hi guys welcome back to my channel so
the other day I was on Channel Nine's
today extra talking about shopping
addiction and Halleck Cobert and a few
people who saw me on the show have given
me a bit of a hard time telling me that
I need to lighten up and not be so
serious and that shopping addictions
aren't really that bad in fact they're
quite funny and I have to admit there
are a lot of TV shows and movies and
even look social media that is
glamorized and made fashionable and
funny the problem of shopping so much so
that you don't even have enough money to
pay for food however I'm here to tell
you something very different I'm gonna
be honest with you because I care
shopping addictions create a lot of
problems not only I use self sabotaging
your current financial situation but
you're also creating a lot of hard work
creating yourself a lot of
disappointment for the future but it
doesn't have to be this way you need to
acknowledge this is a very serious
problem but I promise you it is fixable
if you take it seriously now there are a
lot of really negative feelings and
emotions that come from shopping
addictions feelings such as guilt shame
embarrassment remorse even a form of
loneliness and depression now not only
you creating a lot of problems for
yourself but you're also putting a lot
of stress and pressure on other areas of
your life in particular your
relationships people who love and care
about you may be stressed and worried
seeing you act and behave in this way
you also may be putting a lot of stress
and pressure on your mind and body that
then causes health problems and of
course you may be unintentionally
backing yourself down an unwanted career
path I have seen so many people that
have been forced to accept jobs that
they don't like that they're not
passionate about all because it pays
more money or they've had to increase
their hours just to help get out of the
debt or keep up with a lifestyle that
they've created for themselves now if
you're watching this video I want you to
take this seriously and think about
yourself and think about other people
that may benefit from watching this now
here are the seven signs that I'm
talking about they're going to help you
work out if you have a problem in the
first place so sign number one is you
never have enough money you're always
borrowing money you're always reaching
for a credit card to pay for things you
never have any money in savings and you
certainly don't have any money set aside
for an emergency and the idea of having
investment portfolio or owning anything
substantial like a property is just a
distant dream that you'd ever never even
think about that you could possibly
achieve essentially what I'm trying to
say is if you have nothing to show for
what you spent all your money on other
than materialistic goods well then this
is a sign that you may need to fix or
curb that shopping habit the second sign
you have a shopping addiction is you are
lying or hiding purchases now this may
mean you may downplay how much something
really cost or can lie about how often
you shop or simply hiding those items
that is a classic sign that you deep
down know that you're doing something
wrong the third sign is that you buy new
things before you even used or worn the
previously purchased items so for
example if you find that you go and buy
dresses and then open up your wardrobe
discover you've got four or five dresses
still with the tags hanging on this is a
definite signal that you need to do
something about this problem the fourth
sign is you've had friends and family
confronts you and share with you their
concerns about your shopping habits and
what the way that you are managing your
personal finances now this may make you
angry or ashamed or a whole range of
uncomfortable emotional feelings you've
got to remember if these people are
strong enough to tell you what they
think and raise their concerns about you
it's coming from a good place and you
need to respect that listen to it and
understand that they are trying to guide
you towards a better path and this is
particularly important if they're able
to argue with evidence if they are able
to show credit card statements with the
cold hard truth or open up the closets
with all these labels and tags hanging
off that means this is really serious
that it is actually in your face where
you are choosing to bury your head in
the sand with this problem the fifth
sign is that you have a sense of anxiety
when you don't shop almost like that
feeling of going out for the day leaving
your mobile phone or water at home
almost like a you feel miss naked
without it and when you do put yourself
on a shopping ban you quickly find that
you retaliate and I guess get even and
then spend or hop out of my buying stuff
and undoing all the hard work you did
through that period of not shopping the
sixth sign is that you find yourself
shopping purely out of a reaction to an
uncommon or situation or feeling now I
myself with experiences in the past I
remember when I was had just given birth
to Rocco and I was going through a
period of postnatal depression and I
found myself always shopping in
particular shops and I realized it was
because I was feeling a sense of
loneliness and was feeling really quite
uncomfortable I'd give him birth and I
had a baby with reflux that was
constantly vomiting on me and when I
stepped into the shop the people knew my
name they were really welcoming and they
seem to understand my style and taste
made me just feel accepted and I would
have 25 35 minutes of shopping with no
vomit on me and feeling normal again and
