What's up, ladies? Welcome to another episode of Galteligence.
They say manners maketh man or woman, and we agree. In today's episode,
we're teaching you texting rules and etiquette so you don't scare away the guy you like
before you can even score a date. We made a similar video over at our
MantelligenceDating channel where we shared major rules for texting girls,
and so we thought we'd make one for the ladies too. I mean, it takes two to tango.
If you're wondering how to get a guy to text you back,
stay tuned because, at the end of this video, we're also revealing the number one text
Message you should never send to a guy if you don't want to turn him off. Let's begin.
5. First Things First So you like this guy but do you really? Before
you try to figure out what to text a guy, psychologist Maryanne Comaroto advises setting
your intentions for texting him first. Maybe you're just bored and looking for a
guy you can hit up whenever you feel lonely. Perhaps you're caught up in a fantasy,
and you only want to text him so you can distract yourself from reality.
According to Comaroto, being upfront in your text about what you want from a guy
or don't want is one of the most important rules for texting guys.
You don't want to lead him on if you're only looking for something casual, right?
So before you hit him up with a "Hi" and a flirty emoji, check-in with yourself.
More than asking yourself, "should I text him?" Comaroto suggests
reflecting on questions like, "When I’m not feeling so lonely anymore,
will I still want that person around?" "Why am I doing what I'm doing?" "Are you
daydreaming because you're smitten or trying to bury other feelings with thoughts
of this person?" "Will you be okay with this choice today,
and will you still be tomorrow?" If your answer is no, you might want to reconsider
hitting send. Can't make up your mind? Watch this video
where we help you answer the question "should I text him?" and help you figure out
when exactly to text a guy. 4. Ngl Dis Sux FR
Ladies, this is one of the texting mistakes that turn guys off.
If you want to know how to text a guy, it's certainly n0t lyk d1s.
I'm sure you know what I mean. Ngl (not gonna lie), fr (for real), Istg (I swear to God),
2nite, B4n (bye for now), FWIW (for what it's worth), TTYL (talk to you later),
and so much more. Using one or two texting shortcuts in your texts from time to time
might be okay but overdoing it is simply off-putting. In fact,
according to a new digital flirting rules survey conducted by Omlet,
most men and women in their teens to early twenties
consider an overuse of informal spelling their number one
biggest turn-off when texting or online chatting. According to the Omlet app,
the fifth-biggest digital flirting turn-off for guys was using excessive slang.
Receiving messages containing LOL, BRB and WTF had a 30% disapproval rate.
53% of men disapproved lack of punctuation, grammar, and funky or informal spelling
at 54%, while multiple exclamation points in chat messages were number 3 for guys,
with a 50% disapproval rate. I mean, "Lol! NGL Wuz gr8 2 C U 2. Fr! gtg ttyl"? Really?
If you're wondering how to get a guy to like you over text, talk like a human being,
not like some alien from Mars. If you have the time to flirt,
I'm sure you have the time to spell out your words.
Still wondering how to make a guy like you over text?
Learn all the texting mistakes that turn guys off through this video.
3. Don’t Send Him a Russian Novel This is one of the texting rules every girl
should know. You might think that baring your soul over
text is okay but neigh. One of the most important texting rules you
should know when talking to a guy is that men generally don't like texting.
Don't take it against them. Men are just wired differently compared to
women. While men can be just as emotional as women,
studies have shown that men actually have shorter attention spans than
women. According to dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com Julie
Spira, women tend to text more conversationally than men.
However, men like to use text messages to stay in touch
with a short word count. Consider texting as a pre-game. While you're
still getting to know a guy over text, make sure to keep your messages short and
simple. If you want to know how to text a guy you
like, the rule of thumb is to keep their length to about that of a
tweet. If your word count is greater than 140 to
160 characters, consider it too long. In addition to keeping your texts short, don't
make your conversations a marathon texting session. Don't flood him
with texts, and don't act clingy by texting him all day.
Take a chill pill and be patient instead of racking your brain thinking about
what to text a guy. If you want to keep him interested, I suggest
texting him at least 2 to 3 times a week. Check in on him, ask him how he's doing, or
wish him a great day at work. If he initiated the conversion, text him back
but don't drag it out too long. Too much texting can make things fizzle out
fast. Remember, men love the chase. So give it to
them. Alright, ladies. We're down to our last two
items for this list of texting rules. But before we tell you more about how to text
a guy, what to text a guy, and how to flirt with a man over text, I want
to remind you that at the end of this video, we're revealing the number one text you shouldn't
send a guy if you don't want to scare him away. Ready
for more rules for texting a guy? Let's jump back in.
2. Give Him a Good Laugh It's a known fact that people love a good
joke. It's why we love funny movies or why stand-up
comedians exist. In the world of digital flirting, adding a
humorous tone to your texts works too. If you're wondering how to text a guy or how
to flirt through text, the best way to do it is to keep it playful.
According to Jeffrey Hall, a professor of communication studies at the
University of Kansas, the real kicker is something that's called
a "partner effect," which happens when one person's humor is associated
with their partner's contentment. In his study, husbands of women who reported
producing humor were significantly more satisfied. This means
that in the courtship stage, humor plays an important role in facilitating
bonding, fostering inclusion, and signaling playfulness, which are cherished
by men and women alike. One of the things men really want is a woman
they can laugh with. Men love women who can throw in a good joke.
So aside from sending him flirty texts, make sure to give him a good belly laugh too.
Ask him a funny question that'll send his drink shooting out of his nose.
Poke fun at yourself, poke fun at him, or share a funny video.
Just remember to keep it natural. Anything forced or uncalled for won't cut it. That’s
not what they want. Curious to know about the things men really
want? Check out this video. 1. Don’t Play Good Cop/Bad Cop
One of the important texting rules every girl should keep in mind
is to never play good cop/bad cop over text. What do I mean by this? Well,
some girls tend to take it too far too early by interrogating a guy
and bombarding him with questions about his past relationships, his friends,
or even about posts and photos they have shared on their social media.
Some would even go as far as interrogating them and THEN
judging their answers if they didn't like them. Regardless of what you've seen
and are curious about, it's never okay to interrogate your love interest
with these kinds of stuff. Of course, it's only natural to want to get
to know him better, but don't obsess about it.
The best way to get to know someone is to spend time with them.
If his intentions for you are sincere, he'll come clean about any past mistakes he's made.
More importantly, a man who has genuine feelings for you will never lie to you.
These kinds of things unfold naturally. Remember, a man's character is often revealed in times
of temptation. Now that you know how to text a guy and what
to text a guy, it's time we reveal the number one text you
shouldn't send to a man. Ladies, there is a time and place for everything.
Having said that, NEVER jump into discussions about the future
over text. Sending him a "What are we?" "How many kids
do you want in the future?" "When do you want to get married" so casually
over text is a recipe for disaster. Especially if you haven't been talking that
long. These kinds of discussions are better left for when you have established
a relationship. And need I say not through text?
What other texting rules should a girl take note off? Go ahead and share your comments
below. The next time you ask yourself how to text
a guy you like, remember these texting rules if you want a get your crush to text you back.
Not sure when to text a guy? Watch this video where we help you answer the question "should
I text him?" and help you figure out when exactly to text
a guy.