Hello there, coaching genius.
You've been coaching clients
and you've used all the techniques
and it seems like you're repeating the techniques
that you always use
and you're wondering, "Ah, I would like to have
some new coaching techniques."
Well, my coaching friends,
I'm gonna give you 12 new techniques in this video
so you can use them in your coaching sessions.
Let's get right into it.
The first technique is something that if you're not using,
you absolutely need this in your coaching practice,
and that is to use an intake form.
So many coaches I've seen
would start coaching right after enrollment,
and that is the biggest disservice you can do to yourself
and to your clients.
Please introduce an intake form.
An intake form is nothing but a form or a set of questions
that will help you understand
where your client is at right now.
If you're a health coach,
maybe you wanna ask about their eating practices
or their eating preferences.
You may wanna ask about their weight,
their height, and so forth.
If you're a business coach,
you may wanna know a little bit more historical perspective
about where the business was at a couple of years ago.
If you're a life coach
and you're focusing on a particular area of life,
you may wanna get some more information
on that particular area.
These intake forms help you
have the right kind of understanding
that you may need for your client.
And with this understanding,
your coaching becomes a lot more effective.
What I've also found is when your clients
actually take the time to fill these intake forms,
they also realize some of their strengths
and weaknesses and concerns,
and the coaching overall
becomes significantly, significantly better.
The second technique is so simple, yet so powerful.
See, when we are approaching our clients,
when you're working with our clients,
usually they're coming from life that they've been living
into a coaching container
and often they bring their anxieties,
their fears, their concerns, their challenges
into the coaching container.
And that may sometimes help,
but most of the time it's not the right frame of mind.
It's not the place where you really
wanna start your coaching conversation with,
which is why I really encourage you
to slow your client down
by simply using breathing or calming techniques.
You could ask your clients
to simply take a couple of deep breaths in
and blow a couple of deep breaths out.
When they do that, their nervous system resets
and they get a sense of calmness
into their coaching session.
So even if they were anxious, fearful, concerned, angry,
whatever is the emotion that was taking over their body
and they may start responding from it.
By breathing it simply calms them down,
which allows us to have an even better dialogue
and even better conversation.
The third exercise is something that would be really helpful
when you're setting intention with your client,
when you're trying to understand
what your client's real desires are.
Sometimes when we ask a broad question like,
what are your goals?
Your clients kind of don't really know the answer
or they feel confused, they feel lost,
they feel they don't really know
how to answer that question.
But if you reframe that question by simply asking,
think about two years into the future,
three years into the future, 10 years into the future,
and let's write down how would your perfect day unfold.
If you get your clients to write down their perfect day,
if you get your clients to really be descriptive
about their perfect day,
it gives us a vision, gives them a vision
of where would they really like to go
without setting hard goals,
without really trying to understand
what those goals must look like,
without having any projection
of what society wants them to achieve.
It's a perfect day for them, so it comes from within.
And if we can get them to say that and write it down
and experience it as they're sharing it,
you'll find that you will have them
have so much more clarity towards the life they wanna build
and not so much concern
about what the world expects them to do.
Which also brings me
to the fourth tool that you wanna consider,
which is to set intentions and not goals for your clients.
While goal setting is such a common thing
and yes, there is an idea that you could have goals,
a lot of times goals create anxiety for people
especially if they haven't achieved their goals in the past.
They feel like, ah, I set goals but I never really get them.
Or, I've had these goals for years
and I feel like I've not created enough progress towards it.
So goals have kind of a baggage associated to it
in most of our lives.
But if you could turn those goals into intentions,
we suddenly turn the narrative
from what may happen in the future
or may not happen in the future
to something that they can do now.
Intentions are more present.
Intentions are something that you live by.
Intentions are something that you can have right now.
And because of having that intentional life,
you may create any goal that you want in your life
and that is why sometimes it is helpful
if you turn your client's attention from goals to intentions
so they can be very present
to what's happening in their life right now.
And also it really takes away all that anxiety and fear
that goals may sometimes come with.
