Next question – Hey Tripp, I've been loving the podcast, but I think I have a bit of
a unique situation. I'm Christian and I only want to date inside of my religion.
There are still quite a lot of girls in my Christian circle. And there's always a lot
of options at camps throughout the year and other conference events. The issue
is that I know I'll get a bad reputation if I take your advice to do high quantity
approaches. Everyone talks and word gets around in no time, and I'll be known as the desperate guy.
I still want to practice approaches and flirting. Should I practice on girls outside my religion,
but then not have the intention of dating / following through with them? Again,
I want to date but only in my religion. I'm 21 years old, if that helps. Thanks, Ryan. Well,
first off, you have more than your circle, from what I believe.
Your circle is just your social circle. You have online dating, Christian Singles,
that is a dating site for Christians, by the way, Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Match,
eHarmony – all these have Christian people on them that you can filter for. You can meet Christian
women online. And by the way, this answer can be for you if you're Christian, Muslim, Jewish,
Catholic, whatever. It's the same idea. You can meet people of your religion on dating apps.
Now, you can also be doing high quantity approaches outside of your social circle
where it's going to be 50/50. You don't know for sure if they're going to be Christian or
whatever religion you're looking for. But I like to say that depending on where you live,
Christianity is not very rare. There's a lot of people who are Christian. If you were Jewish,
that can be a little tough because there's such a small quantity of Jews. But for someone like you,
who's Christian, you might be able to get away with doing high quantity approaches and
you end up approaching women who are Christian. It happens. So I think that we need to
really think about all the different ways to meet women. Again, social circle, your
online dating, and your, we'll call them, in your terms, high quantity approaches. I like
to say in person, so meeting women in person. I'd use the meeting women in person aspect to
get better at flirting and talking to women and get better at TED and building attraction.
But no, I wouldn't be flirting with every single girl inside of your Christian circle.
I would be extremely picky inside of your circle, that's a place to be picky. So in your circle...
I mean, unless you're attracted to every single girl who's in there,
I would only pick one at a time. And I wouldn't strategize, by the way. Guys, you know
I hate the strategizing. Don't over strategize, play it like it was any other woman,
but you're just going to do it one at a time as a way to, I agree, not ruin your reputation.
You're not going to want to do that, that will kill your social circle and your social circle
is something that brings more value to you than just women. The social circle is
your network. It's the people you know, it's your friends so you don't want to ruin that.
You can still use that as a place to meet women. It's very common. It's what most people do anyway.
You do it one at a time. And when I say don't over strategize, I just mean, find a woman that
you're feeling most attracted to or one that you have a connection with and ask them out.
I also wouldn't wait. I wouldn't try to go and do too much
learning how to build attraction, listening to a ton of these podcasts, or trying to go out and do
a bunch of approaches to get better at flirting. I wouldn't take too much time to do that before,
keyword before, you talk to that one woman you're interested in. You kind of just gotta move. Just
get going. I mean, yeah, like you can listen to some episodes here, you can get my course Hooked,
and you can go through that and that's fine. You just take note, that's fine. You take a
little bit of time to learn a few things and to understand how women become attracted to
men. Then you can use that for your benefit when you're talking to the women inside your circle.
But don't take several months to get good at all this before you go "okay now I'm good,
now I'm going to put the energy into meeting the women in my social circle." Just go for one
at a time and by the time it may work out and you're on maybe girl number two or girl number
three. Hopefully by that time, you've had enough time doing approaches, going through material,
my book, my course, whatever, these episodes on podcast, the YouTube channel. Then you've had
enough time, you've gotten some good information, and you're just gonna get better and better.
I'll repeat myself again. Your process should be meeting the type of woman you want through all
the normal avenues that you can meet women. Again, in person, online and social circle.
You're gonna want to learn a little bit more about how to build attraction.
And then you're going to immediately start to go through your social circle to meet women.
You're just going to do it a little bit more one at a time and see what happens.
Don't look at your social circle as this golden thing where it's like, I gotta be so strategic
with every woman. No, just do it. Go for it. Don't overdo it like I said, and you should be fine.