Hello, my wonderful friend! Let's talk about 7 pro
flirting tips that women adore~ This is how to flirt with a girl like a boss.
Flirting is exciting, right? It gives you
those butterflies. It makes getting to know someone really exciting and fun.
However, it can also be a little bit scary, especially if you feel like a beginner,
like you don't know what you're doing, and you don't want to embarrass yourself or be rejected.
If that's you right now, that's totally okay!
Whether you feel like a complete beginner or like you're already pretty good at flirting,
what you learn in this video will help you take your flirting to the
next level. So make sure you stay with me until the end.
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Are you ready for my first pro flirting tip? Tip number one is to break the ice
and then start flirting with her. Do not just start flirting right away.
If a girl just met you and all of a sudden you're throwing
flirtatious lines and stuff around, it can overwhelm her very quickly,
and it makes her think you're a little bit weird, like you're trying too hard.
That kind of makes her feel emotionally unsafe and it sets you up for rejection.
That's not what we want at all. It's like you're trying too hard and it makes you look awkward.
What you want to do instead is break the ice in a completely normal,
natural way and then start adding in a little bit of flirting.
This lets her know that you're not weird right at the start,
okay? This lets her know you're not creepy or just trying to get something from her,
but that you're a real, authentic person who, you know, is interested and cute
and attractive and fun, and that's what puts her and you in the right mindset.
And this leads us right into my second pro flirting tip, and that
is to look for signs she's interested before you start flirting with her.
Now, this is certainly true if you've known her for a while, and certainly true if this
is your first time approaching her and meeting her and getting to know her.
I walk you through a successful, exciting approach in my Academy,
and this is one of the most important steps I share with my clients there.
It's important to look for those body language signs she's interested. This
helps you avoid rejection because if she's not interested and you approach or start flirting,
it becomes really awkward and kind of creepy feeling.
But if you see those signs of attraction, see those signs she's interested, one,
you can relax a lot more, right? And two, it's going to set you up for success.
If you're not quite sure about body language signs, what they are, what to look out for,
make sure you watch this video. I'll put a link in the description below. It'll help you a ton!
Okay, my next pro flirting tip is to remember to keep
in mind that by nature, flirting is very playful.
You kind of have to embrace the playfulness if you're going to
flirt. This makes it a whole lot more fun and also helps her avoid being freaked out.
Like, for instance, let me show you an example. If somebody says, "Hey, you're cute~" it's kind
of playful and fun. But if it's like, "Hey, you're cute..." like, that's creepy, right?
Now there are a million ways you could say that line, but keeping it playful is what
helps her know, "Oh, he's flirting, he's lighthearted. This is a good experience."
So let yourself relax and just enjoy the flirting
experience because it is a very enjoyable experience.
When we're flirting, some of the things we say and/or do might seem a little bit silly. You don't
wanna go immature, but a little bit silly, and that's totally okay. That's part of the process.
Something I teach my clients in my Academy is that sometimes we just have to accept the fear.
Sometimes we just have to accept the fact that we're nervous, that we're scared, and it's okay.
So sometimes fighting it is the worst thing you can do. Sometimes you just have to acknowledge,
"Yeah, I'm nervous," because guess what, she is too. It's just part of the process.
So when you just kind of say, "You know what? It's okay if I'm nervous about this. I'm just
gonna relax. I'm just gonna be playful. I'm just gonna have fun," that's how you
set yourself up for success, and it's going to make her feel so much better as well.
You don't have to be perfect at this. She's not going to
be perfect at this. Just have fun with it.
Another reason why this is so effective is because playful people are just more fun to
be around. People who are lighthearted and positive. As a matter of fact,
this is one of the things that matters most to a woman who's looking for a lifelong partner.
And by the way, speaking about what women want in a man, can I just tell you? Can I just come clean?
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Most of what you're hearing about how women think and what women want
is catered to toxic women, or women who are only looking for one-night
flings. They're not looking for lifelong, forever, tender love.
So if you are longing for that tender love, to look into her eyes and know she's yours forever,
to wake up with her by your side every single morning,
if that's you, then you need to understand that what you've been
taught and what you've been told to a large extent is just not true.
This is one of the main reasons why I became a coach, why I created my Academy
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Okay, my next pro flirting tip is to remember that flirting is always
positive, okay? You should always talk positive about yourself and about her.
You never want to tease in a way that puts yourself down. Something that would be like,
"Oh, I'm just not very attractive," or, "Oh,
I'm not very smart," or something like that. Something that puts yourself down.
As humans, we are attracted to and drawn to people
who are confident. We feel good when we're around them.
When somebody puts themselves down, it makes us feel uncomfortable and we don't really know
what to do. And so this will cause people to just kind of do something else and pull away.
So you wanna make sure you're always being positive about yourself. You deserve that!
Be confident about who you are. You're amazing.
You also wanna make sure you're never putting her down in any way. Some people try to be clever,
and it comes across as very belittling instead of uplifting and complimentary.
Flirting is always positive, okay? Always, always,
always a positive thing. It should uplift both people.
Because, you've heard me say it,
people like people who make them feel good. And flirting is just a feel-good experience.
