- Hey, everybody, happy Tuesday, and since it's Tuesday,
I'm on Tumblr, and I have three questions today as well as
a journal topic coming from my mother, thanks, Mama.
She's really helpful, and she loves quotes too
just like moi, or actually I like them just like her
I guess 'cause, you know, she's my mom.
I have three questions.
If any of you are new to my channel, welcome.
I do questions based on using the hashtag KatiFAQ.
I search, I find them, I answered some already
so if you may have had a public question,
I answered some of those, and private ones I always answer
privately so don't worry if you asked me a private question,
I will answer privately unless you say you can post this.
Otherwise, I don't.
Without further ado, question number one,
"Is it possible to get different types of therapy
"in the same session, as in what if you need DPT for BPT."
That's a lot of acronyms, but if you wonder what those are,
search for those on my channel.
"But you also needed CBT, or Talk Therapy for another issue,
"would you use the same therapist?
" And, would you receive all the different types of therapy
"that you want/need in the same session?
"Or can you only work on one issue at a time?"
I thought this was a wonderful, wonderful question.
It's a great question because
there are many various answers.
Now, first of all if you see a therapist through insurance,
and you're not in the States so if it's something
through socialized medicine, chances are you're getting
CBT therapy 'cause it's the only therapy that we actually
can do research on, and we can track the progress.
It's short-term, it's very cost-efficient for insurances
so chances are, you're gonna get that.
If you're in the States, and you have the luxury
of kinda picking the therapist that you want,
ask the therapist what credentials they have,
or what therapy style they practice under.
Most of us don't do just one thing.
I would assume, or at least in the LA area,
and in California where I've studied/worked
and had my experience, most people work from a lot
of different types of therapy like I, myself, am a
certified DBT therapist, but right now,
because I'm setting up my own office, I don't have room
for group so I have to refer my DBT clients
out to a DBT group, and since there aren't many DBT groups,
I don't do full-fledged DBT therapy anymore
'cause we have to have a group, am I right, but I still
incorporate it into the way that I work with my clients.
I also incorporate automatic thought records
which are a part of CBT.
I also do a lot of Talk Therapy so depending on the issue,
I work with you and from the toolbox that I have
from my training and learning and experience.
I pull from it, and I will use that in our therapy so I
use from a bunch of different types, and I'm assuming
most therapists do the same, but you don't know
until you ask so before setting up an appointment,
it's very fair, and I have many people ask,
"What type of therapy do you work from?"
Or, "What type of therapy do you do?"
However you wanna verbalize it.
We'll get back to you and let you know 'cause
some people may be like, "I only do CBT here."
We never know so I would ask, but yes, you can find someone
who does a lot of different types of therapy.
However, in my experience, DBT therapists,
there are not very many of us, we're a dying breed,
or people just don't like to put in the time
'cause it does take a lot of time.
Anyways, if you find someone who does DBT,
and you have Borderline Personality Disorder,
stick with them 'cause they're amazing.
Question number two, "Can you recover fully without
"telling your therapist everything?
"For example, they know about your depression and help you
"with that, but they don't know about your self-harm.
"I know mine would tell my parents
"if she knew so I don't want to tell her."
Yes and no, I believe, fully and completely,
that if we want to work on something,
and we wanna get better, we'll get better.
If you're working with a therapist,
and they know about your depression,
I would Utilize that to talk about the depressive voice
or the depression, and in your mind know that
when you're talking about the depression,
you're also talking about self-harm, and it helps
for you to integrate it into what you're working on.
If we don't talk about/work on the issue, whatever it is,
even if it's just in our mind, us working on it,
and journaling about it, then I don't really believe
we can get better, but if we're working on it, which it
sounds like you're definitely wanting to get better.
You're working with your therapist.
I think we definitely can.
You don't have to tell them about the self-harm
if you don't want your parents knowing right away
as long as you're targeting that self-harm urge and voice.
You're finding alternatives, and you can even say,
"My depression comes in really quick, and I need
"to come up with some different distraction tools,"
and just kind of working it in so you're not actually
talking about the self-harm, but you're
still getting help for it, and if you haven't checked out
my website katimorton.com, I have a free self-harm workbook
on there so download it and get started
'cause that will help you as well.
