How’s it going, love birds? Relationship issues are just a part of life. Building a healthy and
happy bond between you and your partner is not always easy. When a relationship is in trouble,
it's usually due to a communication breakdown. In today’s video, we’ll highlight certain
awkward conversations you need to have if your relationship is going to survive.
Is spending habits a good conversation? What about relationship fears? What about boundaries? We’ll
discuss all this AND more… Boundaries
Do you feel like your partner is overstepping their boundaries? Well,
talking about this can help ease the tension. Research states that when you have healthy
relationship boundaries, you take into account how your companion feels. You
respect each other’s levels of comfort. Your partner doesn’t always feel the same way
you do. It’s always good to know where they stand and how comfortable they are with certain things.
It’s also important not to violate people’s boundaries once you are aware of them.
Start by asking them what they’re okay with and what makes them uncomfortable.
This is enough to help your relationship flourish. Have you discussed personal boundaries with your
partner? Sound off in the comment section, and start a conversation with our Bestie community...
Fighting Style No, not that kind of fighting.
I’m strictly talking about arguments here. Every relationship will have its share of arguments,
but how—and even when—you resolve them may help you get through the tough times.
First, you need to know more about your partner's temper. Do they get angry easily? What sets them
off? Figuring out the best approach to communicate will reduce the number of
heated disputes you have. The key is to learn to argue fairly rather than avoid difficult debates.
When you have hurt feelings or are debating a point,
what do each one of you commonly do? According to a recent study,
most couples don't want apologies when they argue. They just want their spouse to hand over control.
You need to learn how to compromise with each other, as simply handing over control
isn’t enough to keep a relationship going. Have I caught your interest?
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more amazing Bestie content! Housework
If you’re a couple that lives together, both of you have jobs. Whether it’s vacuuming the floor
or mowing the lawn, everyone has work to do. The more hectic your schedule is, the harder
this work becomes. That’s why it’s good to talk about which jobs are assigned to which person.
There may be a few arguments here and there, but you need to settle who does what.
One of the best things to do is to write out a physical schedule. You can either keep it
in your phone, or post it on your fridge. Let’s say Monday, you take out the garbage,
while they clean out the cupboards. You have to come to some sort of agreement.
Family Dealing with your partner’s family can be one of
the toughest parts of a relationship. Things are complicated when it comes to the other person’s
parents. One bad visit to your boyfriend’s mom’s house can ruin your relationship.
This is why if you’re having problems, you need to discuss it with your partner. They need to know
if there’s tension between you and their family members. These are the people that raised them
after all. In a way, they have the right to know. Intimacy
In loving relationships, intimacy is defined as emotions of closeness and connectivity.
It’s the ability to be your true self in front of another person, flaws and all.
You'll never reach genuine closeness in your relationship if you can't disclose your deepest
feelings, be vulnerable, and take chances. Healthy relationships are those in which
partners share intimacy, have each other's backs, and feel comfortable. If intimacy doesn’t exist,
we’re not going to be happy. In any relationship, physical attraction
decreases over time. There needs to be something else that keeps the two of you together. You
need to think of other things you love about this person. Always tell your partner if you’re feeling
a lack of intimacy growing. This way you can figure out what your relationship needs to thrive.
Speaking of intimacy and closeness, how do you and your partner hug?
Watch and learn about 8 types of hugs and what they say about your relationship.
Now back to our talk on important relationship conversations...
Work-life Harmony I don’t know if anyone’s ever
told you this, but you can have a relationship and career at the same time. Neither you or
your partner should feel like they’re being cheated out of pursuing their career goals.
Many of us want professions, which might include working long hours. If that's the case with you,
it's best to let your companion know you won't be home as often so they don't become reliant on you.
Spending Habits Money makes the
world go round. There's no doubt that being excellent with money can make life easier.
However, it's normal to have differing perspectives on money, since we all come
from different financial backgrounds. Some people are really cautious with their dough,
while others spend like there’s no tomorrow. When your partner's finances are connected
to yours, it’s important the two of you know about them at all times.
When you start living together and paying bills, it becomes increasingly more crucial.
A study suggests that your partner's financial decisions might influence your life, even if you
don't think your lives are that entwined yet. The good news is that living together and
sharing expenditures might be less expensive than living alone. As a result of becoming partners,
you will have possibilities to save and invest that you would not have otherwise. The chances
of any couple agreeing 100% are slim to none, but figuring out where you disagree
may lead to tremendous compromise, and make your finances easier to manage.
Fears This is a big one. In any relationship,
both parties will experience their own anxieties. It can be anxiety over your relationship,
or over separate issues in your personal lives. But whatever your worries may be, it’s always best
you mention it to your significant other. This way, they will know to be cautious. Now of course,
triggers are often unavoidable. It’s just a brutal reality of life.
But the more you communicate with your partner, the less likely they are to trigger you.
Children This is one of the more important conversations
you’re going to have with your partner. You may be fantasizing about starting a family sometime
in the next few years. The problem is your partner may not be on the same page. Not everybody in the
modern world wants children. While this can be a huge upset in your relationship, it’s important
to respect your partner's wishes. You do not want to force another person to have a child with you.
That’s only going to create more tension. If you want to have a baby conversation,
you need to talk to your partner privately, and be honest with them. Just prepare for
them to be honest with you. Relationship Requirements
Studies prove that positive relationship expectations are related to greater
interpersonal functioning. If you have a solid grasp on what your partner expects from you,
the better off your relationship will be. This is why you should discuss your expectations,
needs, and requirements as a couple and as individuals. Within a relationship, you have
needs you would like to be addressed. These include safety, support, honesty, and pleasure.
Also, when you’re in a relationship, you will still need space to develop as a person.
You need the person to give you space to pursue your own goals, as well as hang out with friends.
Actually, this leads us into our next point. The Privacy Talk
Remember how we talked about boundaries in the beginning? Well, this has something to do with
that. We all need our personal space in life. But this is even more important in relationships.
You need to give your partner some much needed privacy so they’re able to collect
themselves and gather their thoughts. This will only make them a better partner.
Take some time to talk about some of the ways your partner is infringing on your privacy.
What are some of the good things they’re doing? For the two of you to be at your best together,
you need to spend some time by yourselves. But this can only be done if you communicate.
There’s no simple solution for the lack of communication in a relationship.
You may have several of these conversations in order to stay together. Have I sparked
your interest? Let’s keep the conversation going with a couple more love-related videos, shall we?
Here's all you need to know. Check out 8 daily habits that build a strong romantic
relationship. Or how about 14 more questions to ask your partner before getting married?
Go ahead, click one. Or better yet, watch both, and learn how your communication approach can
help you build a better relationship. Do you or someone you know find it hard
to communicate with their partner? Let us know in the comments section below!