Now that doesn't mean you just bow down and let
her walk all over you and shower her with flattery.
No, that's not what it means at all.
It just means to keep it uplifting and positive. That is what's going to make her want to be with
you more and more and more, and make you play in her mind like a broken record.
My next pro flirting tip is to remember that the entire purpose of flirting is to express interest.
As a matter of fact, if you're not expressing interest, you're not actually flirting.
The whole goal here is to let her know you're interested in her,
and also get her attention in a way that makes her more and more attracted to you.
That's what flirting is for!
If you've been following me here for a while, and certainly if you've been in
my Academy you've heard me say this, women are ridiculously attracted to a man who pursues them.
As a matter of fact, when she's interested in a man and he starts
pursuing her, that attraction just skyrockets!
It's something that women have as a need in a relationship,
and so you become irresistible as you start to pursue her.
And one simple way to pursue is to flirt. This is why I have an entire
lesson in my Academy on how to flirt successfully and really enchant her,
as well as how to pursue and really become irresistible to her that way.
These are powerful tools, and it doesn't have to be a hard thing. As a matter of fact,
it becomes a very, very fun thing and a very, very exciting thing.
And to learn more about my Academy and how you can join me there,
you will learn more about that in that free masterclass as well.
Okay, I have an important tip that not enough people know. Please pay
close attention to this because this is critical!
You don't have to be in love with someone to flirt with them.
Sometimes we feel like if we've flirted with someone, oh my goodness, it's a
lifetime commitment. No, we flirt with people to see if we want to get to know them better.
Now, if you decide you're not interested, the flirting needs to stop.
However, if you're just getting to know someone, you're curious if this will work, you think
she's cute, you want her to think you are cute, yeah, do some flirting and see where this goes.
So please never feel like it's a commitment if you're flirting. You
are probably gonna flirt with a lot of people before you find the right one.
The key is once you know you're not interested,
stop flirting. And ideally you will be interested and it will just get even better from there.
Okay, my next tip is that flirting should happen through the entire
relationship. So start practicing now!
Can you imagine how boring a relationship would
be if you were flirting and it was exciting and fun when you were dating,
and then you get married and the romance and the flirting and the fun just kind of dies?
A lot of people think that this is normal and they expect it. And
because they expect it, they actually create it.
That's not what you want!
Instead, imagine a relationship where when you first start dating,
it's exciting and it's fun and there's flirting and it only gets better from there,
and it only becomes more magical from there~
Is that the kind of relationship you want?
Well, the way you do this is by doing the same things you did when you were
dating. You keep flirting, you keep making it fun, you keep making each other a priority.
So realize and know that flirting should happen through the entire relationship. So start now!
The earlier you start in the relationship,
the more you've set that pattern, and it makes it easier to continue it into marriage.
Quick question before we get to our next pro tip.
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Okay, this next flirting tip is going to surprise some people. This tip is to avoid banter.
Banter is not flirting. It's bantering. There's a big, big difference! Bantering
is contentious by nature and becomes manipulative very, very quickly.
There's a lot of pressure and a lot of videos and a lot of blog
posts and everything about bantering. People call it "flirtatious bantering."
The reason why is a lot of people get a rush out of bantering, and they like that rush.
However, unless a woman is a drama queen, banter is never going to attract her to you. Okay? I know
that happens in the videos, in the movies, but it's not real life. Unless she's a drama queen,
banter will never attract her to you. As a matter of fact, it will push a good woman away.
Banter never makes someone want to spend time with you. So what do you do instead?
Instead, you wanna focus on creating chemistry. When we have chemistry with someone, they become
addicting in a delightful, exciting way, and we can't wait to spend more time with them~
Where banter just kind of makes us irritated and angry, and that's not what you want.
So focus instead on creating that chemistry. That's what creates that intense attraction
that makes a woman eventually fall in love with you, which is the whole goal!
So let me ask you. Do you want to create
that chemistry? Do you want to have that connection with her?
These are things I help you master in my Academy. And to learn more
about these powerful, life-changing secrets that most people don't know,
go to CoachMelannie.com/Masterclass and I will explain how you can join me and everything
good you're going to learn there in that masterclass as well, so make sure you watch it.
Okay, let's sum up the pro tips you just learned about flirting!
Number one is to break the ice and then say something flirty. Don't just go all
in with something flirty. You wanna break the ice and show her you're not weird first.
Number two is to look for the signs she's interested and then start flirting. This helps
you avoid rejection and helps you make sure she feels safe about getting to know you and flirting.
Next up, remember that flirting is playful by nature. You have to kind of embrace the
playfulness in order for flirting to work. So just let yourself embrace it!
Number four, flirting is always positive.
It's never about putting you down or putting her down or anything
else down. It should always be uplifting and positive and make both of you feel energized.
Next up, the entire purpose of flirting is to express interest. If you're not
expressing interest, you're really not flirting. So the whole goal here is to
express that interest, which also helps capture her attention more and more.
Next up, flirting should happen through the entire relationship, so start practicing now!
And make sure you are avoiding banter. Banter is banter. Flirting is flirting. Don't confuse the
two! You wanna create chemistry, and flirting is one fabulous way to start doing that.
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