- I don't even have a guess. - No, same.
- I couldn't even... - I'm completely out.
- How do these words come about? Do people come together and like,
(stately voice) "We need to come up with 'stashing.'"
♪ (dramatic chord) ♪
- (FBE) So today, we are going to show you some recent dating trends
that people deal with in today's dating scene.
- Oh, sweet Jesus. - Ooh. Fun.
- We're not the couple to talk about dating trends.
- We are so out of the loop.
Six years out of the loop! We missed Tinder
and all of that stuff. - I haven't even swiped.
- (FBE) So, we're gonna be talking about the terminology itself.
So what we're gonna do is we are going to show you
some dating terms and see if you guys can define them.
- All right. - Okay.
- I can't wait. - We're not trendy and hip anymore,
like, we don't know. - Uh, I am.
- This is going to date us so horribly.
- Was that a date pun? - Pun intended!
- (FBE) Once you're done guessing, we'll show you the real definition.
Now with these terms, the definition varies a little bit depending
on who you ask, but we've defined these
either from a direct source or from a consensus
of what we found online. - Okay. Good.
- Who know the dating scene better? - I feel like I'm gonna get it.
- (FBE) The first word is benching. - Benching.
My gut reaction was just kissing on a bench.
- This one's, like, sitting it out.
You're like, oh, we're all gonna go out,
we're gonna get some dates.
"That's all right, I'm benching it."
- Benching is when you get rejected from getting asked for a date.
You've benched your date. - I think benching is when
you are in a fight, and you try not to say something too mean,
so you're like, "I just benched you."
- When you're on a date, and the dude does one of these.
Like, you're sitting on a bench together.
- Okay, so this is when you're actually dating
more than one person, and you bench somebody
in between dating other people. - Okay.
- I think it's when you're dating multiple people,
and some of them are getting kind of boring,
so you bench them for a bit. - When you're maybe on Tinder
or something, and you're swiping multiple people and then, like,
there's some you really like, and then there's some
that they're there, and you can
just use them whenever you need. - Oh, the benchers?
- Is that the act of having a bunch of guys or girls
and then you choose one who's in play?
- Benching is probably-- you wanna make sure
that yourw mate has good core strength.
They go on their hands and knees as if they were a bench,
and you sit on them. I am a master bencher.
- It all makes sense now. (laughs) - Yeah.
- (FBE) Here's the definition. - "Benching is when you date someone,
but you aren't really into them, so you keep them around
as an option, but never commit."
- So it's like baseball. You keep one person on the side or something.
- That sounds awful! - (laughs) That's so bad.
- If you're not really interested, don't keep 'em around.
That would be my advice to a person.
- Are you benching me? - I'm not benching you!
- Am I a bench? - You're not benched!
- (FBE) Next term is stashing. - Ooh.
- Stashing. Like, if I were to bring my stuff to have at your place.
- I'm gonna go with the innocent version
of stashing presents away, so whenever she comes home,
you just have a stash of stuff that you can give her.
- You have a whole roster of people. You're stashing up your options.
- That's when you're rocking a mustache.
- Stashing. - Ooh, I'm stashing right now.
- It's when you have a mustache, and you're kissing.
- You're dating multiple people,
and you're keeping 'em secret, like you're stashing
a few people in the... - (whispers) Trouble.
- Stashing is when you take somebody's phone number,
and then you hold onto it... - Oh, that's good.
- ...for a long time. You stash it away. (laughs)
- That's actually much better than anything I could come up with.
- So say you have a very attractive person
that you're dating, and you go into a party, and you stash them away
so that other people don't see them and try to, you know,
take your significant other. - I can only imagine it
from a narcissistic perspective, where someone's like, "You're mine.
I'm gonna stash you away 'cause I'll keep you forever."
- (FBE) Here's the definition. - "Stashing is when you're
in a relationship with someone, and you refuse to introduce them
to your friends and family,
mostly because you view the person as temporary."
Wow, so we were way off. - We were way off, yeah.
- Nobody gets that point. - Yeah.
- God. - Oh my god. That's dark!
- That is sad. - Imagine being stashed.
- If you don't wanna introduce them to your friends and family,
you might as well just end it. - How do these words come about?
Do people come together and like,
(stately voice) "We need to come up with 'stashing.'"
- Love bombing. (laughs) - Love bombing.
Whenever you go all out, and it's a bunch of little presents.
- Basically, you're just really extra.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- Honestly, I can agree with that. - You express your love
to this new person by giving them all sorts of that social media love,
and you use a lot of emojis. - I was gonna say
something very similar, but I was gonna say via text.