The fifth tool is journaling.
Have you ask your client to simply journal,
journal every single morning, journal every single day,
or journal occasionally
when you feel like you are overwhelmed with your thoughts,
you're confused with all the different narratives
that are going in your head
and you're unsure of what is it
that your mind is really trying to tell you.
Well, journaling or even mind mapping the journal
sometimes organizes your mind
in a way that really starts to make sense
and all the different things that are coming at you
suddenly start to come together in a neat diagram
or a neat couple of pages.
It's a great way to really externalize your thoughts
and really make sense of those thoughts.
And so journaling is a simple but a very powerful practice
especially when your client is feeling a little bit lost
and confused and unsure
about what is really their calling.
What is it that their mind or their soul
is really telling them?
Number six is one of those powerful tools
that I use very often in my coaching practice,
and that is depersonalization from the event.
Here's what this simply means.
When your client is emotionally fired up,
when they're riled up,
where they feel something wrong has been done to them,
what tends to happen is an event happened in their life
and they made a meaning of that event
and made it really personal.
So now it's really emotional for them.
They're getting so riled up, so angry, so emotional,
they're like, "Ah!"
Well, when you ask your client
to kind of step away from that event,
ask them to close their eyes, step away from that event
and watch it as if they're a third person,
there're somebody who's watching a movie
of that event happening,
what tends to happen in that scenario
is they not only see their perspective,
they're able to see the perspective of the other person
that was involved in that event.
Depersonalizing themselves from the event
sometimes helps them really be able
to see another perspective
and be able to release that emotion,
that tension that that event might have caused for them.
This is really helpful in defining next steps
once the event has been depersonalized.
Once you understand the other perspective,
once you're not very charged up about their emotions,
but you actually understand the rationale
behind what happened,
it really allows for our clients
to get into that rational state,
that action-orientedness
that really helps them move forward.
The seventh tool is something that very rarely is used
beyond the scope of the coach-coachee relationship,
but can really be helpful,
and that is self or peer accountability.
See, a lot of times
coaches will hold their clients accountable,
and that's perfectly okay,
but what's even more powerful
is if your client has the motivation,
they can set up a self-accountability structure.
See, as a coach,
you will not always be in the reality of your client.
You may talk to them weekly or biweekly, even monthly,
but the person's always with themself.
So if they set up
a self-accountability structure by themselves,
where they track what they committed to do,
where they report to themselves
on what they're committing to do,
it will really create true transformation much faster
because habits are formed through accountability.
So self-accountability is really helpful.
But let's be honest, most people are not self-accountable.
They cannot hold themselves to a standard,
and this is where peer accountability
is so helpful and so powerful.
By peer accountability simply means that you have a friend,
a colleague or a life partner or somebody else in their life
that is enough in their life
hold them accountable for the act, the habit,
the new vision that they have
or the commitment that they're making towards themselves
to be following up and following through on that.
This accountability from a peer is more friendly,
it's more casual, it's more present,
and it is also something
that most likely your client honors a lot more.
See, the coach-coachee relationship,
you have a financial relationship with your client.
And so sometimes they may go, well, fine, whatever,
I'll lose money a little bit, right?
But when a friend is involved, when a kid is involved,
when a loved one is involved, when a colleague is involved,
now it's about reputation,
it's about how the other person sees them.
And that is a lot more emotional,
that's a lot more personal.
And because of that,
you will find that peer accountability
actually works better than coach accountability
and very often significantly better
than self accountability.
So see if you can introduce peer accountability
into your coachee's life.
Which brings me to the eighth tool,
and this is something that is a little bit difficult to do,
but it's actually really good to do,
is to check in what's the environment
that your client is actually living in.
See, if I was to give you an example,
remember when you were a kid, you always wanted to play,
like you wanted to play so much,
you wanted to dance so much, you wanted to run so much,
you wanted to be involved in games so much
that you would forget about eating,
like you would forget about snacking.
You would just be so involved.
I see this in my four-year-old.
He will forget about food or eating
if he's playing and when he's playing.
