Всем привет! Welcome back to another episode of the vodka vodcast with me
Conor Clyne this is the Tsar Experience and today I have a very special guest a good
friend of mine Matt Artisan from the YouTube channel The Attractive Man and
we're going to be getting into a little bit the differences between
communicating with girls dating girls here in Ukraine I'm speaking to you from
Langeron in Odessa on the shores of the Black Sea and the other countries
that Matt has traveled to across the world so let's get into today's video
this is the vodka vodcast episode I think we're in episode 11.
So Matt tell us I think you should
probably introduce yourself a little bit you have a YouTube channel you give lots
of advice for guys about you know dating when they travel in different countries
across the world you have a lot of great videos on YouTube gonna link his channel
below of course in the description also in the show notes on the podcast version
if you're listening to this on the audio so maybe tell everybody who's out there
who is watching the Tsar Experience today about your channel and where you've been
traveling to and you did a great video actually about I think it was called
where's the best places to meet girls also top 10 countries for meeting
beautiful women yeah that video I'll link that one below as well yeah I spent
well basically since 2012 I've been a digital nomad I've been literally just
living mostly out of a suitcase well for four years I lived strictly out of a
suitcase just traveling sometimes every week sometimes every few weeks to
different countries and I still travel quite a bit I've been to about 78
countries we've done workshops dating pickup workshops in 43 countries now so
as you can imagine most of the countries I've been to I've been meeting women
there whether it's during the daytime just walking around going to bars and
clubs a little bit on tinder and stuff like that and just you know enjoying and
learning about the culture very good so in I think some of the countries you
mentioned were in that video were Philippines Colombia obviously here in
Ukraine maybe also in Russia I think as well as in there of those countries what
do you think are the main differences and similarities in terms of like the
dating culture well as far as the dating culture there's some countries that are
a bit more conservative a little bit more reserved the girl typically won't
go back with a guy on a first date one-night stands are less common in most
if not all of Eastern Europe maybe the Baltics I don't know you know more about
the Baltics I haven't spent that much time that might not be the case I don't
actually think it is the case in my personal experience. Go Baltics! I've had a good time in the Baltics so
but in most of Eastern Europe yeah it's a little bit slower dating process versus Southeast
Asia or most of the Western world you know United Kingdom Germany USA
Australia Canada etc where one-night stands are a little more common all
right so I think that dispels a little bit of a myth about Eastern Europe I
don't like to use the word easy to refer to two women but I think that's a lot a lot
of people would say and there's a perception maybe that you know people
guys come to the West here and all these girls just waiting to open their
legs for them or something like that but that's absolutely the opposite in
reality in my experience and that's been yours yeah I agree and I had that same
kind of idea misconception I had that same kind of idea coming here thinking
that oh you know higher value you know in general Westerners make a lot more
money than Ukrainians thinking like oh you know they're gonna see a foreigner
is like wow but it's not really the case you know don't come here really
expecting that also don't come here expecting you know if you're coming here
for a week don't expect to get a bunch of one-night stands if you're coming out
going out every night it's just not gonna happen you got to spend some time
here I'd say at least put in a month and by that time at the end of the month you're
probably gonna be dating a few girls or at least maybe one that you're dating
consistently and you're probably not gonna want to leave at that point that's
a great advertisement for traveling here for sure actually I met a Belgian guy
Sven last week and he had some great quotes because he had a similar
experience he'd come for three weeks almost a month and he said the first
week was a disaster for him because he didn't understand the culture he doesn't
speak Russian and he said that if you have guys who
come here expecting that girls to throw themselves at them and local girls throw
themselves out there because they're from the West will leave with their
ego on the floor basically because that's not how things work you have to
invest the time you have to get to know get to know the girls here a lot more
than I think is common in Western Europe or in North America and that's
definitely the opposite maybe a lot of you guys have as an impression before
you come here so just bear that in just bear that in mind so you've come here as
your American Canadian you're North American how have you found it because
you don't speak Russian for example how do you find your experience here in
Odessa since in the summertime I mean it's it's a great city it's a lot of fun
there's a lot of things to do tons of beautiful women in really every city
every big city in Ukraine so yeah if you're looking for beautiful women this
is definitely the place to come I mean I think there's a reason maill order
brides are from Ukraine and Russia typically it's a great because they're
beautiful more traditional you know you're not
gonna find a bunch of slutty you know Ukrainian girls running around
here for some people you know that's what they want
Other people they want a long-term relationship or a wife so I think this
is a great place to find somebody like that same with Moldova in my experience
Belarus you know much more traditional culture much more family-oriented
oriented orientated than Western culture which is maybe more focused on on work
career so if that's what you're looking for then definitely come out here check
it out try a few different countries in Eastern Europe and how you found
reaction to you being American and not speaking Russian that has been the
general reaction when your pitch goes because you push all girls on the street
during the day as opposed to clubs yeah and sometimes I speak a little bit of
Russian I know enough Russian that I can at least like approach a girl in a
daytime situation. [Russian] It will sound unexpected, I think you look beautiful.