Question number three, "What do I do if I want to go back
"to counseling, but I don't want my parents knowing?
"I'm almost 18 and dealing with past self-harm.
"I currently have an eating disorder although
"I haven't seen a doctor to get clinically diagnosed yet.
"This has been going on for about three months now.
"What should I do?
"Thank you."
I, obviously, as I always state, I only know the laws
in the state of California, and the United States,
kinda as a whole 'cause they're very similar,
but I'm only licensed in the state of California.
That's why, many of you ask if can do Skype sessions,
and I technically can't unless you live in California.
I can do Skype sessions in California, but I can't
go out of the state 'cause I'm not licensed
to practice in that state,
or at least that's what the rules are thus far.
They'll probably change over the years, but that's why
I haven't opened that up yet 'cause I legally cannot.
To speak about legality and our rules, once you're 18,
that day, that birthday of yours, boom, you're a free agent,
your parents don't have to know anything,
and they actually legally can't unless you sign a release,
and I would even, if you're newly 18,
and your parents are still kind of like involved
in the process, I would make sure,
when you see your therapist, you say, "I know I'm 18,
"and I don't want my parents knowing anything
"about this so if there's anything you're gonna share
"with them, please run it by me first."
I would say that 'cause those are your rights.
As far as going back to counseling if you're not 18,
now therapists have the ability,
I don't even know what year they passed this law,
but for quite a while, we've had the ability
to see young clients without their parents' approval.
I believe, it's changed over the years.
When I first started studying, it was like down to age 12,
and I think it's still 12 or 13,
but we have to have a reason.
Now, it's not that you have to be abused.
It used to be, in the past, it had to be some kind of abuse
that was happening, and it wasn't safe at the home, and so
we would see them because something horrible was happening.
Now, we can see you for a bunch of various reasons, like
you are old enough to participate in therapy.
You can make payments, co-pays, or whatever the cost is
on your own, or however you're gonna pay,
you pay for therapy when you come in,
and also there's a legitimate reason
for your parents not to be involved.
Maybe, it would be difficult for you to tell them
about self-harm, and you're afraid
that they'd lash out, or something like that.
You definitely have rights, and I would talk
to the therapist and be very upfront about your concerns
of them sharing things with your parents,
and yeah, that's my word of advice
because once you're 18, you're golden.
If they tell anything,
they're actually in deep, deep trouble,
but if you're younger I would just be very verbal.
Make sure they understand where you're at.
Make sure they're not gonna share, and if they will,
they'll talk to you about it, but know that
legally they can tell your parents,
and that's where we're at at this point.
I'm sorry, but that's the truth.
Now, here's the journal topic.
It's really good, and I really like it, so thanks, Mama.
It says, "Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish
"by its ability to climb a tree,
"it will live it's whole life believing that it is stupid."
That's Albert Einstein, and I thought that was so wonderful
because, often times, we compare ourselves to other people.
We look at other people, and we're like,
"Man, why can't I have their life?
"Why can't I get paid to do that?
"Why do they get paid to travel all the time?
"Why duh, duh, duh, duh, duh?
"I wish I was that good at sports?
"I wish I could do."
No, now we're comparing a fish to like a chipmunk.
Fish can't climb trees, chipmunk can climb trees.
Chipmunks can't swim, fish can swim.
We can't compare ourselves to other people
because we're all unique creatures, and everything we do
can be wonderful, and I would encourage all of you
this week to actually journal about this journal topic.
I know sometimes I have action step,
but I want you to consider what this means to you.
How often are you comparing yourself to other people?
Does it make you feel bad about yourself?
Then, I want you to think of the things
that you're good at, that make you uniquely you.
Are you really good at singing?
Are you really good at music of a different sort,
like playing a certain instrument?
Are you good at art, are you good at sports?
Are you really good at certain video games?
Do you really like to color, are you good at collages?
Are you good at painting, what are you good at?
Are you really into fashion, do you like that stuff?
Are you really good at doing people's hair or makeup?
There are a zillion things out there
so I would encourage you to journal about it.
Find them and remind yourself how frigging amazing you are
'cause you all are uniquely and amazingly you.
I will see you all tomorrow.
I'll be on the website and YouTube so ask your questions
below as well as katimorton.com, and I'll see you then, bye.