- Love bombing is when you drop the L word for the first time.
- That was what I was gonna say! - Because that's a big moment.
- Or it's too soon. - When someone drops the L bomb,
and the other person's not ready. - They're like, "Ay, girl,
I love you!" - My guess is that
it's when one person maybe likes the other person more,
and you just are showing them so much affection.
- Maybe bombing is bad, so when you're doing really bad
on a date or something?
Like you're love bombing? - Oh yeah. You're bombing on a--
- You just aren't really finding a match.
- Where you love them too much to make them go away.
Where you overwhelm them like, "Let's talk marriage.
Let's-- babies! Let's"-- - Babbies?
- How many babbies do you want? Do you want like 10 babbies?
- Many, many babbies. - I'll carry half.
You carry the other half? - Yeah, like a seahorse.
- Maybe photobombing? Like standing in the background, being like,
"Hey, guys! Me. Like, I'm here too." - When you go in for a kiss,
and then someone sneaks in between the two people.
- (laughs) Does that happen a lot? - "Love bombing typically occurs
in whirlwind romances where one partner
will try to influence a person with affection, attention,
presents, and promises about the future."
- I feel like that was pretty accurate.
I mean, you could do that via text,
you could do it via social media.
- So this is somebody that is, you know, insecure and afraid
that person's gonna leave, so then they just pile it on.
- Ohhh. That's manipulation. - You were kind of right.
Like the clingy person. You said clingy.
- Kind of, but that sounds like you're throwing things
at them for them to like you. - I know, this is like
a sugar daddy thing? - I would never have guessed that.
- I don't think the definition fits. - I like mine better.
Mine's so much better. - Yeah, I think that
makes more sense to me, yeah. - Right?
- I don't even have a guess. - No, same.
- I couldn't even... - I'm completely out.
- (both) Gatsbying? - Oh, I don't know.
- That's when-- that's like
when you just have a bunch of parties all the time?
- That's when you pretend you're rich!
- (laughs) Oh my god, yes! - That's when you lavish her
with champagne. Um... - I actually totally agree with this.
- You have a crush on someone, but you're too scared
to bring them one-on-one, so you throw a huge party,
and invite them and kind of they see that you're this party guy,
you have all these friends. - Sort of flamboyantly showing off
your riches. - Yes!
Leonardo DiCaprio.
- (laughs) So your definition of Gatsbying is Leonardo DiCaprio.
- "Gatsbying. Posting to social media
and then waiting for that one specific person to check it out..."
- "...is the modern day equivalent of Gatsby throwing elaborate parties
seeking Daisy's attention."
- Ahh. - Ohh!
(clicks tongue) I didn't even think about social media.
Oh gosh, I'm out of the game.
- What an interesting literary reference.
This was not the direction I was expecting this to take.
'Cause this is like the theme of the [bleep] book,
and I'm thinking people will
take the more shallow, superficial end of it.
- (FBE) Final term is submarining. - Oh.
- This is having a secret relationship.
- Some kind of form of hiding from the relationship in some way.
- In a submarine, you're underwater, but you can breathe,
so maybe you're like-- you both hate each other,
but there's still some air.
- Yeah, I think it's maybe when you're drowning
in a relationship you don't wanna be in.
- You lay low off the radar,
and then you come in for a sneak attack.
- When you find the love of your life while in a submarine.
- (laughs) - When you're lurking profiles
and people and tweets and posts and such,
but you're not too active. You don't like the Instagram photo,
but you're aware that this person exists,
and you're waiting for that moment to surface.
- "Submarining is when somebody you're talking to or dating
suddenly cuts all ties and communication with you,
but ends up contacting you at a later time."
(deep inhale) Hmm... okay.
- That happened in your past relationship.
- There we go. I've been submarined.
- This has happened to some of our friends
who have told us about their dating. - Oh yeah!
- They're like-- some, they totally get ghosted,
then a couple months later, they get the Snapchat at 3 a.m.
- Oh, that always happens. You always contact the person
you break up with at least one more time.
- You're a submarine captain. - Hey. Maybe doe.
- (FBE) So overall, who do you think was better
at figuring out these definitions? - (both) Hmm.
- I feel we were both equally wrong and equally right.
- Not a good look for us. - It's very sad indeed.
- Oh well. - We did horribly.
- I think we did kind of good. We have friends who date on Tinder
and stuff, so we've heard all of the stories,
we know some of the terms.
- We tied in our losingness. - Our failure, yeah.
- Good job, babe. - I'm okay with that!
- (both) Yeah. - We're both losers.
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