Hey, this is Robert Smith in Oklahoma in
the backyard. I've been asking answering
questions that people have written me.
And I have one question here says,"Hi,
Robert. I saw your video with Karen on
with body dysmorphic disorder. I found it
fantastic. I myself live in County Cork
Ireland which I, I've known you visit in
one of your, your videos. But I suffer
from body dysmorphic disorder myself. I
need help badly and the problem is based
around my, my buttocks. One being bigger
than the other. And people have told me
that. And they're not but they're not so,
And people have told me that. They're not.
So that's where the body dysmorphic
comes from. If you can, can you please
help me in advice." All right. So what is
body dysmorphic disorder? Now the
interesting thing is, it's not a disorder.
It's a talent. It's something people do
within their minds. That means, like with
Karen, the video on YouTube, Karen, what
she had, I didn't know she had body
dysmorphic disorder when she came to see
me. I didn't know it. I didn't know what
that was. But I do know when I was
working with her. And it's very common.
I'd venture to say everyone of you
listening, has a distorted view about
your body. A lot of people dislike their
bodies. They're gonna, they got straight
hair, they wish it's curly. If their nose
is too big, the body is big too small, or
too thin like their mother, they distort
themselves and they dislike themselves.
And let's say you do have a lazy eye or
one buttock is bigger than the other one,
breast is bigger, or your, are the
some kind of something that's wrong with
your body that you think. Here's the deal.
It's what you do in your mind. It's the
emotions and feelings you feel and
internalize about yourself. My opinion is,
is learn how to accept your body, not
just try to accept your body but release
the emotions, the judgments and the
attitudes, and the stories and the
memories in and around this part of your
body.
That means love your body. You know what
if you have a disfigurement,
so what? Love that disfigurement. These
experiences are going to help you become
a greater person. These experiences will
help you become miserable. It all depends
on what you're doing about this.
Granted. There's no one perfect body on
earth. There's none. They're all have
imperfections. And your body is perfect
the way it is. Love it. Like it and
approve it. How do you do that? First
thing is, what I recommend and what I
did in weight loss seminars, is look at your
body,
tap out any emotions and feelings you
have about it.
Look at it. Tap it. Go to the stories you
heard about it. Tap it. Go back to what
people said about it. Tap on it. Change
the words. Change the memory. Change the
reference. And the cool thing is, is the
more you tap on it, the more it will
disappear and you'll even forget that is
even there. If you love your body. You
love yourself. If you curse your body
you're cursed yourself.
Body dysmorphic disorder is a talent.
It's a skill. It's a process. It's a
judgment. It's a rehearsal of what other
people have said and done. Change it. And
how you change it, is you keep tapping.
Keep tapping on it. So what, if you have
something bigger or a cut or a scar or a
disfigurement, love yourself. Because your
joy is not determined by what you look
like or how you look or what other
people think, is determined by the value
you hold within you. That's it. So I
recommend looking at the mirror, tap on
any emotions and feelings with it. Tap on
your judgment. Tap on the stories. And
when you look at yourself, think happy
thoughts. Say I love you. I accept you. I
appreciate you. You're amazing
over and over again. And if anybody says
anything, tap on that. Because see, these
pieces that stick out, draws attention.
Use this to help you heal and become a
great person. There's a lot of people who
have been disfigured, crippled and about
severe stuff and they became great.
Not because of their attitude against
their body but in spite of it, they use
this as a healing catalyst to become
great. And only the good people, the
people who appreciate the real you will
love you and accept you as you are
because you love you as you are. I hope
this helped you.
Body dysmorphic disorder is not a
disorder. It's a talent. Most people have
the same attitude and the same belief
and structure within their minds about
themselves. So learn to like yourself and
accept yourself for as you are. Because
you're amazing. You're alive. You're
breathing and life is for you. Robert
Smith. Peace out.
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