Just four sleeps until Christmas and
many of us can't wait to open our gifts.
But sometimes one of the more stressful parts
of Christmas is finding the right gift.
Blanca Cobb, who has a masters in psychology,
joins us to talk about how you can read
someone's body language to see if they
like the gift that you gave them and what
you should do if they don't so Blanca.
Let's go ahead and get started.
What are some body language signs
that somebody doesn't like your gift?
Realize this if somebody doesn't
like your gift, they're going to
try really hard not to let you know,
because we know to be gracious and
grateful when someone gives us a gift.
But here are some signs to pay attention to
what you want to pay attention to their eyes.
Sometimes people will get this really big
arched eyebrow and they hold it too long,
or they might like look around or look away.
Or they can actually pick up the gift and
say thank you as they're hiding behind it.
So pay attention to the eyes.
Also pay attention to their lips,
because sometimes lips will get twitchy.
They'll twist them, or they'll
hide their lips or bite their lips.
This happens because they're not
very excited about the gift,
but they don't want to tell you,
but their body still finding a
way to release that stress or that
tension of wanting to hide it.
So if you get the sense that
somebody doesn't like your gift,
should you say anything?
I feel like that's kind of
the biggest debate here.
Like should I tell them I don't like it?
That is a really good point
that you bring up. Stacy.
Yeah, it's an internal battle
and I say if you really want
someone to enjoy the gift right,
you don't want it to go to waste.
Sit in somebody's closet.
Then you might want to take a
proactive approach and you can say
something like you know, Stacy.
I wasn't really sure what you might like,
but I thought you might like this.
And hey, and if you.
Want something different?
Here's the gift receipt.
Please feel free to go exchange it.
I'm taking the pressure off of you
completely by opening that door,
and then you're more likely
to full relax and say OK.
And who knows what you may
end up doing with it.
OK, So what should you do if you
get a gift that you don't like?
That's a very good question as well.
Look if you get something
that you don't like.
Of course you have to be very thankful
and grateful that someone even took
the time to find you something.
And then of course spend their money on you.
And So what I say is you want to
be gracious and say thank you,
but also comment about something
that you like about the gift,
whether it's the color,
whether it's a unique gift,
maybe it's they buy you a
shirt and you like the fabric.
Or maybe they bought you something
that could be really useful, right?
You have some, there's some usability to it,
so you comment on something
positive about the gift.
And then privately later on,
you can decide whether you want
to keep the gift or regifted,
or perhaps donated.
But that's something you keep to yourself.
Well, log it. Thank you.
Make sure you have a plan if
you need more help before you
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for more tips from Blanca.
I think I honestly would
rather not know. I just
don't tell me like just pretend
like you do and return it later.
I wonder if that's why that there is
this big rise in white elephant parties
because you can just re gift things
that you just didn't like yourself.
Yeah yeah that would work.
I mean that's an easy out right, right?
Absolutely I was telling
Chad that one of the.
So I had a teacher that ties
into what I was telling you.
I have a teacher once who and it
was a drama class and he said if
you see somebody's performance and
you didn't really think it was
all that good and they said what
do you think he had some answers
which would apply to this too.
He said the first one that I
do is he said I just go wow.
And they're like, well, thank you
and he said the other one.
My favorite was I would
have never thought of that.
OK, keep those up my sleeves so great
so I I'm not good at a lot of things,
but I am really good at gift giving.
I am I kill it,
it's all gift giving every year.
So that's one of my strengths.
I don't know why that this was
the gift that was given to me,
but it's one of your love
language is clearly gift giving.
Yep, apparently so
I'm still with you guys skated out here yet.
I have not this year is the first year.
I haven't since it's been open
and you know what, Eric?
I think that it looks like the perfect
winter weather to be out there.
It's actually is, and no one's
there right now. We gotta get some
people going. Let's go pee pee.