>>>
>>> WELCOME BACK. BEFORE WE GET INTO REAL TALK, I
SAY WE GIVE A BEING HAPPY
BIRTHDAY SHOUTOUT TO OUR
DIRECTOR, MIKE NATHAN!
>>
>> WE
>> WE LOVE YOU! WE REALLY LOVE YOU!
>> IF YOU WERE NOT ALREADY
MARRIED, WE WOULD DATE YOU.
>> EVERYBODY?
>> EVERYBODY? >> I WAS JUST TRYING TO FIND
THE SEGWAY.
THE SEGWAY. >> I WAS TRYING TO TAKE IT TO
THE SEGMENT, I'M SORRY.
>> I LIKE IT.
YOU'RE A PRO!
>> WE LOVE YOU, MIKE
--
-- LOVE
-- LOVE YOU, MIKE. I'M JUST KIDDING.
MIKE'S WIFE IS TEXTING HIM LIKE
WHY IS SHE SO WEIRD?
WE MAY GO TO TAMPA AND HOST THE
SHOW.
SHOW.
SHOW. HIS
SHOW. HIS WIFE TEXT HIM, YOU CAN HAVE
HIM.
HIM.
HIM. >>
HIM. >> THAT'S NOT TRUE.
>>> WE ARE TALKING ABOUT DATING
APPS, AND THERE'S A TON TO
CHOOSE FROM, OF COURSE, BUT
THERE'S BEEN A LOT OF BUZZ
LATELY ABOUT MATCH MAKING
SERVICES MARKETING AS ELITE,
AND COULD THEY BE A GREAT FAST
TRACK TO FINDING EXACTLY WHO
YOU ARE LOOKING FOR, OR COULD
THEY WILL LIMITING YOUR
OPTIONS?
OPTIONS?
OPTIONS? WE ARE GOING IN, REALLY DEEP,
AND WE ARE DIVING IN THE DEEP
END, AND THAT'S RIGHT, REAL
TALK WITH KAREN KANEER AND MYR
A KYE AND SATCHEL JESTURE.
ELITE APPS LIKE THE LEAGUE HAS
YOU FILL OUT AN APPLICATION
INCLUDING EDUCATION BACKGROUND,
PROFESSION, COMPLETE BIO, SIX
PICTURES THAT CLEARLY SHOW THE
PERSON'S FACE, LIKE A NO
BRAINER, AND THE COMPANY VETS
AND AUTHENTICATES THE
INFORMATION THROUGH THE
FACEBOOK AND LINKED IN
ACCOUNTS.
ACCOUNTS.
ACCOUNTS. THOUGHTS ON THIS SERVICE?
>> I DON'T LIKE IT AT ALL
BECAUSE I MET MY HUSBAND, AND
WE WERE BOTH POOR, AND THAT IS
SORT OF WHAT MAKES YOU WHO YOU
ARE, AND THERE'S STRUGGLE OR
THE LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES THAT YOU
HAVE HAD, AND IF YOU'RE
AUTOMATICALLY ELIMINATING SO
MANY PEOPLE FROM FINDING THAT
CONNECTION, I DON'T KNOW.
I THINK IT'S AN INJUSTICE TO
YOURSELF.
YOURSELF.
YOURSELF. >> YOU THINK IT IS LIMITING.
HOW ABOUT YOU?
>> I DISAGREE.
I THINK AT 40, I AM LOOKING TO
DATE, AND MY TINDER IS GOING
OFF NOW.
OFF NOW.
OFF NOW. >> YEAH!
>> YEAH!
>> YEAH! >> HE IS SWIPING.
IS IT SOMEONE IN THE STUDIO?
I HOPE SO!
>> I THINK IT'S LIKE A RESUME
OF SORTS.
OF SORTS.
OF SORTS. WE HAVE BEEN AROUND THE BLOCK,
DONE THE DATING THING, AND
THERE'S NOTHING LIKE HUMAN
INTERACTION, BUT IF I CAN GO
SOMEWHERE AND SAY YOU DO THIS
AND THIS AND THIS, AND YOU LIKE
THIS, DON'T LIKE THIS, AND I
THINK IT WEEDS OUT SOMEONE I
MAY ABSOLUTELY HAVE NO
CONNECTION WITH.
CONNECTION WITH. >> YOU ACTUALLY DON'T MIND THE
THOUGHT OF HAVING A SHORTCUT
LIKE THIS BECAUSE TIME IS
PRECIOUS?
