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>>> NOW THE DATING WORLD CAN BE
DIFFICULT TO NAVIGATE.
IF YOU WANT TO KNOW IF HE OR SHE
IS REALLY INTO YOU, LISTEN TO
BODY TALK.
AUTHOR AND BODY LANGUAGE EXPERT
JAN HARGRAVE IS BACK WITH US TO
EXPLAIN.
JAN, WE LOVE YOU HERE AT
"HOUSTON LIFE."
YOU HAVE BEEN TO ALMOST EVERY
SINGLE STATE.
>> RIGHT.
>> TALKING TO PEOPLE, LECTURING,
TELLING THEM WHAT TO LOOK FOR.
>> BODY LANGUAGE.
>> YES.
I'VE BEEN IN EVERY STATE BUT
IDAHO AND MAINE.
BUT I'M GOING TO MAINE JUST IN A
COUPLE OF WEEKS TO TEACH A CLASS
THERE.
>> AMAZING.
LET'S START OFF WITH FIVE SIGNS
A WOMAN MAY BE INTO A MAP.
BY THE WAY, DOES THIS PLAY IF A
WOMAN IS INTO ANOTHER WOMAN?
>> YES.
>> THIS IS JUST WHAT WOMEN DO.
>> IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT SEX
YOU'RE ATTRACTED TO.
WHAT HAPPENS IS -- WHAT IT SAYS
IN OUR RESEARCH IS 85% OF ALL
COURTSHIP GESTURES ARE STARTED
BY LADIES AND LADIES WHO BEGIN
THAT GESTURE GET IT RETURNED TO
THEM.
SO IF SHE WINKS AT YOU OR SHE
SMILES AT YOU, IF SHE DOES ANY
OF THE GESTURES THAT WE'RE GONNA
TALK ABOUT, IT MEANS THAT SHE'S
INTERESTED IN YOU AND YOU SHOULD
RETURN THEM BACK TO HER, IF
YOU'RE INTERESTED.
BUT MOST GESTURES ARE STARTED BY
LADIES.
>> THAT'S SO INTERESTING.
I WOULD THINK THE OPPOSITE.
NOW, WE BRIEFLY PUT UP ON THE
SCREEN THE FIVE SIGNS THAT A
WOMAN IS INTERESTED.
SO LET'S START WITH THE VERY
FIRST ONE.
IF WE COULD PUT THAT LIST BACK
UP.
SO THE CALCULATED LEG CROSS, THE
SHOE DANGLE, THE KNEE CLASP.
LET'S GO THROUGH ALL OF THEM.
>> IF WE'RE SITTING SOMEWHERE
AND WE'RE COMFORTABLE, WE'LL
JUST CROSS OUR LEGS QUICKLY.
BUT IF THERE IS SOMEONE IN THE
ROOM WHO WE WANT TO ATTRACT,
IT'S MORE OF A CALCULATED LEG
CROSS BECAUSE WE WANT TO MAKE
SURE THAT THE --
>> LIKE THIS.
>> THAT THE FOOT LOOKS GOOD.
>> YES.
IT'S CALCULATED.
BUT MORE THOUGHT IS PUT INTO IT,
DERRICK.
>> MORE THOUGHT?
>> YEAH.
>> HOW COULD I PUT MORE THOUGHT
INTO IT?
>> YOU DID IT RIGHT.
BUT EVEN SUBCONSCIOUSLY WE'RE
SITTING THIS AND FIND SOMEONE
ATTRACTIVE, WE'RE NOT GOING TO
JUST KIND OF DO IT.
WE'RE GOING TO REALLY DO IT.
>> WHAT IS IT, TAKE YOUR TIME,
SLOWLY?
>> SLOWLY.
'CAUSE EVERYTHING ABOUT ROMANCE
IS A LITTLE BIT SLOW AND
CALCULATED.
THEN WHAT SHE DOES WHEN SHE DOES
THIS CROSS BECAUSE LADIES ALWAYS
CROSS TOWARDS MEN THEY LIKE AND
AWAY FROM MEN THEY DON'T LIKE.
>> INTERESTING.
WE GOT A LOT TO GET THROUGH.
THE SHOE DANGLE.
>> IT IS THE NUMBER ONE.
WOMEN -- MEN THINK THAT SOMEONE
WOULD TOUCH THEIR HAIR AND IT
SAYS I'M INTERESTED IN YOU.
THAT IS NOT GESTURE NUMBER ONE.
THAT IS GESTURE NUMBER FOUR.
LADIES DO THREE THINGS BEFORE
THEY TOUCH THEIR HAIR.
SO THE FIRST THING THEY DO,
THEY'RE GOING TO CROSS THEIR LEG
TO FACE YOU.
THEY'RE GOING TO START DOING A
SLOW KICK.
IT HAS TO BE A SLOW KICK.
BECAUSE A FAST KICK SAYS I'M
IMPATIENT WITH YOU.
A SLOW KICK SAYS I'M REALLY
INTERESTED IN YOU.