[English] and that usually gets a good reaction I'd say
it's about 50/50 as far as whether they speak very fluent English or not either
like 50% of time they're like no no no English other you know 50% they speak
pretty good English and yeah I get good reactions it's pretty much the same as
just about anywhere else okay haven't found the reactions particularly way
better than some other countries or also way worse I haven't really I didn't
really get any blowouts yeah some women wouldn't stop when I approached them
mostly because I had a camera in my hand I think
into that but yeah I mean you'll if you come here and you're genuine and you
approach women with confidence you'll get women to stop they'll have a
conversation with you you'll get some instant dates and you'll have a good
time I mean yeah it's it's not necessarily like way better than other
places like don't come here maybe from the US thinking oh you're gonna get way
better reactions than the US women. It's going to be about the same.
I'm actually surprised about the camera point because I would my impression is
that actually having a camera is a big advantage in Ukraine
Certainly when I walk around with my camera, it's really great.
You have a much nicer camera. I'm using a cellphone.
If you gonna come with a camera, come with a big camera!
Yeah, it's much better. It's basically like running up to a girl with your phone and showing her that you're filming
is what I'm doing. I even get a few f-offs not in Ukraine but
this happened in Sweden they just were not into it at all that's a big
difference between say Western Europe and Eastern Europe in general Eastern
Europeans are a lot more enthusiastic to be on camera that's actually why I get
so much great hero actually the footage do you see what girls who are my friends
or maybe they're just acquaintances it's because in general they actually enjoy
being a camera which makes a big difference so what you found it's like
you were mainly approaching girls through the day here and there and it
was pretty much neutral compared to other countries it wasn't any better
wasn't anywhere it's kind of somewhere in the middle in terms of reaction yeah
I think so yeah about the same reaction as far as the night time I didn't do a
lot of going out this trip but I have gone out of course to clubs in Eastern
Europe and we're just talking about this and I found it a little bit harder it
all depends on the venue if you go to like a really loud nightclub which is
typically what they have and in my experience in most of Eastern Europe
it's going to be really difficult they're not gonna want to talk sure yelling
in their ear and it's it's painful so if you're gonna do if you're gonna go out
at night to meet women definitely find some bars where it's not too loud and
that's just generally good advice yeah and I think that applies anywhere yeah if
you want to have a conversation of course meeting girls in clubs is a
different dynamic I don't think you need to be particularly intellectual and have
a very deep conversation it's more about the feeling and the vibe is only spiked by
alcohol girls certainly know how to drink by the way don't think you're going to
come here and drink girls under the table even as an Irish guy born in Ireland
that's gonna be a tough proposition without drink Ukrainians and they don't
drink as much vodka as you think maybe the guys do but the women don't really
in my experience like vodka all that much no actually it's seen as more a
provincial drink I think today and it's not seen as very high-class to drink
vodka so actually most girls would like to drink whiskey or rum or some imported
alcohol or champagne champagne is always popular yep French Champagne
sure lots of Moet Chandon you're stock up on champagne when you get
here so in terms I have did you find out you've the Sun y'all keep it on for a
little bit longer than we have to to two views how did you find that
speaking Russian did it make much difference to your trip personally it
definitely helps I think in any country if you know a little bit of the language
it definitely helps no matter where you go and you know you can learn at least a
few simple words no matter where you go of course like the basics hello thank
you good bye but also beautiful although the word beautiful in English every girl
in every country knows that word course but it's a little bit more charming I
think if you know how to say beautiful in their language and if you're going to
be here long enough or in any country learn
you know at least the basics as far as like hey I just saw you and I thought
you looked very beautiful I wanted to say hi
hi my name is and then maybe tell me something about you just learn that you
know a few sentences it'll go a long way it'll be a lot more helpful because some
women I definitely had some women who I walked up to them and said hey do you
speak English they say no and start walking I say I'd say I wait at
and start speaking Russian and then a lot of times they
would stop so you think it's actually an advantage to be able to open the conversation in
Russian as opposed to 100 percent dependent on English yeah I would say in general
being able speak Russian makes a huge difference here English language skills
by the way if you're not familiar with this region are ranked some of the lowest in
the world basically about the same level as China
if anyone maybe you've traveled to China as well but these are the rankings so
don't come here and expect that you're going to be able to speak to everybody
in English even if they're young a lot of girls are not comfortable in English and
actually a lot of them don't like tourists very much this is a very touristic city
so if you open in English they've probably been opened like 20 times that day maybe even
if they're hanging out by a beach at a club or something with some guy 'hey
do you speak English?' and that's really just not gonna make you stand out
in particular endear them to you so at least be able to open in Russian and say
two or three things even if you have to switch the English afterwards I think it
will make a lot better impression so kind of to wrap that how would you place
coming here as an experience as a foreign guide from the West who kind of has his shit
together but is relying on using
English and I mean I know your shtick in your videos is actually walking around and meeting girls
during the day where would your place to compare to your favorite country is that
for meeting beautiful women like you have Columbia there you have Philippines
I know you're about to fly off to the Philippines right now for a few
months you can see the weather has changed actually if it's like early
September and it went from summer to almost late in his winter in the space
of a week and he's going to be in the beautiful sunshine of the Philippines yeah
very hot on several levels when he gets in the Philippines
where would you place it in terms of like how you feel after your experience
here like for the last week or so in Odessa
well like you can see in the video 10 best places to meet beautiful women I
ranked it number 1 and there's a few reasons for that that i like it number
one is because of course they're beautiful
very you know you can compare the beauty to Russia I think Russia might be like
slightly slightly better a little bit more beautiful women waking around. You mean in Moscow? In the big cities?
