all too often I hear people complaining about why can't I be like everybody else
and just eat whatever I want or how come it's so easy for them to lose weight and
I struggle so much with my weight today I want to talk about why we shouldn't be
comparing ourselves to other people hello everyone welcome to Mind Blowing
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why can't I be like everybody else here's the joke you are our body reacts
to food like everybody else alright so if you are human and you ingest
carbohydrates chances are your body is going to do some processes to put those
carbohydrates away and dependent on your family's background and your ability to
store fat you're gonna do something you're either gonna store those
carbohydrates as fat increasing the size of your body or
you're gonna have some other negative reaction to those carbohydrates if they
cannot be stored as fat so you are like everybody else because those types of
reactions we all share so we're gonna do one of those I want to make sure that
when you're and we shouldn't be comparing ourselves to other people but
if you're going to let's make sure that we compare apples and apples right
because if I'm going to say oh why can I be like everybody else but I'm 50 and
I'm comparing myself to a 30 year old who's sitting there eating scarfing back
a hamburger and fries and whatever well of course I can't do that I'm 20 years
ahead of that person my metabolism is not at the space that their metabolism
might be asked if we're both eating a similar lifestyle standard American diet
okay so I need to accept that I'm further ahead in the story so if I'm
comparing myself someone younger if I'm comparing myself to a man again it's not
a fair comparison of course a man of my age can still eat in standard American
diet sort of comparing it can still eat more junk then I will be able to and it
will not affect or it will not look like it's affecting him the same way because
he has more muscle mass and he has right so again bodies are different there are
differences and even if I compare myself to myself what I would have been able to
eat but let's say two years ago versus 22 years ago completely different right
even myself to myself my body has aged my ability to metabolize food had
changed things were different why can't I do like everybody else sets me up to
not be focusing on how can I do better today in the why can't I be like
everybody else the other issue that I see is misunderstanding that everybody's
ability to store fat is different so some people have the ability that their
fat stores can store quite a bit some people can get up to 400 pounds in
storage and still metabolically not have diabetes or now they'll have other
issues from carrying that much weight but not have heart disease not have
diabetes not have so not have some of the issues that for example someone who
can only store an extra 70 or 100 pounds would start having much sooner so when
I'm trying to explain this I can have person a and person B eating the exact
same diet person a ends up weighing 200 pounds and starts to have metabolic
issues showing themselves versus person B gets to 400 pounds before they start
to have metabolic issues showing themselves and the difference being that
obviously the more carbohydrates my body can put away as fat the safer I am from
metabolic issues so I know that seems counterintuitive but putting the sugar
away gets it out of my bloodstream which makes it safer for me so being able to
store more fat means that in terms of self-preservation my body can protect
itself more than someone who cannot store a lot of fat because that means
you're going to get into the diabetes heart disease hypertension scenario
maybe Alzheimer's maybe all those things faster than someone who can store more
then we have the law why is it so easy for that person to lose weight and such
a struggle for me and that's not fair it again I feel like we assume that if
someone shows consistency if someone's shows
dedication commitment to an idea and they move forward with it that it was
easy you know it took me five months to lose 70 pounds I wasn't trying to lose
weight just put this in perspective I was trying to heal my hip my hip was
healed I would say within the first month and a half it felt better by two
months it felt like gone so why did I continue with this way of eating because
I learned that carbohydrates caused that problem now in the course of healing my
hip my knee started to feel better my elbows my shoulders my neck all the
things that had been bothering me for so many of my back all the things that
haven't bothered me for so many years started to feel better so it made sense
to me to keep moving forward with the way that I was eating did I end up
losing weight yes did I lose weight in five months
yes was it easy I still needed to learn a new completely new way of eating which
meant that I had all my bins I had to start cooking anybody who knows me knows
I hate cooking so that was not easy and I cooked daily now so is that easy for
me no it's not um I had to make a lot of changes I had to I had to get over the
idea that in my life moving forward I would not eat coconut bread or pudding
again those are two cakes that my mother makes and she makes them the best of
anybody in our family and I'm not gonna eat those things again I had to put my
mind around that idea but you know what the trade of feeling like this compared
to I'm not going to eat those things again I made that trade and since I've
gone keto I haven't had it now am I gonna say that's a forever thing I
pretty much think it's a forever thing I actually feel like if I tried it now it
wouldn't taste right to me because sweet things bug me but at the beginning when
I made that decision I didn't know that my taste buds were going to change this
much and I still made that decision that I'm not gonna eat that and parties have
happened between then and now the bread was there I didn't have
I smelled it smelled good I didn't eat it we're all the same
I had to commit to this lifestyle I had to say this is what I'm doing so that I
could feel good I did that that was my choice
you have your choices to make but don't say it's easy don't say because that
person committed and there that was easy I had to choose health over taste I