PRECIOUS?
PRECIOUS? >> TIME IS PRECIOUS.
I DON'T WANT TO WASTE MY TIME
WITH A GOOD FACADE.
YOU LOOK GOOD, AND THE
CONVERSATION SEEMS GOOD, BUT AS
WE DIVE AND DELVE INTO THE
COMMUNICATION, EVERYTHING
COMMUNICATION, EVERYTHING CHANGES.
CHANGES.
CHANGES. AT LEAST I HOPE YOU CAN BE
HONEST ENOUGH TYPING YOUR OWN
PROFILE TO SAY WHAT IT IS,
GIVING ME THE SHORTCUT TO GET
TO KNOW YOU.
>> BUT DOES IT HAVE TO BE A
CERTAIN AMOUNT OF MONEY THEY
HAVE TO MAKE?
I THINK THAT'S WHAT THE LEAGUE
IS.
IS.
IS. >>
IS. >> THAT'S WHAT THE LEAGUE DOES.
>> I THINK IT SEEMS LIKE THE
SOCIOECONOMIC STATUS OR SAME
LIFE GOALS.
LIFE GOALS. >> I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD PUT
A DOLLAR SIGN ON YOUR LOVE.
>> YOUR LOVE!
>> YEAH, YOUR LOVE!
>> I WILL SAY THIS, MISS MYR A
SKYE WAS ON THE SHOW TALKING 2
WEEKS AGO ABOUT HOW TOUGH IT IS
TO DATE OUT THERE.
>> 31.
>> 31.
>> 31. >>
>> 31. >> BEAUTIFUL 31-YEAR-OLD BABY,
AND SO, YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH
THE UPS AND DOWNS OF DATING,
AND WHAT DO YOU THINK OF A
SERVICE LIKE THIS?
>> MY FRIENDS HAVE ENCOURAGED
ME TO GO OUT AND TRY IT.
I HAVE NOT TRIED IT YET BECAUSE
I'M SCARED I DON'T KNOW WHAT I
WILL GET.
WILL GET.
WILL GET. YOU CAN SEE THE FACE, AND SOME
YOU CAN SEE THE PROFESSION, HOW
DO WE KNOW IT'S TRUE?
I GUESS THEY CAN KIND OF WEED
IT THROUGH AND MAKE IT, YOU
KNOW, GIVE THEM AN
ACCOUNTABILITY TO WHEN YOU
APPLY FOR THE DATING APPS, BUT
I DON'T KNOW.
I'M SCARED.
I'M SCARED. I HAVE HAD SOME GIRLFRIENDS WHO
HAVE DONE IT, AND I HAVE NOT
SEEN A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
FROM IT YET.
I HAVE HEARD ABOUT IT, BUT WITH
MY PERSONAL CIRCLE, I HAVEN'T
SEEN ONE YET.
>> HOLD THAT THOUGHT.
I WANT YOU TO WEIGH IN, PLEASE.
ARE YOU A FAN OF DATING APPS
AND SITES.
AND SITES. YES, IT'S THE ONLY WAY.
AT TIMES, IF I'M BORED, OR NO
WAY.
WAY.
WAY. WE
WAY. WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU.
GO TO 11ALIVE.COM/VOTE.
>> OH, TWITTER?
JUST TWITTER?
JUST TWITTER? >> THERE YOU GO.
EASY, BREEZY.
EASY, BREEZY. >> I THINK MONEY, I WANT TO
CLARIFY.
CLARIFY.
CLARIFY. MONEY IS DIFFERENT FROM LIKE IF
YOU HAVE A GOOD CREDIT SCORE.
YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING?
IT'S LIKE, IT'S OKAY IF YOU
HAVE AMBITION AND YOU'RE BROKE,
BUT I UNDERSTAND LIKE DOING THE
LIFE GOAL THING BECAUSE
OBVIOUSLY YOU WANT SOMEONE WHO
IS MOTIVATED AND MIGHT
EVENTUALLY MAKE THEIR OWN WAY.
YOU DON'T WANT SOMEBODY WHO HAS
NO AMBITION AND THEIR CREDIT IS
HORRIBLE.
HORRIBLE.
HORRIBLE. >> SO ONE THING THAT STANDS OUT
TO ME MORE THAN ANY OF THAT,
THE PUNCTUATION AND SENTENCE
STRUCTURE.