But something happens when we grow up, isn't it?
We don't play that much and we always seem to be eating
and that really happens because of our environment.
One of the critical ways
I was able to regain control of my health
and live the most healthiest version of my life today
is because I created a surrounding,
an ecosystem around me of people
that were motivated to be incredibly healthy,
that they ate right, that they thought about protein,
that they thought about nutrition,
that they moved their bodies.
They consistently moved their bodies.
And because of that, because of my surrounding change
that I was hanging out more and more with people
who were honoring their body,
who honored their health,
who understood the importance of health.
Well, lo and behold,
in a few weeks, in a few months, in a few years,
I am the healthiest version of myself
because surroundings do matter.
So what is it that we can do in partnership with our clients
to help them create a social structure
that supports their dreams and visions?
What is it that we can do or support them with
so they can find the right friendships,
the right colleagues,
the right partner that will allow their growth to happen?
The next tool is a difficult one as well,
but it is something that is very powerful if implemented
and that is filter by energy.
Most of our relationship just happened to us,
and what we start to notice
is some of those relationship really drain us
and some of them really fulfill us.
Ask your clients, what are those relationships?
What are the relationships
where after interacting with that person,
after hanging out with that person, you feel drained?
And what is that person or who's that person
who after interacting with you
and you interacting with them, you feel uplifted?
Have more of relationships that make you feel uplifted.
Have less time, energy, resources
invested in the relationships that make you feel drained.
And as you filter by energy
and you provide this filter to your coachees,
you'll find that your coachees
are able to create even more
and better results for themselves
of whatever life they want to create.
Which brings me to the tenth tool,
and that is gratitude and acknowledgement.
See, gratitude is something
that yes, is a commonly known practice
and we must practice it and we must practice every day.
But what is also powerful
is acknowledgement of somebody else,
acknowledgement of something else.
When we learn to appreciate in other people,
what tends to happen is you yourself feel elevated.
You start to see the beauty of life
because you're acknowledging individuals
for their beingness.
You do not wait for acknowledging someone
when they do some grand gesture,
but when it's a small thing
like getting you a glass of water
when they got themselves a glass of water
or somebody just being kind in a restaurant
or somebody just being kind to another human being.
When your clients acknowledge other people,
you will find that their own sense of self also elevates.
They get to acknowledge themselves also a lot more.
They're more grateful for life.
They're more grateful for things around them,
which overall increases their sense of being.
That brings me to the 11th tool,
and that is Socratic questions.
Socratic questions are questions that you ask your clients
that help your clients to further diagnose
what is the root of the problem,
what is the root of an issue.
What is the real fundamental thing
that is really creating that habit that they don't desire
or that kind of results
that they don't desire in their life.
And more you take your clients
through those Socratic questioning
by being simply present with your client and digging deeper,
you'll find more as a possibility
that you'll be able to unearth what's really blocking them
and then be able to work with them to really resolve it
and create new responses and new results in their lives.
Now, lastly the 12th tool,
and that is using metaphors and distinctions.
The more metaphors and distinctions
you use in your practice,
the more it is easier for your clients
to capture what you're really saying.
A lot of the times,
some concepts that are easy for us to understand,
easy for us to recognize,
easy for us to use in our lives
is actually really difficult for other people.
And this is not about who's smart or not.
It's just simply more complicated
for certain individuals to grasp a particular concept.
And so using metaphors and using distinctions
allows them to be able to understand otherwise complex ideas
so they can embody it much more easily in their lives.
Now, these were 12 coaching techniques
that you can take immediately
and start practicing in your coaching practice.
But if you're like, hey, those were not enough,
I want a little bit more detail, give me four or five more,
well, click on the next video
because that will do just that.
And if you already know all the tools
and you're excited about these 12 tools,
share with me in the comment section below
as to which one was the one that you were like,
"Holy cow, I didn't think about that
and that one's a good one."
I love watching your comments roll in.
Thank you so much for watching.
This is Coach Ajit, and you are watching this on Evercoach.