You cannot develop lightness of character while being angry.
There's no [inaudible] in the epidemic America today and I would say the vast majority of
the people in the U.S. are angry individuals.
So in this mindset Monday, we're going to be healing anger.
I'm Drew Canole, it's another mindset Monday, remember we're in this together and let's
get started.
Medicate anger; we must first understand where it is coming from.
All anger comes from the perceived thought or the actual loss of something.
So if you feel like you're going to lose something or you have lost something often times we
get angry.
The ego has itself wrapped up in material things and those material things are taken
away it perceives it as an attack.
So somebody steals your stereo, you look where it used to be and you have [inaudible] because
you really miss the stereo.
Your ego's under attacked; you're enraged that the stereo's missing.
A good example in my own life for this is about five years ago, I was an entrepreneur
running the company, decided every Friday to take my employees out to lunch.
Well, I took my employees out to lunch, a couple of them didn't have a car that day
so I actually gave them a ride to this Tai food restaurant.
We had an amazing conversation, it was awesome, you know, we really got to connect on a very
interpersonal level, I felt real good about the way things were going with the company,
and then we returned to work.
Well, the very next day I'm on my way into the gym and I go in the backseat, and then
I go to reach for my Ipod and it wasn't there, it was missing.
And I thought about I'm like 'Who was sitting in my backseat', well [it was] the employees.
So real quick, I became enraged, I was upset, who could have took my Ipod, really really
upset.
And I called up one of my mentors about this and he said 'Drew, the Ipod really never was
yours and maybe one of those employees needed it more than you' and that kind of stuck with
me.
Actually most people get upset at the thought of loss, even the loss never really happens.
An example of growth in my own life is, I was driving and at that time I didn't have
insurance, I just moved down to Florida, it was a long time ago, I was rotten and dirty...not
like that.
But anyway, then at the [front of] my car, and I knew I had a choice to make, that choice
was to get upset about it or simply just let it be and recognize that the more I could
bring myself back into the state of flow or an alignment then I would pass and that's
exactly what happened.
The very next day I went into work, I didn't have insurance, I knew it was going to cost
me, something to get this car fixed.
And the very first phone call of the day, I remember it vividly like it was yesterday,
was this client and I asked him what he did for a living and he said 'You know...' he's
like 'I own a body shop' and it was amazing.
So recognizing that when you stay in flow, you stay in this optimistic state, whatever
happens to you in your life it could be for a reason.
There will always be something that comes in and takes care of you in that very moment
and that's exactly what happened to my own life.
Now I'm not encouraging anyone to drive dirty but I am encouraging you to start looking
at things as reasons and not necessarily getting angry about it.
[Inaudible] has a great quotes, he says, 'Anger is like a hot rock, if you hold on to this
rock, you're the only person that's going to get burn.'
It doesn't burn the other person that you're upset with, it only can burn you.
People become imprisoned by their own ego, and that's what it is, all anger stems from
the loss of something.
It's a security issue.
So the next time somebody says, 'I'm angry' or 'I'm upset with you' it is really, you
have caused me loss or something.
And that can be a physical loss, it can be a mental loss, it can be loss in relationship,
it can be a loss financially.
So the ego's way of dealing with it is to get upset.
If you feel you must absolutely talk about with your loved one, or the person that's
really angry.
Simply say 'I understand you're angry and you're upset with me but I don't understand
why you think I should be responsible for your actions.'
And then you could simply say 'I understand you're angry and upset, why don't you explain
to me what you feel like you've lost.'
All anger comes from a perceived loss, all loss is a security issue, all security issues
are manifestations of the ego.
Understand that and all anger disappears unto the native nothingness to once it was born.
So the purpose of this video, you know a lot of times I talk about mindset, and how it
relates to identity, your identity.
If you're the type of person that's been angry your whole entire life or maybe it's just
been for a year or two and you find yourself getting angry over and over again for no particular
reason and you're not manifesting the physical body that you really want, it could be because
on the very molecular level every cell in your body is upset.
It's in an angry state.
Now if we take it up to what I was talking about a little bit earlier all anger is a
form of loss, it's a manifestation of the ego.
Well if on the individual cellular level, every single one of your cells is upset and
angry and that's the kind of a mantra that you go around with.
If it feels like it's constantly in a state of loss, what does it want to do?
It wants to hoard everything, it wants to store it.
So if you are angry and your storing body fat that's exactly what this is so I encourage
you to let it all go.
Like I said anger only hurts you so squash it before it starts, take a survey, what are
you really angry about?
We were living in the greatest time that's ever been given, I mean think about the technological
advances that we have today, how gifted you have been and maybe it starts with recognizing
your gifts, start going over them every single day in the morning I wake up, five, ten minutes
I get grateful for every single thing I listed on my mind, before I go to bed I do the same
thing.
When I do that I raise my frequency up to a level to what I'm not manifesting people
into my experience that are angry.
Somebody's angry, I'll cut him off, I mean I don't have time for people to be angry in
my experience.
I have time to coach you Fitlifer, I have time to help you where you are, but I'm not
the vessel that's doing it, you have to make the decision to move forward and actually
make it happen.
So again this has been another mindset Monday, if you got anything out of this video whatsoever,
give it a big old thumbs up, share it with your friends, share it with somebody who's
angry and you want to put a smile on their face and remember we're in this together,
I'm Drew Canole, we'll see you next week.