decided to do that I committed to the idea because you know what it doesn't
matter what occasions are happening or holidays I will never take a holiday
from my health it's something that I'm committed to because I want to be able
to live the life I want to live and not being able to run for those months that
I wasn't able to run was a wake-up call taste doesn't matter as much as being
able to run being able to snowboard being able to longboard being able to
ski being able to play with my daughter outside and run around with her on our
boards and know that I can keep up that's more important to me than eating
a piece of cake what I've learned is that things that I didn't know were
hurting me actually were and as a matter of fact they weren't just hurting me
they were killing me and I did was unaware I was on a regular basis
poisoning myself and not aware and until I became aware I couldn't change it but
now that I know how can I possibly go back to hurting myself which is what
would I be doing if I chose to go back and eat those foods again I'd be hurting
myself now am I going to say that I'm never gonna have a glass of wine again
or never gonna have a sip of beer I can't say that right now I've had wine
in the last year but is it a regular thing that I do on a regular but so is
it is it safe for me to say that there could be an occasion where I might taste
a piece of cake sure I could say that because I had wine
right but I can guarantee you that I wouldn't pull a haul off a cigarette and
it wouldn't I wouldn't sniff some cocaine those things are not interesting
to me so again I go back to why would I go and eat something that I know is
sweet unless there was a really really really good reason for and I'm waiting
to see what that really really really good reason would be and I'll trust me
if I find that good reason I'll let you guys know
but up until this point in time I haven't found that reason I want to
point out something when I was eating all those carb heavy foods I actually
thought they were healthy for me I learned that they weren't but I thought
they were otherwise I wouldn't have been doing it you have no idea what people
are going through when you see them in their process of losing weight so
they're losing it you're watching them and you don't know what's going through
their mind are they committed to the diet because they're afraid to die are
they starving all the time but they're not saying anything are they thinking
about food 24/7 and suffering through that you don't know you have no idea and
when you're doing a diet - like that it is a diet you are torturing yourself to
get to an end goal and one of the things I've mentioned a bunch of times is that
when you torture yourself to get to an end goal the chance that you are able to
continue so once I reach the weight the doctor says or once I solved information
that I was living once that as soon as that thing is gone will I be able to
continue for doing this thing and most people cannot if your only reason for
dieting is to lose weight if your only reason for dieting is to stop a problem
and you're looking at it as that I'm gonna do this diet I'm gonna stop the
problem and then I can go back to my life you will go back to your life and
when you go back to your life you will resume harming yourself you will resume
introducing the negative back into your life I want my wellness warriors to
understand that that's a bad idea I want you to be healthy not only today but
long into the future and to be healthy long into the future you need to really
planned out and think about what's better for me why am I really doing this
are doing this strictly to be thin or do I want to live a happy healthy life long
into the future there's so many people that I see online vacillating between
eating healthy and then eating garbage and then eating healthy and eating
garbage and it's like they're putting themselves first of all on a yo-yo
dieting situation which is absolutely not healthy usually when we yo-yo diet
we end up at a higher weight than we were when we started dieting initially
it's a bad thing to do for yourself what we need to really understand is that the
damage that's being done to our bodies by our carbohydrates is the kind of
damage that is slow lasts over time but on top of that it's motivated
by dopamine and endorphins being released in your body that kind of
pushes you to want to eat something that you know is not good for you it pushes
you to want to eat something that's harming you it's called addiction and if
we don't accept these pieces of the puzzle and understand that we are all
human food affects us the same way and there's certain levels of this that we
don't have control over some things we control some things we do not it's for
you to learn what parts I control and then do the things that's gonna help you
to change your life we need to stop trying to pretend that eating excess of
carbohydrates is normal because it isn't we need to stop pretending that eating
is excess of carbohydrates is a good way to fuel our self because it isn't you
need to understand that when you eat carbs they hurt your body now like I
said some people have more tolerance than others and that's fine but
understand that underlying that tolerance you have you're still putting
a pork at quality substance in your body for energy when there are better options
out there we didn't know how bad cigarettes were going to be for us until
we were 20 30 40 years down the road we've already seen by watching what's
happened in the last 20 30 50 years how bad carbohydrates have been for our
bodies let's do something today to have a better healthier body today
you wouldn't put regular gas in a car where the manufacturer specifically says
put premium right you wouldn't even put medium if you specifically said put
premium you put premium why are we feeding ourselves a low-quality food of
car with carbs when there's fats available that are healthier for us that
both of our bodies and our brains use much more efficiently and that they do
not lead to the inflammation they do not lead to the fat storage and they do not
lead to the health complications that eating carbs leads to let's do the thing
that's gonna help us to be healthier and eat better quality I really hope you
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