when fortunately I was able to quickly
stop this problem and catch on to it but
that is a classic sign of what a lot of
people experience themselves when they
tend to do a lot of luxury shopping and
to be honest is kind of a form of
escapism and in the seventh sign of a
shopping addiction is you tend to
experience a euphoric high or rush or
even a form of anxiety when you are
actually shopping or you know you're
about to go shopping is this an intense
explosion and excitement running through
almost like a high and you know that
you're gonna have a great experience but
it's very short-lived and you do come
crashing back down these are the classic
signs that you have a shopping addiction
and it's time to curb them now if you
identify with all of these or even a few
of these and you've been honest with
yourself that you do have a bit of a
problem at times now is the time to step
up and take ownership and I don't want
to make you feel bad about this problem
I would empower you to make a better
choice going forward I want you to feel
really good about seeing savings in your
bank account I want to make sure that
you feel pride knowing that you are
living within your means and you are
able to create even more savings or even
start investing I want you to feel great
about that I want to feel that you're
stepping up and taking ownership in
creating a healthier better financial
future for yourself I want you to feel
self-respect and self-work knowing
you've stepped up and taken control of
this problem that you are paying your
bills on time and it feels good you are
a responsible adult creating an amazing
future and so here are seven really easy
solutions to help you curb your shopping
addiction solution number one is to have
a budget know your true cost of living
and when you know your expenses you can
then prioritize what is important to you
now everybody has different value
systems some people value really nice
handbags some people value really
expensive memberships you need to put in
your budget what's important and it is
not important and your budget running
out running tight you need to cut or
curb some of those expenses you need to
find a way within your value system as
to how you can fit there things are
important to you within the budget now
once you have done your budget you
should also allow yourself some shopping
but it should be within a financial
boundary so for example you might allow
yourself say X amount of dollars per
month to be spent on clothes and once
you've spent that money for the month
that is it but at least it means you are
allowing to do you know you're allowing
balance in your life you're allowing
yourself to do some shopping but it's
not going to create any financial damage
to yourself you are still living within
your means also when you're doing your
budget oh it's cross-reference it
against your diary so that you know if
you've got any events or birthdays or
bills coming in that are quite expensive
you know if you can fit them into your
bill for that month and there will be
times where you need to make decisions
as to what is a priority for example you
may need to go without buying any
clothes that month to ensure that you
can pay your gas or electricity bill you
need to know and be informed as to what
your cash flow needs and requirements
are and where those priorities fit
solution number two is to start paying
for as much as possible in cash so when
I say cash physical cash and using a
debit card so when you pay that gas or
electricity bill you're paying it from
your savings account and when you're
getting coffee's you're picking up your
dry-cleaning paying for the food at the
grocery store try and pay as much as you
possibly can in cash now this is
actually been scientifically proven by a
serbian
neuropsychologist it's called the flinch
moment when you pay for things in cash
literally physically hurts and therefore
subconsciously we try and avoid pain and
therefore in pain cash will actually end
up spending a lot less so if possible
pay for those things in cash and when
there are times you do need to pay for
large expensive things try and pay them
for them through lay-by that means you
have to slowly pay that item off over
time and you're not allowed to take it
home until it's paid for in full and
every year payment you make towards that
item is in cash so again you're not
creating any sort of debt in your life
and also the benefit of this is delayed
gratification you once you finally pay
that item off and you take it home
you're going to appreciate it so much
more solution number three is to get
professional help if you have a serious
shopping addiction and you have
completely self-sabotage your finances
the earlier you get help the better now
there are all sorts of ranges of help
but obviously professional help is the
best doing cognitive behavioral therapy
I've heard is amazing but also the other
things that you can do for yourself like
exercise meditation talking to a friend
about your problem just sharing
explaining what is causing you to do
that behave in this type of way you
never know that person you talk to you
may have a fantastic solution to help
you break through this habit solution
number four is to change your habit we
are all creatures of habit and if you
find for example that you love to do
late-night shopping on a Thursday
evening
stop going to the shopping mall instead
go to the gym or instead go for a walk
or catch up with a friend for a coffee
replace that habit also if you find like
myself I love to lie bed before I go to
sleep and look on social media which