STRUCTURE. IF YOU CANNOT EFFECTIVELY
WRITE, IT TURNS ME OFF.
>> IF WE WILL GO THERE, MY
HUSBAND HAS BEEN VERY
SUCCESSFUL HIS WHOLE LIFE, AND
HE HAD DISLEXIA SEVERELY.
I HAVE TO REREAD HIS E-MAILS.
IF I LIMITED MYSELF THAT WAY, I
WOULD HAVE NEVER HAD THIS
AMAZING -- AND I LOVE ENGLISH
AND JOURNALISM AND ALL OF THAT,
BUT THE FIRST TIME HE DID WRITE
SOMETHING, MISSING A PERIOD, I
WAS LIKE BLESS HIS HEART, BUT
NOW HE HAS THIS WHOLE OTHER
SIDE OF THE BRAIN RUNNING
CIRCLES AROUND MY BRAIN, AND
THINK ABOUT THAT.
>> I THINK IT'S ALL, YOU KNOW,
IT'S --
IT'S --
IT'S -- >> JUDGING, WE ARE JUDGING IN
THE PALM OF OUR HANDS, AND EVEN
BACK TO YOUR POINT, YOU WANT TO
MEET THE REAL THING, BUT EVEN
MEETING PEOPLE IN PERSON, ARE
WE GETTING THE REAL THING?
IS IT A GOOD DAY?
A GOOD HAIRCUT, GOOD HAIR
STYLE, PAYDAY?
STYLE, PAYDAY? EVERYTHING IS LOOKINGOOD.
>> THAT'S TRUE.
>> I THINK THERE'S A CERTAIN
LEVEL YOU HAVE TO PUT OUT
THERE, BUT I DON'T KNOW, I
THINK THAT THE DATING POOL IS
SO TRICKY, AND HOWEVER WE CAN
MEET SOMEBODY OR GET IT, YOU
CAN ALSO SPEND IT ON SOMEONE
WHO YOU KNOW COULD BE THE
PERFECT PERSON, AND YOU MAY NOT
SPEAK THE WHOLE TIME.
WHEN YOU GET BACK TO INSTAGRAM
OR ONE OF THE APPS, IT'S LIKE,
WELL, WERE YOU JUST ON ATLANTA
& CO?
& CO?
& CO? I
& CO? I WAS IN THE BREAK ROOM.
OKAY, ARE YOU SAYING SOMETHING
BECAUSE OF THAT INSTEAD OF
SAYING IT IN PERSON?
>> IT GOES DOWN.
>> DO YOU THINK -- SO, KARA,
YOUR FOCUS IS YOU POTENTIALLY
THINK YOU ARE LOSING OUT ON
MEETING THAT ONE BY
CONSTRICTING YOURSELF TO A
CERTAIN TYPE?
CERTAIN TYPE? >> I THINK THERE'S AN INITIAL
ATTRACTION, OBVIOUSLY, WITH ANY
PARTNER YOU HAVE, BUT I THINK
THAT THE ATTRACTION FOR ME,
ANYWAY, GREW OVER TIME, AND
HONESTLY, I WAS INITIALLY
ATTRACTED TO HIM, BUT MY
FRIENDS WERE LIKE, I THINK YOU
WILL JUST BE GOOD FRIENDS, AND
I LET THAT RELATIONSHIP GROW,
AND IT BLOSSOMED INTO A GREAT
MARRIAGE.
MARRIAGE.
MARRIAGE. >> IF YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN SO
PICKING, HE BETTER HAVE THAT
MUCH IN HIS BANK ACCOUNT, AND
THIS WOULD NOT HAVE HAPPENED.
>> I THINK I'M OPEN MINDED
ENOUGH, WHEN I GET ADVICE, I GO
TO PEERS WITH SUCCESSFUL
MARRIAGES, AND I WILL SAY WHAT
DO YOU THINK OF THIS?
CHECK IT OUT.
LOOK AT IT?
>> I JUST FEEL LIKE IT'S
HEALTHIER THAN DATING ONLINE.
THAT'S JUST ME.
>> ARE WE OVERTHINKING IT?
THERE'S CONCERN FOR THESE APPS,
AND THEY SAY IT'S HELPING TO
INTENSIFY AMERICA'S GROWING
INCOME INEQUALITY AND WEALTH
DISPARITIES WITH THE
METROPOLITAN AREAS AND THE REST
OF THE COUNTRY.