AND THEN THE NUMBER ONE GESTURE
THAT LADIES DO, IT IS STILL THE
DANGLING OF TH SHOE.
WOMEN DANGLE THEIR SHOES.
IT GOES BACK TO THE CINDERELLA
EFFECT AND AT THE BEGINNING OF
TIME WITH WEDDING CARDS.
IT WAS SHOES THAT WERE HUNG.
>> WILL A SLIPPER FIT.
>> SEE WHAT YOU'RE DOING RIGHT
THERE?
YOU'RE DOING THIS?
IT'S THE BIG COURTSHIP GESTURE.
WHEN SOMEONE IS DOING THIS IN
THE PRESENCE OF ANOTHER WHO THEY
THINK IS ATTRACTIVE, IT'S A
NONVERBAL GESTURE THAT SAYS, I'D
LIKE TO HOLD ON TO YOU, BUT I'LL
LOOK PRINCIPAL AND PROPER NOW
AND THEN I'LL HOLD ON TO MYSELF.
>> WHAT DOES IT SAY ABOUT US?
>> THAT YOU MAY WANT TO TOUCH
ME.
YOU MAY WANT TO TOUCH ME.
>> YOU ARE A MARRIED WOMAN AND I
WOULD NEVER DO THAT.
>> AFTER THAT, THEN SHE GETS
INTO HER HAIR.
THE MORE SHE'S INTO HER HAIR,
THE MORE SHE'S INTO THAT GUY.
>> LET'S TALK ABOUT MEN.
SO FIVE SIGNS MAN IS INTO YOU.
ARRANGING A TIE.
PULLING CUFF, SLICKING HAIR
BACK, SQUEEZE AGO SODA CAN AND
PLAYING WITH THE WINE GLASS.
>> YEAH.
LIKE THIS.
>> I DO ALL THE TIME.
>> YOU EVER DO THIS?
>> I DO.
PLAYING WITH THE WINE GLASS
STEM.
>> VERY SEXUAL.
BE CAREFUL WHERE YOU DO IT.
OKAY?
DON'T DO IT TOUCH IN PUBLIC.
YOU'RE GIVING ME AN EYEBROW LIFT
RIGHT NOW.
THAT'S SIGN OF INTEREST.
>> THE EYEBROW LIFT WAS NOT ON
THE LIST.
>> IT WASN'T ON THE LIST.
BUT WITH SOME OF THE OTHER
THINGS ON THE LIST, FOR A MAN,
ONE OF THE NUMBER ONE GESTURES
THAT PEOPLE SEEM TO THINK THAT'S
FOOLISH WHEN A MAN PULLS UP HIS
SOCKS, THAT'S BIG GESTURE HE'S
INTERESTED IN SOMEONE ELSE.
MEN PULL UP THEIR SOCKS.
LADIES DANGLE THEIR SHOES.
>> I PULL UP MY SOCKS BECAUSE
THEY'RE FALLING DOWN.
>> YOU MAY NEED TO GET NEW
SOCKS.
THE NEXT TIME, THINK TO
YOURSELF, WHO IS IN THIS ROOM
THAT I MIGHT LIKE?
IT IS THE NUMBER ONE.
IT GOES BACK TO MAYBE YOU SEE
TWO GUYS TALKING WITH EACH OTHER
AND THEY'LL SAY, DO YOU SEE THIS
GIRL?
SHE WILL KNOCK YOUR SOCKS OFF.
>> CHECK OUT THAT GIRL.
>> YEAH.
THAT'S A BIG --
>> TOTALLY SETTLED.
WAIT.
WHAT ABOUT SIGNS THAT SOMEONE IS
NOT INTO YOU?
>> OF COURSE THEY'RE NOT GONNA
FACE YOU.
THEY'RE GOING TO BE THIS WAY.
THEY'RE GOING TO CROSS THEIR
ARMS.
>> THEY'RE ON THEIR CELL PHONE?
>> YES.
AND NOT EVEN LISTENING TO YOU.
LET'S NOT FORGET THIS CAM HERE.
WHEN A MAN IS INTERESTED IN
SOMEONE AND HE'S HOLDING ON TO
THE CAN, YOU WANT TO HOLD ON TO
IT?
WHAT HAPPENS IS THAT HE STARTS
TO SQUEEZE IT AND THEN LET GO
AND THEN SQUEEZE IT AND THEN LET
GO.
AND EVERY TIME HE SQUEEZES IT --
>> I THOUGHT THIS WAS A SIGN OF
ANGER.
ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THIS?
>> IT'S A LITTLE BIT NICER THAN
THAT.
YOU CAN GO SQUEEZE.
IT MEANS THEY'RE SAYING, I'D
LIKE TO SQUEEZE YOU, BABY.
>> THE NEXT TIME YOU SEINE
SQUEEZING ANOTHER CAN, IT'S
'CAUSE I WANT ANOTHER ONE.
JAN, YOU'RE HILARIOUS AND WE
LOVE YOU.
COME BACK ANY TIME.
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