often leads me down the garden path of a
shopping website there are plenty of
apps and software that you can download
that will block particular websites we
can block particular web Earth web sites
during certain hours of the day also
other great habits to replace the
shopping addiction are going outside
gates and fresh air reading a good book
investing that money in serve things as
mess them in experiences so go and get a
massage or go and see a clairvoyant or
go and do something completely fun and
different you never done before and of
course detox from temptation if you find
that you often end up buying something
as a result of seeing something on
social media or looking at a particular
person's profile on Facebook that has
this extravagant lifestyle just switch
off the notifications and avoid spending
your time on social media you will
actually find that you can get so much
more time back in your life and use that
time to connect with people around you
so that you don't feel lonely solution
number five is to shop more consciously
before you head to the shopping mall
before you jump online think about what
you really need and make a list research
what you're going to buy shop around
make sure that whatever you need to buy
is perfect for you become a fussy
shopper make sure the style that cut the
quality the color the model the features
the specifications exactly what you want
are going to work and you're going to
use value and appreciate every single
one of them that means when you do
finally purchase those items or that
particular item you're going to
appreciate it so much more and of course
consider investing in quality over
quantity solution number six is every
time you shop you make a note either in
your diary or in your phone as to what
your purchased where from what month it
was and how much it cost now this is
something that I personally do we all
conveniently forget or downplay in our
mind how much money to really spend and
how much shopping we really do and this
is something that's incredibly powerful
for myself because I will go to go and
buy something but before I shop I'll
have a quick look at that list and I
will get a rude and disturbing shock as
to how much I've actually spent and that
will make me decide as to whether I want
to head back to the shop and surround
myself with temptation and he's probably
the most powerful thing that I do for
myself because it puts things back into
perspective I realized the true cost of
living and I actually gives you the
power to stop and decide as to whether I
really need and want that particular
item it's incredibly grounding and again
it helps me to shop consciously and in
the seventh and final solution for
curbing your shopping
is to set powerful and meaningful
financial goals for yourself set
financial goals such as getting out of
debt by a particular day set yourself a
goal to create a certain amount of
savings by by a particular date set
yourself a goal to create a passive
income of X amount of dollars per year
by a particular time this means you are
channeling your energy and focus towards
something much more powerful and energy
flows where attention goes so you were
going to get so much back both
emotionally and of course financially by
doing this you're getting a sense of
perspective and value again you will
realize that the feelings you get from
seeing your savings account grow a much
more meaningful and much better for your
emotional well-being than going out and
buying a new handbag or a new coat or a
new dress when you do this on a regular
basis if all these little bits add up
and actually contribute to your own
feeling of self-worth and happiness I
promise and guarantee it so now that
you've heard the seven signs of a
shopping addiction and you've heard the
seven solutions to help curb your
shopping addiction if you know that deep
down you have a little bit of a problem
I am here to tell you enough Sanath now
I don't mean to be tough or mean or a
bit of a but I'm here to tell you
because I care about you and I know how
much power exists within you to and how
capable you are of creating a better
future for yourself I really want you to
draw a line in the sand have a long hard
cold honest conversation with yourself
and make the changes that you need
please use this video as a powerful and
defining moment in your life where you
wake up and realize that you do sick of
living this life of Lies masks and deep
down discomfort remember you deserve
happiness you deserve self-control and
you deserve opportunity so get out of
debt create savings create investments
achieve financial goals that you're
going to feel really good about yourself
and I promise you not only you're going
to inspire yourself but you can inspire
other people around you this is your
defining moment for change and I really
believe in a powerful change that you're
going to create yourself from the moment
this video ends so I'm going to dare you
to share with me your shopping addiction
and what you're going to do to fix it I
want to hear from as many people as
possible I want us to bond together as a
community and share the things that
we're going to do to create a better
future for all of us we'll all burn and
inspire each other and I hope by me
sharing some of my personal story of
having postnatal depression and what I
did and how I tried to fix it inspires
you to actually open up and come clean
and I guess bare your soul if that
doesn't sound too dramatic so that we
can actually accept each other for who
we are but actually heal together as a
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