- If you want to show your guy that you like him,
but you don't want to pursue him or scare him away,
then I'm gonna show you how you can do just that
in this video.
Hi guys. My name is Ieva Bereisaite,
and I am one of Greta's High Value Woman coaches.
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A lot of the time women think, or even people think,
that if they tell a person, or in this case tell a guy,
that they like him,
the guy will say it back to them
and automatically feel the same way.
And that is just not the case.
This is why you should never
tell a guy that you like him first,
especially if you are in the beginning stages of dating,
and that's a fact.
So I'm gonna break down why exactly this is so important
and why you cannot make this mistake.
Many women might think that if they tell a guy
that they like them by giving them compliments
and initiating in some way,
that they will start feeling the same way
and that the guy will start falling for you more.
And that really is just simply not true.
If you are the first to say
things like, you are very attractive,
I can't stop thinking about you,
I really liked our last date,
or I can't wait to go out with you again,
or I think you're very good looking,
and you're just the one giving him compliments
and giving him reassurance,
it's not gonna mean that he's gonna fall for you more.
What this is actually doing is pursuing the guy.
There are also cases of when women, you know,
really start liking a guy because the date goes really well,
and the guy tells her that he likes her too,
or he like really notices,
that the girl is really into the guy.
And she tells him things like, I really like you,
I really enjoyed our date, and pursues him in that way.
A horrible thing that can happen
is the guy will just take advantage of that.
He will not see it as something that is worth pursuing
because you already have it, you already have her attention.
And if you just charm her a little more,
she's probably gonna also give her cookie away.
Don't fall into the trap of pursuing him
and giving him compliments,
and falling in love and wearing your heart on a sleeve
because this can be taken advantage of very quickly.
Don't trick yourself into thinking,
I told him I really liked our time that we spent together,
and you consistently showed him
that you really enjoyed his company.
And he said, he likes your company as well,
and you just ended up spending like the night together
and you think everything's okay
because you told him that you like him
and he told you he likes you too.
It doesn't mean that this is necessarily going
in the right direction, right?
Because you were the one that was pursuing him in this case,
you would have been the one that initiated the compliments
and the persuasion, and he just confirmed it
and let you persuade even more.
And he got you hooked, in a way, on to him,
even if he complimented you as well.
And then he would have just spent the night with you
and ghosted you for a while
and you would just be heartbroken.
So the way to avoid this nasty scenario
is to not be the one that pursues him
or gives him compliments,
especially in the early dating stages of relationships.
If the guy's a cheeky monkey,
he might do something like charm you a bit more
if he knows that you really like him
so that you would give your cookie away sooner.
You might fall into the trap of thinking,
oh, he really likes me since we spent the night together,
and I told him I like him too, and now it's all good.
If that happens you might not hear from him for a while.
If you give him compliments straight away,
it may not seem like something special.
And men, and especially alpha males,
really do want to feel special
and not feel like you're an easy catch,
or that you compliment all the men
that you go out on dates with.
So alpha males really want, and men in general,
they want to feel special.
If you compliment him on the first stages of dating,
it might come across as desperate as well.
This can literally break the dating stage
because you just said too much too quickly.
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You should not be the pursuing one
since you are not the man in the relationship.
A woman should be on the receiving end fully,
especially if it is in the early dating stages.
You are not the one that has to give the man the security
through the compliments.
That's not your job.
He should be the one giving you the compliments
and the reassurance that he really likes you.
If he gives you some really nice compliments
in the starting stages,
then you can just be polite
and say, "Oh thank you, that's very sweet of you."
If you are in the relationship stage
and he says something like, "I really like you,
and I really enjoy spending time with you."
And you can say, "I think that's really sweet.
I enjoy spending time with you too."
So you receive, you acknowledge it,
and you give him something back as well.
But you don't pursue him by mentioning it first.
That way you can still show him that you like him
without scaring him away.
When you're going to be in the receiving part
and not in the pursuing part,
you are going to be replying back to him
and it will make your compliments more rare.
But everything that is more rare is so much more special.
So it's going to make your replies
and your acknowledgement towards him so much more valuable
when you do tell him that you like him back.
It's very rare for a woman
not to be pampering men with compliments,
especially if they're hot or good-looking.
That's something that a lot of women do
because they just think,
oh, I would love to be pampered with compliments,
so he would probably also love
to be pampered with compliments.
And men are not women,
so don't get tricked by this thought
because it's just not the right way to go.
Men want to feel special
and don't want to be charmed by women, okay?
Remember that men should be the charmers, not you.
It's not your job to charm the man
or to win him over by giving him compliments
or anything like that.
So make sure that you don't do that.
So I totally get it,
when we start dating men and we really like him,
we find them very attractive and we just enjoyed ourselves.
We want to tell them, "Yeah, I really enjoyed myself.
I really liked this, or I really like your coat,"
or just giving them compliments in any way.
You want to make them feel special.
But when you do this in the early stages,
it's not gonna make them feel special.
This literally backfires, it's not how it works.
Good words and compliments need to be earned.
We don't just fire off compliments
into every single direction,
especially in the dating stages of the relationship.
We let them come to us,
and if we find it appropriate, we will give them a thank you
or a, you too, back.
And it changes, again, the tone of the whole conversation
and the whole feeling of the dating stage,
because your words just grow in value.
And he'll be like,
okay, when I do get a compliment from her,
it's just gonna be so much more meaningful.
If something is easy to get, it's not actually that special.
It shows that it doesn't really have a lot of depth,
it's nothing rare.
And things that are not rare
they're not really that special anymore.
Again, it can get very boring
if a man sees that you are so into him
and he can move on very quickly, simply because he is bored.
There is no challenge.
And that is the way that it is.
When something is hard to get, or is a challenge,
the value of it increases, okay?
Let me say that again;
When something is a challenge and is hard to get,
the value of it increases, and this is so true.
And that really is the case for anything,
and it really comes down to dating as well.
And this is especially effective with men
because men are prone to chasing and dreaming big,
especially the alpha male type of men.
And they live for a challenge
and the success that it brings afterwards.
You can be a challenge,
and you should be a challenge from the start,
and not being the one to pursue him
with giving him compliments because that's a turnoff.
Let him come to you and if you feel it is appropriate,
you can reply with a you too, or thank you very much
that's very sweet, anything like that.
And when you are in a relationship
and he does say something like, I love you,
of course you can say, I love you too, back.
And that is success for him.
It comes off very needy when a woman pursues.
If you want to flirt with a man, which is fine,
you know, if you want to flirt with a man,
then do as I mentioned,
and that is let him earn his compliments
and let him earn your attention.
His respect for you will grow,
and the more the respect grows in a relationship
so does the love.
If you want him to treat you like a diamond or a queen,
you have to act like one.
And a queen would not go up to someone
and say, "Oh, you're so amazing.
I really like this, I really like that."
No, a queen would take on the compliments
and reply accordingly, and reply nicely,
and gracefully, and thankfully.
And it's not really anything to do with arrogance,
it's more of, I know my value, I know my worth,
I know I don't have to chase anyone,
And that's kind of like what you put out there
when you act this way.
And you will know that everything is going well,
when he starts treating you super well.
When he gives you that attention
when he is pursuing and stuff like that,
and he's treating you super well,
you will know that you're doing well.
And the trick is to maintain that, okay?
And build off of that in a healthy relationship,
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where you learn how to bring out the best in your man.
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