what's up everybody it's Chris from the rewired soul and yeah if you're a
longtime viewer of my channel intros a little bit different I just jumped into
this because new information came out about the Zoe Quinn situation and Alec
Holowka who sadly took his own life and it's it bums me out like this is such
such an awful awful story so those of you who don't know Zoe Quinn
weeks ago came out with allegations against Alec Aloka they were dating she
said he was emotionally abusive there was even some sexual abuse tossed in
there as well and yeah cancel culture came after him and he was fired from his
job he was a game developer and he took his own life well yesterday I did a
video many others did a video an article came out from Anna slats from the post
millennial showing some old tweets from Zoe Quinn that made it questionable of
you know how what was was that relationship you know really abusive
like she was painting a much different picture like her tweets were you know
saying like you know that they were you know having a great time together they
were in love with each other they were supporting one another and working on
projects together they even did podcasts together and
painted this whole different story and something I talked about yesterday
which I'll say again and is just from a history of working with literally
thousands of people who you know have struggled with you know trauma and
things like that like it's not it's not a good way to gauge to be like okay well
they were putting on a happy face out here so nothing what's going on right
but what I what I talked about was you know we know we know Alec had admitted
to screwing up he admitted you know that he used to have a lot of issues and he
was working on himself and I was that's what's so sad about this story but the
new article that just came out from Anna slot so I'm gonna link it down in the
description again for you to check out it's awful man so basically after this
story kind of blew up somebody messaged the author of that article and a slash
and sent a bunch of DMS and they kept anonymous but it was DMS with Alec from
2014 and Alec was talking with somebody about his relationship with Zoe Quinn
and it's a it's a much different story and we need to talk about this because
this is something that we see just constantly when it comes to toxic
abusive relationships bye anyways it looks like you know Alec wasn't was it
the only one you know who may have been abusive in this relationship it looked
like Zoe Quinn was as well so the first thing I want to talk about is this like
in the current state that we're in like calling people out with this intent on
like ruining them is just so awful and disgusting right like I am a recovering
addict an alcoholic I've had you know my own you know
traumatic past and dealt with you know suicidal thoughts and everything like
that and you know today is you know national suicide awareness prevention
day and everything and like I believe in us sharing our stories to inspire others
and it's difficult because when you look at like what Zoe Quinn did and blasted
this out on Twitter which led to Alec taking his own life it's it's messed up
because people should share their stories but what's the intention like
what's the motivation behind it like something that I've had to do just
throughout you know my claim time these last seven years is whatever I'm doing
is like what is my motive why am I doing this am i doing this to help others am i
doing this for personal gain am i doing this to destroy someone right and when
we have the motive to help others or inspire others
then yeah you know like it becomes a tricky situation but the the sad part
about this is is especially with public figures it's like I know a lot of you
who are watching this situation unfold more like a lot of you know about what
happened with Pro Jared and Heidi right and it's just like fuck man like why is
this being put out there in the public like why why is this like and it's just
it's just such a like a bummer to see everybody acting like this because
everybody can sit behind their keyboards or their computer screens and act like
they haven't had a shitty relationship or a bad breakup before but we all get
to sit back and judge you know these other people who are going through it
publicly and it's like dang like I can't even imagine and there's just such a
lack of empathy right like whenever one of these stories comes up people choose
sides and then whichever side you choose then a bunch of people go and they
attack the other side and that person and everything and you know Pro Jared
made it out on the other side to clear up his name but Alec lost hope really
quickly and took his own life and you know I am going to reach more viewers
than I am influencers but like I wish influencers would leave some of this
private shit just offline because it's nobody's business
and the the criticism of zoe quinn that's been coming up is if what she was
saying was true it should have gone to the authorities not not the first step
the first resort being blasting it on twitter right but for all of you in the
audience like just just look look at what's going on like I sit here and I
wonder like when we look at how we lost Erica right a couple months ago I asked
myself I always ask myself the people who were spamming attica with cloud
emojis and shopping him you know as a clown and
things like that I asked myself a Mike do any of those people feel bad why do
they feel any remorse that Etica took his life afterwards right III wonder
about that because as people like unless you're
like a complete psychopath like you you feel bad about shit you know what I mean
so when I look at these situations like there were people just blasting Alec
alright and again I don't think many people think he was 100% innocent it
sounds like it was a mutually abusive relationship but the people who were
just going after Alec like do these people feel bad one of the biggest
questions I have is like the the game developers like the the studio that
fired him like do they feel bad like imagine imagine imagine you losing your
job over a breakup right like imagine your ex-boyfriend or your ex-girlfriend
coming in and talking to your boss like how fucked is that you know what I mean
so I look at the employer who fired Alec over this but that is bananas it is
crazy to me how people don't sit back and assess the situation and say okay
should we and I've talked about this before I get it because part of it is