Saint Petersburg, Novosibersk ... I've been to some small cities is not that good yeah Moscow is very good I think
things get concentrated in Russia I think the girls can be smaller towns
yeah rich guy towns maybe next summer there and maybe in Ukraine too so it's
almost the same I mean it's a lot cheaper here so the dollar or whatever
your currency is is probably gonna go pretty far here which I think makes just
the whole experience a lot more enjoyable because instead of having you
know a fifty dollar dinner you have a twenty dollar dinner when you're on a date so you can do more
while you're here as opposed to if you have to budget in another country so you
still you don't need a visa here if you're coming from US or Western Europe
most places you don't need a visa it's 90 days visa-free ever 180 days so
basically three months out of six you can stay here completely visa-free while
some Russia I have a video about it I'll link it but basically you're gonna have
to get a visa that's the summary of the video and Belarus of course has become
better it's gonna be easier now is thirty days visa-free was like this yeah
30 days visa-free for her last month for Americans - yeah for Americans really see
he didn't even know that because Lukashenko you know what president
Lukashenko changes the law every time I bitch and moan in my videos about Belarus
like it's more than a coincidence it's like twice yeah well this
let me just complain after my next trip and see if we get this ... maybe make all
their political decisions based on your channel but there is a backstory to that
about how actually they do watch my channel it wasn't in my favor
I was actually banned from Belarus for a year I know that you're watching in the
KGB in Belarus. We'll link to that video down below exactly the video that got Conor banned
from Belarus for one year so you still see it as been a moving place to meet
beautiful women Ukraine is a country maybe not necessarily Odessa but is a
country still well again it depends on what you're looking for so I mean that
video I made was very you know subjective of course and it all depends
on what you're looking for but yeah if you're looking for high quality and
especially relationship type material I think Ukraine is high up there for sure
the other one in that video was Moldova but it's just kind of boring there there's just
not much going on yeah that's also an important point a lot of the
comments that get in the channel like oh you're just in Ukraine because they're
beautiful girls there are beautiful girls in lots of
countries in this region so there's a combination of factors I'm gonna make a
separate video but it's why I chose Ukraine to spend the most time in but
it's like as he said visa free 90 days every 180 it's cheaper here also you
know I speak Russian so for me it's always cool to hang out in a place where I
actually speak the language pretty well I know the official language
here is Ukrainian I go to Lviv I've learnt Ukrainian
before I get trolled by an army of Ukrainian troll bots It happened to me when I was speaking Russian. Someone got mad at me.
He said you don't speak Russian here. You speak Ukrainian. I don't know any Ukrainian. Teach me!
In Lviv, to be clear I do speak in Ukrainian but here in Odessa the normal language
to speak in is in Russian and I actually find the political situation really
really interesting because I studied international relations actually
I specialized in the former Soviet Union and of course there are beautiful women
but as he's as Matt just said like Moldova unfortunately these days is not very
exciting so that's a reason why I wouldn't recommend spending you know
three months in Moldova but I would recommend spending three months here in
the summer so that's something also to factor in when you're planning your
holidays it's not only about where the beautiful girls are it's also about the
overall experience this city Odessa is my favorite for spending summer as
you've probably notice from the last two summers where I spent it here I think
we'll wrap it up with that Matt do you have anything you would add to the video
any advice for come check it out also check out Lviv! I love Lviv it's one of my favorite
cities. Kyiv is great too just not in my top ten
but Lviv, Odessa I mean you got the beautiful sea right here you can't beat
that alright so I guess with that go check
out Matt's channel I'm gonna linked up below go check out his video the one where we
were talking about where the 10 10 best countries to meet beautiful women I think
is the name of it if you're not a subscriber what are you waiting for
squeeze the red subscribe button yeah exactly and whack notification bell but probably if you
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notification because you actually watched this special format where I go
into more detail and give you a little bit more of the backstory and just stories
in general and special interviews with guys like Matt he has a huge audience he
gives a lot of great relationship advice. He's also traveled around this region
have been and done a little bit of like street style videos where he's
approaching girls you can see what it's really like
also check out his instagram I'll link that as well they should put that up in
the screen now he does some live live streams actually where he's actually
talking to go I actually did a live stream for the first time here where I'm
just you know holding this and talking to the camera and trying to approach
girls and first two just walked by and then the third one third or fourth one
instadate so well so you can see you know in real time what it's actually
like to walk around in a city like this whatever Matt is because he's gonna
be the Philippines so go check out all that good stuff I will see all your
smiling enthusiastic faces for travelling in Eastern Europe in the next
episode of the vodcast until then take care have a good evening, good morning,
good afternoon wherever you are до свидания до побачення from Odessa, Ukraine! Ciao! Peace!