is there a way to be a straight-shooter nope sorry is there a way to be straight
shooter Jocko and not be a jerk or piss people off you know this is this is a
touchy one mm-hmm because everybody want everybody has so much respect for the
straight shooter right hey that guy's a straight shooter and you want to be a
straight shooter you don't want to be someone that you don't want to be the
opposite what's the opposite of a straight shooter that's like a liar
right deceiver a deceiver right yeah so of course we want to be the straight
shooter let me tell you it is very difficult to be a straight shooter with
everybody mm-hmm even when you have a tremendous relationship with somebody a
tremendous relationship with somebody can you really be a straight shooter
with them a true straight shooter I've been a true straight shooter with
probably three or four people in my life in my life
administrates you with maybe three or four people mm-hmm that's off the top of
my head but I'm just saying it's not a big number it's got to be something that
you are so in sync with man I'm thinking about that I don't think that's even
possible for me and my situation even though because it's a straight shooter
yeah how can you reconcile being a straight straight shooter now consider
what that means but to be a straight shooter with somebody at all times yeah
that really do that yeah so so what do we do instead you gotta use the indirect
approach mmm the indirect approach now I'm talking about this all the time and
this is a nuance that people people won't people come out on podcast 12 and
they say hey I heard you say this or not I'm gonna go remember that question we
got asked you know do you ever get told your turn direction too intense it's
like no I don't get told that right because I don't believe in being trying
to be a straight shooter with everybody what I believe in is trying to get my
message across to people so that it gets some sorbets by them and the minute you
straight shoot somebody their defenses go up and it becomes problematic so some
indirect approaches or you have these discussions with people
when you use conversation to get your point across you know hey I was looking
at this and I was wondering what I could do better can you can you help me or you
know what can we do better you know you were throwing the the we on it or you
know well then you say something like a you know you've got so much going on
right now mm-hmm you want me to take anything off you
play you want to take that thing off your plate that that's kind of like a
small little detail do you want me to handle that or you know hey it seems
like you're having a micromanage this guy over here you want it you want it
nobody go straighten that out and run that or it seems like this guy's taking
up too much of your time you want me to take that over or take that person over
or you know what's a good one is hey can you help me with my team
members I just want to sit down with you and just like have you talked to me
about what you see in my team members and then when you're you're you're
discussing your team members and other people even your peers and what they do
getting bad but what you're really doing is you're just tossing some things there
away some little things their way so that they understand and they it and
it's kind of like teaching jujitsu right when you teach it when you teach them or
teaching anything when you teach a move you learn it better right mm-hmm if you
make somebody teach a move they're gonna learn it better so when you make someone
sit down with you and go through the issues that people are having it
actually makes them self reflect but they don't know it but they reap the
results they reap the results of it so that's a that's a crafty one that I've
used a bunch let's see here's a good one I think I'm letting you down I don't
think I'm doing a good enough job you know it's like I think I'm just be
careful though it down seems like if you if you hit the wrong tone oh my goodness
you got to be careful with all these you got to be tactful yeah you can ask some
more direct questions but when you ask them more direct questions you got to be
sort of you're gonna be true you gotta be you gotta come across as being very
truthful in your in your Inquisition so for instance hey what was the strategy
that you were thinking about over here like before
this whole thing fell apart and it's a half part but yo hey do you think there
or hey what was what were you thinking about when you put this together cuz I I
don't quite I don't quite get it you got to be careful that's another one you got
to be sensitive you look at home kid come off that home can come off bad what
were you thinking right well hey yeah you gotta be soft with you so it's much
better to be indirect in most of these cases and hopefully you can build
relationships with people where you can be more direct or you can do get that
conversation to be where it needs to be to where you can get the key critical
information across but it's very very challenging yeah and again in a it's not
not challenging it's not impossible I did it with everybody all the time I
always had got my point across to people hmm always you know and I'll tell you
this is something when I would straight shoot somebody I would and this is if I
really needed to straight shoot somebody I would write them a very lengthy email
hmm to say hey here's what's going on here's what I'm saying and I would
really craft it with a lot of patience and and then I would either do once I
wrote the email I would either use that and wouldn't send it but I'd use it as a
guide to myself like okay this is the conversation of and a half or I'd send
it to him for real like it needs note yeah like a DL note you know I actually
read one of I read one of those on on on or two it's number five I think it was
number five that was one of those things that I did I said okay you know what I
gotta help this guy out got to be direct with him he's making
some mistakes I want him to do better here's a little DL note for you get you
squared away the thing is these this is definitely hard but it's not impossible
you've got to just have the open mind you gotta use your tact you got to use
your judgment and you gotta build relationships and have conversations
with people mm-hmm and know what your intention is in the conversation and
just keep slowly moving in that direction
you know what a a tip and i'ma say this tip because I like when people do it to
me when they're like correcting me or whatever is sprinkle in little comments
about the stuff that they did right yeah that's a common practice yeah but when
you do that though you add in this yet in that's what I like about you you do
this you know so it's you know so if you add in that's what I like about you it
kind of individualizes that person like I'm the guy who does that you know that
good part so it gives them that confidence so it's kind of like yeah
tell me more kind of kind of attitude and then at the end throw in like
something along the lines of like yeah good thanks you know thanks for the time
or whatever and then be like I got your back yeah kind of leave yeah there's all
kinds we could go over techniques all night long those are both good ones you
know another one is like hey listen I think you can be a top performer here
mm-hmm I think you're gonna this is if you're talking to someone that's you
know like a subordinate I think you could be a top performer here there's
here's what you're kicking ass at yes this this and this here's this these two
things right here if we can get these fixed you're going
platinum when we get these things when we look at you yeah I'm imagining in the
sense of you telling me this like jiu-jitsu so yeah you know yeah just say
like when I'd be like hey and I'd ask him this I'm in this position and he'd
be like be like Kevin later on you know I'd text him water behaves for for going
over this with me it's like a pro you don't keep it up and you can be like a
world champion he'd just say that and I don't know who else easy process that
everybody I don't know he's never said that to me that's cuz we each other
before that moment I'm like hell yeah you know like I hope he corrects me more
I hope he tells me how to do this because he obviously bleed just like are
you saying you know you could be a top performer here yeah tell me what else
what can I do what can I do on this and actually the point that you're making is
very good point which is you know picture go into perspective of the other
person and what is it gonna sound like to them and that's that's a smart thing
to do so you're you're hearing what you would hear if you were them yeah
yeah indirect people be indirect it's harder it's challenging it takes more
time it takes more patience and it is way more effective mm-hmm fact yeah and
we talked about how before like some people they'll be like hey I'm just I'm
just I tell it how it is you know I tell how
it is and and if you don't like you kind of thing and all right go ahead and do
that but see how that works out for you you know see how many people follow you
so many people want to listen to you you know other people want to be around you
even you know I like the indirect approach to