If anyone says Seema aunty is orthodox so, be it but the Indian values that have been around
since ages that have stolen the show
I love the world and I will tell one thing that walk on Seema auntie’s guru mantra life will be
You are not comprising in your office? Example. You are adjusting, right?
Then why don’t you do it in your personal life.
Hi Seema aunty, welcome to Pinkvilla.
Thank you.
Congratulations on your Emmy nomination. I wanted to ask what was your first reaction you
know when you found out that you have gotten an Emmy nomination?
Karishma, it was a double celebration. Because the show is nominated for an Emmy’s and it
completed a year, Indian Matchmaking, 16th July. So, it was double celebration for me and
Indian Matchmaking has been popular and talk of the top sections. So, since it released
I have gotten immense love and respect from the whole world.
What is your opinion on, one difference between love marriage and arranged marriage?
In arrange marriage it’s within the same community.
Are you asking about same community or only arrange marriage?
Arrange marriage in general.
Arrange marriage in general there is support of two families. That is very important.
It doesn’t happen in love marriage. It happens but not much.
In arrange marriage if anything happens both the families are strong and they are standing,
that is the main big point in arrange marriage.
Also, I read in one of you interviews you had said that you had once matched people at the
carousel at the Bombay airport. Can you like elongate on that because I found that very
interesting, how did you match people on the airport
My and my husband we are very crazy for, we are globe trotters. So, we have been to
Switzerland 12 times. Matched at a carousel, its all-destiny things. We saw a good boy;
someone was talking there tell us a good place for marriage so we matched it like that.
Yesterday I went to Bangalore to attend some wedding because after the matching they say
no, Seemaji you have to come for the wedding because you have matched us. I just send the
guy’s bio data to the girl and its all destiny it clicked.
And after one year, one year courtship they got married.
So, it’s that way, it’s all destiny. The match is made in heaven and
God has only sent me on the earth to match them.
You know speaking of matching, a lot of people had a lot to say about what your definition of
an ideal man and ideal woman is. So, what exactly would you say is an ideal marriage and
how should a man and a woman be defined to have a perfect marriage?
Whenever you get married you have to see the upbringings and the family values first. Its
very important. You can get a guy and girl from anywhere you can see the upbringing in
them, then I give 100 marks for that. If these are fine the later on family, the relationship,
everything goes smoothly because the upbringing and family values
are there in that girl and the guy, the one point.
The second point is, the wedding is over now it’s up to them to be happily married
You are not comprising in your office? Example. You are adjusting, right?
Then why don’t you do it in your personal life.
Little compromise and little adjustment only we are asking. And bit flexible.
Being adamant and egoistic will cause riffs and cracks in the marriage
I have told marriages are breaking like biscuits
So, I have said this compromise a bit, adjust a little, get your ego down and be little flexible.
And love and respect. That is very important.
Partners should show love and respect then things will go smoothly.
Would you say the compromise only from the woman’s side or
would you say from both sides there should be compromise?
Karishma, in Indian Matchmaking episode 4 I have told Vyasar that either you have to
compromise and adjust. So, it’s for both. It doesn’t go by one. You clap using two hands.
They both have to compromise and adjust.
As you were saying one of your quote’s marriages are breaking like biscuits, its become so
popular so I want to know like the entire show has been unscripted, none of them is scripted
Nothing.
Like everything is real as it is happening.
Today I am talking to you. Same thing I am talking there.
Didn’t you ever feel that there should be some scripted or like this has to be full on real?
Because they say right reality shows have little bit of scripting.
This doesn’t have even 0.0001% scripting. I am doing my job and camera is following me,
that’s all. That’s why people have loved it.
I tell you thousands of people have told me Seema Aunty the show is not a reality show, we
love you because of your humbleness, your simplicity and honesty. We loved the show. The
way you are you have been portrayed there the same. My Indian values are portrayed in the
show, Karishma. And I am very proud of my Indian values.
If anyone says Seema aunty is orthodox so, be it but the
Indian values that have been around since ages that have stolen the show
Do you think, for many people find those orthodox family values, do you think there will be a
time when they won’t exist or do you think that will always continue in India?
These family values have been since thousands of years. I have told nothing new. I am
married since 38 years, these family values were there love, respect, compromise and
adjustment. That’s how marriages are been going on. Now why it is breaking?
Because youngsters don’t want to follow these values.
These values will be continuing in the future also. It’s not like after a time, full stop. These
will keep happening till the world exists. If you are compromising at work why not at home?
The values will keep on and it is for both. It’s a confusion in kids that I am telling only to a
lady, no. Both, male and female I am telling for both, its same.
The guru mantra what I gave to the world its both for male and female.
Would you like for a season 2 to happen? Is there any news about season 2 happening?
Any spoilers for us?
Karishma, my association with Netflix has been very pleasant and I am looking forward to
working with them. So, let’s see what happens.
Your smile is saying that it can happen.
I don’t know yet., if anything happens, you will find out.
What is the secret of your successful marriage? Like you said, for decades you’ll have been
together. What is the secret to that? Besides the whole compromise part, you have spoken
about but what else do you think is the secret of your successful marriage?
The secret is the big, big, big, big adjustment between me and my husband. I am east and he
is west. You can think that east and west staying together is such a big adjustment. But
happily, we have adjusted and we have worked. Can’t call it compromise we have adjusted.
The big mantra is we have adjusted. Are two sisters same? Nature wise.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. No.
Kids coming from the same mother, how can they be same? There has to be some difference.
There is vast difference between me and my husband but
we have adjusted very, very well. That’s the success mantra.
Do you have a message for your fans? Also, your haters you know about Indian
Matchmaking, the Emmy nomination, completing one year, about all of it.
Any ending messages?
If they hate or love me, I love the whole world because all are mine so I don’t care. I get it
that some have their priority to do negative talks but I love the world and I will tell you only
one thing that walk on Seema auntie’s guru mantra life will be smooth.
That’s the message.
Thank you so much Seema Aunty. Best of luck for the Emmy’s.
Thank you.