to wherever it
is that we want to go how beautiful is
that so now that we've calibrated our
compasses what is next here is an
interesting framework I found in the
comments section of a YouTube video as I
was doing research for this video it
says we have three currencies we have
money we have time and we have knowledge
whichever one of these that you need
spend the other two to get it
mind absolutely blown okay so starting
with if you need money spend time and
knowledge to get you that's Moolah let's
use these three scenarios I wanted to
keep these three examples to give like a
well-rounded perspective of how this can
literally be applied to anyone no matter
what it is that you're doing in your
life the first one you're someone
looking for a more traditional career
with your definition of success maybe
you want to switch roles maybe you want
to switch careers all together maybe you
want to go back to school no matter the
case the very first thing is to get very
clear on what you want once you know
what you want it makes it a lot easier
for you to think through strengths and
weaknesses and then when you think of
strengths how can I add on to this and
knowing your weaknesses or knowing
things that you would like to improve on
you can go out there and find resources
online that are free and won't cost you
a dime there's online courses offered by
top universities there's free YouTube
videos
like this there's also indeed's YouTube
channel where they help you understand
yourself better in the context of an
employee and what your potential
employer may be looking for during
interviews I'm gonna play a really quick
and fun clip because they're actually
pretty lit I wish I had this when I was
interviewing I
just wasn't good at I would love to hear
about what you're working on and how
will you got where you are now
absolutely I started with small to
mid-sized businesses but I was crushing
that size it's the kind of thing where
like either you have it or you don't and
I definitely do but he always wants to
talk to me whenever I'm at the water if
not to you know took my own horn or
anything
or anything
I was me during interviews back in the
day picture-pattering away not even
remembering what's coming out of my
mouth anyway if you guys are looking for
any job related resources indeed's
Channel literally has so many amazing
resources and videos like the one that I
just showed you guys where they break
down how you can show up more
confidently and capably in job
interviews in your workplace and even
just in life all of that was mostly
things you can do online by yourself in
your own time the second part is
something that I feel like is completely
underrated something that I definitely
shied away from because it involves
talking to other humans imagine if you
were just a bit more open to asking your
friends for help or asking your friends
to connect you with people who they
think would be good for you to talk to
or if you cold the end 10 people on
LinkedIn who are a bit more ahead of
their career than you are or who have
the positions that you are currently
looking for to ask them for advice maybe
ask them for a little mentorship or ask
them for a little bit of informational
interview and this is something that I
realized myself towards the end of last
year and like all of this year if there
are people out there who are
significantly smarter than you and more
ahead of the career than you why did I
feel the need to do everything on my own
when I could have fast-tracked my growth
and my development kind of goes back to
like you don't have to suffer alone
moving on to the second example of if
you're someone looking to start your own
company with within your definition of
success maybe you're an artist maybe
you're a digital Nomad maybe you believe
you can be the next tech unicorn my
stomach to scramble you can take online
courses on how to optimize your Etsy
Shop you can watch YouTube videos on how
other people successfully run their
digital nomadic lives and there's
endless business books on how you can
start and run your own company like the
human element is still very helpful if
you can talk to someone who's already
doing it if you can ask them questions
of what they wish they knew before they
started sticks that they've made this is
actually why I absolutely love podcasts
because it would have been very hard to
get access to some of these people one
that I've been listening to most lately
is Tim ferriss's podcast these are
seriously like some of the superstars
the Pinnacle like the top the very very
top top top people in their careers it's
just so precious and so valuable and a
lot of who I am today and the things
that I'm doing is largely inspired by
the people that I hear on these podcasts
their Journeys their learnings so the
third scenario you're someone looking to
sort out your personal finances there's
a lot that could be said here but I'll
just share one person ramit safety rich
life exercise do yourself a favor and do
that rich life is less about how to be
rich rich and more about how to be rich
in your way some people want 100 pairs
of shoes some people just want their
homes cleaned every month and ramid
safety's rich life is actually something
James introduced to me and something
that we would check in with each other
on every quarter to see if we are living
our rich life individually and if we're
living our rich life together just tying
in all of these elements of being
curious and seeking knowledge and
spending time to learn about money and
then connecting that with people in your
life and setting systems together and
creating Rich lives together and
dreaming together I think that's so
romantic the thread between all these
three scenarios is that if there's a
will there is a way if you really need
money if you really want money you'll
figure out a way you really will because
we all have time we all have knowledge
or we can all gain knowledge so use
those to get the Mula that you want the
second bucket is time we need time like
for most of us if you really need time
look on your phone pick up your phone
right now let me just pick up my phone
right now and check your screen time for
most of us we will be appalled and we
will be shocked I was actually very
appalled and very shocked when I
discovered two weekends ago when I was
recording a podcast with Vivian that I
spend on average 10 hours a week 10
hours a week on Instagram that is 10
hours of time that could be spent
running a marathon that can be spent
meditating that is 10 hours to do so
many things I could have read a book how
many books have I read this year zero
I've started a lot of books but I
haven't finished many point here is to
be able to figure out what it is that is
most worth your time what is it that you
can become world class at and hone in on
that and focus on that and allow other
people to help you take care of the
other areas and aspects of your life
we'll have to slowly work our way there
but this is the goal this is the way
baby Yoda this is the way and the last
bucket is knowledge if you need
knowledge spend time or money to beef up
up your brain you can go to the library
there's literally millions of books that
you can read to make you a much more
knowledgeable person if you guys have
been following along voice hugs I've
been sharing a lot about my coaching
experience working with an executive
coach this act of showing up committed
to work on yourself and to talk about it
with another person whose job is to help
you unlock and realize things about
yourself that you may not previously
known or realized I feel like a
different person I'm sure it's like a
culmination of many things that have
happened within the past few months but
I think a big big change and shift has
been coaching coaching can be synonymous
with having a therapist even though what
they do is different I think it's just
being able to show up on a weekly or
monthly basis with someone and to work
through the inner stuff you know you can
even talk to your coaches and talk to
your therapist about what success means
to you so these three currencies of
money time and knowledge I feel is so
wonderful and lovely because no matter
where we start off in life we'll at
least have two of them right like we
have time and we have the capacity to
learn and then over time we can use that
to get money and when we get money we
can use that to get more time or to get
even more knowledge it's
it's pretty beautiful just to be able to
through a framework see that if you
really cared about yourself and if you
really care about your future if you
just invest time into learning the world
is literally your oyster I hope you guys
are able to stay strong you're able to
stay true to yourself and what you
believe is successful what you think
success looks like and to not be tempted
and to not be swayed by what you see
online what you see I don't know even in
your friend circles and to always
remember what we see is not the totality
of a situation some of these people in
any walks of life that we look up to may
very well be very unhappy miserable
empty people and that isn't to put them
down but to just have compassion for
them while also having compassion for
ourselves though it's okay that we don't
look like them or that we're not doing
what they're doing or that we're not as
successful as they are because we're all
on our beautiful and unique life paths
and life Journeys and with that
here's a hug ow all righty remember to
check out indeed's videos for any tips
and tricks if you guys are interested
I'll see you guys
in the next video Ahoy I can't