with the the current climate especially online
the mob goes after the company and says you need to do something you need to get
rid of this person and companies are more likely to appease the the consumers
who are putting money in that pocket than they are to back their own
employees I think the only time the only time I can think of when people rallied
behind somebody being accused of some bullshit was James Gunn some guardians
of the galaxy the director of that and the cast came and rallied behind him and
said this is messed up right but than that like it's it's crazy to me to
see employers like it's bad enough that the the hate mob online just angry
fucking people in the world are just going after people but to see an
employer not like half the back of somebody it's just mind-blowing right
but here's here's the thing like we need to we need to understand that like so
many of these things so many relationships are are mutually toxic you
know and to see zoe quinn blast that out there in front of everybody is insane
but when you read through this article this new article you see the fear that
alec was in and listen it's something that i don't even want to talk about i
hate talking about it but yeah today with it being national suicide
prevention Awareness Day there have been a lot of articles being spread around
and stuff like that where like the suicide rates of men is extremely high
and I hate talking about that because listen even though I'm half black I look
white and as far as people who got it good on planet Earth
it is white men white men got it really fucking good alright
so because white men or guys like me who look white have it so good it's hard to
talk about the fact that suicide rates are so damn high with men all right it's
so hard but when you read Alec's conversation this was around the time
that gamergate was going on and he was debating on coming forward with his
story and just because of the climate like he
couldn't do that he couldn't do that and it fucking sucks because I I know so
many women you know my my best friends are you know women I have best friends
who are men too and just I I know I know what women have gone
through from what they've told me right and if fucking sucks it blows my mind I
can't imagine just getting random dick pics on my phone right I can't imagine
being scared to walk down the street by myself there's so many things right but
we need to find this this balance because there are certain groups that
are just classifying you know all these dudes as bad dudes and don't get me
wrong there are so many douchebag dudes out there but it sucks that guys are
afraid to come forward and talk about these things like I've talked about it a
few times on my channel just because I'm really open and I share my story to help
others but I have been in many abusive relationships right and I wasn't 1,000%
innocent like I have you know had women say the most awful things and just
emotionally and verbally abuse me like I had no self-esteem I was a drug addict
alcoholic I would take whatever I would get I would have women in my life who
just berate me and talk down to me and all these other things right and I say
some shitty things back and all this I was just a hot mess and I was dating hot
messes right and it's something that that can happen to both men and women
and like thing is it's like we just like we got to get out of those relationships
we got to go to therapy we got to break those patterns and everything like but
man for all the guys out there watching this I just want to say like the answer
the answer is not being angry at women all right and you know it's it's this
thing where we got to work together and find common solutions but just sitting
in this black and white thinking saying all people or this way or you know this
person is just automatically shitty and all these things like we have to get
down to the little nuances and have conversations and I don't see the sad
part is I don't see us going backwards right but I hope like when I say going
backwards I mean like from the reactionary
kind of climate that you see on the Internet but like I'm hoping that just
making videos and talking about this stuff like I just hope some people just
pause like pause for a one fucking second and appraise the situation to say
okay is there evidence that this is true is there a chance that this might not be
true should I engage in this should i not like you guys we are not designed
like nobody on earth would ever tell you hey it's a good idea to run purely off
emotions and get rid of logic nobody would ever say that like when you
run off emotions terrible shit happens alright this is why we need to pause so
before you go just start talking shit to people who have been accused of
something like sit back because like not everybody's intentions are pure and I'll
finish with this from day one since I've been covering this story I do not I
don't know if Zoe Quinn is lying we know from Alec's own statements
before he passed away and his sister's that some of this stuff was true there
are other people who know Alec had emotional regulation issues right but
the issue is is that we didn't know both sides if both sides would have came out
this story would have looked way more different more people would have
probably rallied behind Alec when it first happened you know what I mean I'm
sure there are many people who would still sided with Zoe and said oh that
piece of shit you should have just you know whatever but but yeah like do
yourself a favor and please read those messages like we have to start
empathizing with people a little bit more and something I talked about
yesterday is hurt people hurt people alright like I I won a commentary
channel where I talk about all sorts of subjects I don't think that we should
live in this like fairytale world where we should never criticize people but
like we need to be able to have conversations without it
into these angry mobs like because shit like this happens so I don't know I
don't know what's going on I don't know what's gonna happen to Zoe Quinn but
this is all really really messed up like I don't know if there should be legal
action or what like I don't know but people really need to understand the
power they have when it comes to posting things online especially people is such
a big following man especially people with such a big following anyways check
out the article from Anna down in the description below and yeah I'll see you
guys next time