>> I THINK THERE'S BIGGER
PROBLEMS.
PROBLEMS.
PROBLEMS. >> MORE THAN THE DATING APP,
BUT I CAN SEE WHAT THEY ARE
SAYING.
SAYING.
SAYING. >> I GET IT.
>> I DO AS WELL, BUT IF I WERE
SINGLE, AND I WAS SINGLE UNTIL
I MET JIM AT 36, I MAY BE LIKE
YOU, SATCHEL, I MAY HAVE REALLY
EXHAUSTED THE DATING FIELD WHEN
I LIVED IN CALIFORNIA AND
FLORIDA.
FLORIDA.
FLORIDA. I MAY SAY I'M GOING TO GIVE
THIS A SHOT.
DO YOU THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE TO
PAY FOR THE APPS?
>> I THINK THAT -- SOME OF
THEM.
THEM.
THEM. I
THEM. I THINK SOMETIMES YOU CAN HEAR
THE QUOTE OR PHRASE, YOU GET
WHAT YOU PAY FOR.
AT THE POINT YOU REGISTER WITH
AN ELITE OR THOSE APPS, AND
THEY DO LIKE VERY INTENSE
VETTING, YOU KNOW, I WOULD
TRUST THAT EVERYONE IN THIS
POOL IS DECENT ENOUGH, IF WE
CONNECTED, IT WILL WEED OUT
EVERYBODY WHO SITS AT COMPUTERS
AND JUST MAKES ACCOUNTS, AND A
GHOST ACCOUNT, AND THEY STEAL
PICTURES AND ALL OF THOSE
THINGS, AND YOU KNOW, IF YOU'RE
WILLING TO PAY FOR SOMETHING,
TO BE, LIKE, I DON'T KNOW THE
PROPER WORD TO USE, BUT LIKE TO
BE AN UNFLATTERING PERSON, YOU
KNOW, I DON'T THINK A LOT OF
PEOPLE WILL DO THAT.
I HAVE NOT PAID FOR ANY.
>> IT'S LIKE AN INVESTMENT TO
THEM.
THEM.
THEM. >>
THEM. >> AN INVESTMENT GIVES IT MORE.
>> IT'S LIKE PAYING FOR YOUR
FIRST DATE.
FIRST DATE. >> I JUST THINK THE X-FACTOR IN
ANY SOUL-TO-SOUL CONNECTION IS
SO HARD, YOU KIND OF -- I MEAN
I EMPATHIZE WITH YOU BECAUSE I
FEEL LIKE IT WOULD BE SO HARD
TO FIND SOMEBODY, LET ALONE ON
YOUR PHONE THAT YOU WANT TO
MEET UP WITH, AND THEN IT TAKES
TIME AND ENERGY, AND EVERYTHING
THAT COMES BEHIND IT, AND IT'S
A LOT.
A LOT.
A LOT. >>
A LOT. >> IT IS.
>> IT IS.
>> IT IS. >> I HAVE LIGHTLY THOUGHT ABOUT
IT, BUT I'M LIKE, LET ME JUST
HAVE FAITH AND TAKE IT EASY,
NOT PUTTING PRESSURE ON IT.
>> YOU'RE NOT COMPLETELY
OPPOSED TO IT AT THIS POINT?
>> NOT COMPLETELY, BUT I STILL
DON'T FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO DO IT
YET.
YET.
YET. NO.
NO.
NO. >>
NO. >> I
NO. >> I USED TO BE TOTALLY ANTI
TO IT.
TO IT.
TO IT. I
TO IT. I APPRECIATE A CONVERSATION ONE
OR TWO ROUNDS, AND THEN YOU CAN
UNMATCH, AND IT'S OVER.
NO HARD FEELINGS.
>> WHAT DOES THE POLL SAY,
TRENT?
TRENT?
TRENT? >>
TRENT? >> NO WAY.
>> NO WAY?
>> MEET ORGANICALLY.
>> MEET ORGANICALLY.
>> I KNOW THREE PEOPLE WHO GOT
MARRIED FROM DATING SITES.
I SHOULD HAVE BURIED THE LEAD
ON THAT ONE.
>> ORGANICALLY, THEY HAVE
GOTTEN DIVORCED.
GOTTEN DIVORCED. >> NEVER, EVER USE THIS, BUT MY
FRIENDS DID, AND THEY ARE
HAPPILY MARRIED.
HAPPILY MARRIED. OKAY, WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU.